Is being too nice a bad thing?
@sunnystarfish (210)
Philippines
August 17, 2011 7:57pm CST
I think when you're too nice, sometimes people get to abuse your kindness. I just don't get why there are people who act like that. Well personally I treat everyone I meet in a nice way. I always believe that each one of us is good by nature. I try to figure out why a certain person acts that way maybe because he/she did not have a great childhood. Or rather he/she experienced something really traumatic that made him/her to be such a person. Oh well, whatever it is they are going through I pray that they will have a peace of mind and think positive in every single way. I think there's nothing wrong with being a positive thinker.
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18 responses
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Too much of anything has a disadvantage. And as like you've said, people have a tendency to take us for granted if they learn we care too much or we are too nice. We should learn to limit when to help and when to let people be, otherwise we will find ourselves in the end disappointed.
@scjbxz (139)
• United States
18 Aug 11
I don't think that there's anything wrong in being nice; however, too much kindness can become an issue if one isn't able to disagree or say no anymore. For me, I find it hard to express my "darker" feelings here and there. If someone asks me for something, and I don't believe it's a big deal, I won't say no to them, whereas others would downright object to the idea. I need to practice declining others and whatnot, because sometimes, being nice can start to become being a pushover to others..
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
18 Aug 11
I don't think being too nice is a bad thing,but it has its disadvantages.People who try to be nice to all those they interact with should be aware that they won't be treated with the same kindness all the time,and indeed some individuals will abuse their kindness.I admire persons who are kind to everyone,and I admit I can't be like them,I'm only kind to people who are kind to me as well.Anyway,maybe one day most people will learn to respect and tolerate each other and,even if a world in which all people are nice to the others is an utopia,we'll get at least closer to a better world.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
There's really nothing wrong of being a positive thinker!
Well, I treat everyone I meet nicely too. I just also don't get where they get their guts to be mean to others..
I've experienced being humiliated a lot of times but I just don't mind them because if I let myself get affected to it, I am the only one who'll suffer!
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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18 Aug 11
Yes that's true sometimes, being nice is a good thing. Other times, it gives nasty people a chance to walk all over you.
You need to go with your gut feeling. If being nice makes you feel good about yourself then go for it. and that's right nothing wrong with being a positive thinker actually being optimist is a good trait.
@lloyd1977 (46)
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18 Aug 11
sunnystarfish i think you are right,if we all thought of others a bit more or did things for others with out thinking then it would be a better world. i did'nt have a great upbringing and i left home when i was ten i know i could be a very angry person but i say we only have one life live be happy in all we are and do,but even thou i have been misunderstood i always see the best in people and i try to help people all the time but a lot of people abuse my good nature but they don't faze me this is me and if they don't like me and how i am then all i can do is try and help/educate them
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
18 Aug 11
I am also one of those people that are really genuinely nice and yes I for one have had people abuse my niceness in the past and im sure in the future as well. I think that it could be for many reasons and sometimes for no real reason at all rather than the fact that they can just get away with it because of your niceness towards others. Regardless I love to do what I can for my friends and less fortunate as we all deserve someone to be nice now and then
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Aug 11
I think its nature which is based on actions and reactions and we all have to live with that. Cheers
@mmespino (77)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
All "too" much is bad. be it a food, work, etc.
To be kind to all people that you've meet is not bad however showing them too much kindness is another issue. There is a (greater) tendency that you will be taken advantage. They may abuse your kindness. Like getting angry is not bad but too much of it will cause trouble.
I think we must know how to give limitations to all the things that we do.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
18 Aug 11
being too nice is a good thing shows you have manners sometimes people can take advantage of that especially the people around us like friends and family. I happen to be a very nice person and I get told that a lot. Sometimes if me and my friends come down to some disagreement like they would yell at me but with other people who aren't nice they would talk calmly with them I feel like I get yelled at because they know that I'm nice and wont do anything. I think people see nice people as being a sign of vulnerable and weakness.
@dodo19 (47050)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Aug 11
I do think that it can be a good thing, but at times, it might not be a good thing. Like you said, some people will take advantage of people who are too kind. I just don't understand how some people can do this sort of thing. It's just unfair how sometimes this happens. It really shouldn't though.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 11
i do agree with your saying. i think i'm quite nice. i always try to treat people kindly, but they often treat me in a bad way. since i ever thought that it's not important to be nice to other people anymore! just like you i also wonder why people could do that? don't they think that every person has feeling? it must be hurt when you have been nice but they treat you bad. yeah, not everyone did that. so, the best way, i think, is we should choose our friend carefully..:)
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Definitely nothing wrong with being a positive thinker. Lots of people told me that my being good-natured is subject to a lot of abuse and yes i tend to get that all the time. But i'm not changing just because others abused me. That would only make me quit being their friends.
But unlike you, i don't have the patience to understand other people. Especially if they don't allow me to understand them.
@bessyjanmayi (278)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
Being too nice is not a bad thing. The bad thing about it is that, people take an advantage of your kindness or goodness. Yet for me, it is still good to be nice to everyone.
