Life is fair or unfair?

Malaysia
August 19, 2011 11:29pm CST
I always get people stared at me when I go out to eat, shop, or pumping petrol. No, I am a local people born in my country 30 years ago. I don't have any weird signs on my face either. The question is am I look weird or disturbing? My friends all are succeeded in their career with a not serious attitude and not even good looks. What I mean is they talk free in what they want to say, do as what they want even in the office but the boss just salute them. I am not jealous but wonder is this the right attitude to be a successful person? If yes, I will adjust myself.
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@isloooboy (1738)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Aug 11
As per job is concern than bosses always love those who work with their capacity means they give 100% to their work when its work time and also they know well about their job like how to done and what have to do so its natural they will talk freely to their boss as well because they know their worth and their boss as well. First thing first, I never give any chance to my boss regarding my job is concern but I never allow him too to talk any rubbish with me. So yes he not only like me but loves my work as well. So this world is not fair with those who are not fair with their job or with themselves first. So be fare and get fair chance :D cheers
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@katie0 (5204)
• Japan
21 Aug 11
I think it's fair because I believe in reincarnation but it clearly seems unfair because we don't remember it. I believe God is perfect so if He is there's a great reason for everything. I even don't think He punishes us.
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
you right, every thing in this earth have own time, God have plan to us, for the better than she achieved now. wait your time no more dissaponinted
@dorannmwin (36393)
• United States
24 Aug 11
I don't think that life is necessarily fair, but the reason that I don't think it is fair is not the same reason as what you are talking about here. You know, I was only fourteen years old when my father passed away and that made a tremendous impact on my life, in fact, it almost cost me a friendship with a friend of mine because she had both of her parents and I did not. However, I found out that her father is a terrible person and it would have been more fair for her father to have been taken and for mine to have been spared.
@FickleSky (140)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Be your own self and you'll find true happiness and success there! :)
21 Aug 11
Well, I do agree with FickleSky. Being yourself will allow you to find that happiness. Life is a tough game - it can be unfair sometimes. However, that only depends on which side of life you are looking at. If you keep on looking the traits of others and compare it to yourself, you are just putting pressure on yourself simply because you find theirs seem better than yours. Being yourself and minding the traits of others will make you more carefree. Being carefree attracts people because they can see that you are in control of yourself. Being in control of yourself means you can handle tough situations - which is a plus for any employers out there. Hence, you can each success and happiness :)
@JasperTore (1284)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
You should not be bother of those things since you are different from everyone. Be yourself and succeed in your own way. We have our own may of doing things. For example when I have an exam, I prefer studying the night before and in early morning. I can absorb and understand the lessons well when I'm doing it. For others, they need a lot of time to understand the lessons so weeks before the exam they are already reviewing to compensate the lack of understanding.
22 Aug 11
i think you just imagine people are looking at you.. it's a known fact that more self aware we are, the more aware we are of other people.. for example if you were to go somewhere with your head held high, full of confidence, you wouldn't even notice anyone else around you.. but having your head down, and watching all around you.. you are looking at other people, who are looking at you, and you are getting yourself worked up and paranoid. i mean you obviously see those people looking at you? well they see you looking at them! and they may be thinking the same thing! .. just be yourself, completely! and you will suceed! .. you don't want to suceed as anyone else but yourself!
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
we are the same situation. I don`t have any insecurity in other but its not prevented to ave insecure. I ask my self im better than her why she got promoted n our office. I do all my best even i always over time,sometime my overtime does not pay. Its every things oke to me, its a call of duty. in that time i have guilty to my self why she got promoted than me. For me life its so unfair..But im not lose my hope maybe its not my time.
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
It seems you've been having a tough time there. I believe you have a job, right? so there's nothing that you should do to compare yourself with others. besides, let them have those compliment to themselves, just work hard the way you know it most specially if you're doing it right. who knows, you know people succeeds when they least expect it. Have a nice day
@bounce58 (17392)
• Canada
20 Aug 11
If you work in a big company, or even in an environment where there are a lot of people, I think you really have to develop yourself to be a little more aggresive. To mean what you say, and say what you mean. Sometimes people sense others who are pushovers, and they do just that. You have to callous enough to stand up for your self and achieve your own success.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 11
no, that not is successful person, that just a lucky. if you think life is unfair, so, think this words "your life is your rule, your future is what you choose today" if you just think to success just in financial, that easy. but you same like other people who doesn't have a serious attitude in life. so, think once again to change your priority.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
20 Aug 11
Always be yourself with an appropriate approach of respect towards others. One can only be true to ourselves being the one we are meant to be. Having a positive attitude is a good quality. Do you very best always is a gift. If like is fair or unfair is up to each one to decide.
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Well you just have to know your capabilities and use your strength for being successful in life. If people always stare at you at times then that must mean that you are a good looking person. Find a career that may suit you. Perhaps, being successful depends on you. You just have to be determined and focus and always stay positive to have the right attitude.