To stay or to Walk away?

Hi Nurseclare, thank you for your time. I think that is what i am giving him right now. I never thought i would be this strong. Maybe That is God's wake up call for the both of us, maybe we are meant for each other but we just have to keep trying harder to make it work I've never seen him this sincere and this "intense" in letting me know he'd never let anyone get in between us again. And yes, I think I am going to give him another chance. This is what my heart is tellingme right now. I have got to trust my Heart.

Good to hear that from you.Stay strong and stay faithful. godbless

Haha, revenge through jealousy! Though it is a good tactic because if he does become protective and jealous, it means that he still has feelings for you. Everyone deserves a second chance because we're all human and we make mistakes. You got to build on that trust and see where it takes you in the relationship. Who said life was easy? =)

Thanks Sharkbait for your response too! =) He he You know, Just as a friend told me. It is not always true that once he's cheated on you, he'd be doing it again. People when they accept to change... they will change and they become better. I hope he chooses the right path. I told him never to waste the trust i am giving him again. I told him he'd never get near me ever again if there's just one slight hint of this happening again, this time my family would know and we can never fix it. (he knows how my mom would react he's pleaded me never to tell my mom). hehe Thank you also for your concern.. Yes, I will be careful this time. Really really careful.

hehe i think he is more afraid of my mom. my mom would definitely kick his butt without hesitation. ;)

I wonder whom he is afraid of. Is he afraid to you or your mom? (just kidding)

Hi Secretbear, I really feel you are a very close friend to me. I sincerely do. I've seen your replies in the previous discussions i created... he he My friends have left the decision to me. They just told me they know i can deal with this, that i am mature enough. I want to be able to prove that yes, I am making a decision. I wish to make the right one though. At the end of the day, if i walk away, seeing him looking like that (sincere and regretful) I might look at the day i walked away and wonder what would have been if i chose to forgive and give him another chance. I am taking a risk too, Not walking away and "waste" time to see if he will live up to the promise he made... But I guess that's the risk I am willing to take. Somehow, the years we had, the days we shared, there are a lot of truths, love, respect, and future in it.. i know, my heart knows, and it tells me to give him another chance. If he blew it up again, then I know I'd never be confused again and Im gone. God will help me, and May God also help him see his mistakes and learn from it, and value me more than ever.

oh yeah i think i gave him a chance, only took two months... and i thought and said to myself, i no longer need this kind of situation. i do not need this stress, and i do not need someone who would leave me and decide to be with another woman when i am not around, or free to do his bidding. no way i will be a doormat. so there God indeed helped me afterall and he opened my eyes.

Aw, I'm glad you think of me as a friend. I don't like thinking What ifs..., too at the end. So I guess you have decided to give him another chance? Taking the risk is a very brave thing to do. I guess you love him that much to take the risk and there's nothing wrong with that. But don't you think it's a little too early? I mean, don't you want him to chop woods for you first before you forgive him? And yes, we can just hope and pray to God that he will never do that mistake again. God will find away to make him learn from his mistakes.

i think i did know him, but then when i got to know about the cheating, i have really seen him differently. i never saw this side of him and i was so surprised and confused if he deserves the chance... i think out of pity for what he was doing(showing he will change and the crying moments and all) i did give him a chance, but then now... thinking about it i think i really shouldn't have. i mean that is because it can never work - when trust is broken, then it is so hard to be covered up.

oh yeah, i think i would be able to get past the situation and not think of the cheating and the betrayal... i guess not so i had to just let it go and walk away from the relationship. i think it wiill never work anyway because i have lost trust in him already and that i have already seen him differently. its like i do not know him anymore.

Since it has been a year already does this mean that you are not him anymore??

Hi SimplyD. all the best to you and your husband. I think no matter how we have shortcomings, we should never be cheated on. Do not think you have brought this unto yourself. because he could have chosen to tell you and help you provide what else he needs. I told my BF that too. I told him if there something that you still need, still do not see in me, that you want to try if other girls would be able to give to you. But then, he said no, he was just too weak. I hope, Like you I won't regret giving him another chance.

oh, even so.. i think he could have just called it quits with you... instead of cheating on you, right? no matter how or why they cheated on us, i guess eventually it will already be pointless and what should matter is that we are able to release ourselves from the burden of this negative feeling. glad to have you in the topic discussion. and thank you for sharing these with us. :D

you were lucky enough to have a wonderful wife that accepted you and gave you another chance. I hope you will never betray this trust again, the next time around you may not get lucky. best regards to you and your family.

yeah, i think i know him, for 3 years... but i never really thought there was this side to him that would be so like this, betraying me and taking me for someone who can be fooled and cheated on. i could not even look into his eyes and be sure that he is not lying to me - he sure has dne and has been lying to me each and every time we were together for the last year.... so i thought it is not worth it anymore.

oh hi koperty3. I always have said that i will never forgive the person who cheated on me. but i did manage to forgive him - but onlly to that level and that we shouldn't go on and continue with a defunct relationship like that. i have never thought someone who loves you will be capable of doing this to you.. and the relationship indeed is not worth anything at all if your partner betrays you like that. thank you for your response.

yeah, it was the first time he cheated on me. but it got me to think really, because then, i think i did know him, but then when i got to know about the cheating, i have really seen him differently already - like he became someone i do not know... a stranger. because i never saw this side of him and i was so surprised and confused if he deserves the chance... i think out of pity for what he was doing(showing he will change and the crying moments and all) i did give him a chance, but then now... thinking about it i think i really shouldn't have. i mean that is because it can never work - when trust is broken, then it is so hard to be covered up.

oh yeah, i think i did gave him the chance he wanted, but he never changed and never showed he was really sorry... or maybe i was too demanding asking for him to put me first in everything - as a consequence to what he has done to me. hehe :D but i walked away anyway as i think it is not going to work, anyway.