How to deal with pride people in your workplace?

Malaysia
August 23, 2011 4:12am CST
In my workplace when we free, there is nothing going on but when we are working as usual, my colleagues seems to have a pride when asking me something or talking to me as if she is a queen delegating work to a slave. I don't like that pride gets in the way when working coz it brings unhealthy environment. When we are too busy, she always bang the door and throw the file on the table in front of me. But my boss did nothing. Should I resign? I want to get out of the office as soon as possible knowing I am new here and this really affecting me getting no peace at work. I won't have a chance of peace at work rather than working there like a slave. Meanwhile I would like to join freelance work like computer or direct selling like AMWAY for a better promotion and quality of life.
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9 responses
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Ouch, she is really not a good co-worker. If I am in your place she will get something from me no matter how senior she is. I will not give my respect for those people who behave such to me. Is it because you looks like someone who she can easily throw her pride just like that because she know you will not fight back?? You need to be more strict and asked her to respect you friend. It is not wrong to asked her to do so~
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
When work, I don't know and she kinda bully. I think she feels that I lack of self defense though. She sees it from my face, da*g!
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Then you should show your fiercest face to them so they will not dare to bully you anymore!
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
yes. That's how I think I will do to get some rights and peace.
23 Aug 11
I don’t think you should resign and then maybe leave yourself with no job and no money.. why won’t you try saving? And as soon as you have enough saved up that covers your rent or mortgage and bills etc of food.. just what you would normally live off, for 2 months, then quit? Say you use £700 a month, for bills and rent etc.. well as soon as you have £1400 saved up, so you can be comfortably unemployed for 2 months to find a new job, or earn at home or whatever, then think about quitting? No point in doing it now and then being in a really bad position!
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Yes, at this time I am still living with my parents, so no rent pay needed, but for food and petrol is necessary. I will try to save as much as I can although I have a trouble for patience.
23 Aug 11
try and be patient and just stick at it because you know it'll be good in the long run!!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
23 Aug 11
wongchoiyee, IMO, nothing. As long as you are not being unfairly treated or harassed sexually or physically there's really not anything you can do about it. Delegating work despite of outstanding work still in your hands does not have any legitimate grounds of putting your colleagues in any fault. On the other hand, they can turn around to point out incompetence on your part. So, don't let whatever get into you to affect your work performance and most of all, your good mood. If you have any legitimate grounds of unfair and hostile treatment, then complain by all means. If not, lay your peace and complete your task(s) at hand, leaving no grounds for them to complain about you. Don't quit. Lastly, there's nothing anyone can stop you from quitting your company but whatever you do, make sure you have a job before quitting. Times are tough and I am sure you are aware of the bleak labor market during these times. Amway or any other direct selling program may be considered but still, it would be wise to work it on the side until you get the ropes of the trade and establish yourself.
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Doing nothing? I am like a boneka being mold here and there.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
23 Aug 11
Before you quit your day job try doing direct selling in your off hours. I think you will find it a great challenge and it will take time to build enough business to live off of it. All jobs are lessons in how to get along with people, look upon yours that way, set yourself a goal to befriend the employee who annoys you the most. It will give you an new point of view. Who knows maybe she is so worried you will succeed and she will fail that she is trying to make you quit.
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
I feel that too that she is trying over me and deep down inside I won't forgive her unless she says sorry and change her attitude.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Aug 11
If I am in your place, will call back the person, who ever it may bay, I will do either of the following: 1) I just don't care what he/she does (if it happens not because of my mistake) 2) hello, please come back and get back your papers (easing) 3) Report to the senior or reporting manager/person whoever it is. 4) If there is no person as such, report the incident to the HR or any higher executive authority. 5) If you are a subordinate or junior level person, the best way is not at all react or respond whatever those people do. Let them come and collect the papers. If it is of your mistake, be cautious to not to repeat the mistakes and be prompt as much as you can or possible. In fact he and you are just employees of the company and you NEED NOT to resign or quit from the job. That means you are scared of something or someone and due to their trouble you just evade the situation by doing a WRONG thing. Just be stable and survive. Always there may be someone to do that. Just ignore and see what you feel good. Or if you can have a internal change in the job positions, it will be alright. However, it is all depend on place and company. Luckily, I am so proud that the team of people where I am working is so cooperate and from the top level (CEO) to the bottom level (sweeper or office boy) are having a good manners, behaviors. We all call our top people in name and not even a salutation of sir. They denied to call in such a way and having a very understanding among all people. Having more than 6500 people in one roof, we all got a single culture system and that may be the reason why our company/firm still stand FIRST in many ways out of the best 15 opted category like, best place to work, best pay, best culture, best ...... etc. For the last 17 years I am working with this team and I never had a though of a change in my job and the reasons could be all of them above. However, I request you to NOT to quit or leave the place. Fight and stay bold. If they want, let them quit and go. You can work for MLM companies, but the income is not stable and you have have to work hard for long period of time. The company you mentioned is a good reputed company but you have to struggle a lot to get into the levels up for many years. All the best, Thank-s
• Malaysia
23 Aug 11
Quitting is not the solution but thinking of them everyday is not happy either. I won't get promoted easily and gain freedom but one thing for sure if I quit I will gain freedom and quality of life.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 11
At first, you should ask yourself, why should you resign just because of someone who acting elegant, does she you immediate boss, does she have the right to order you to work, do you need to report to her? If the answer for all these question are no, then you should not resign. Some people look like really bossy but when you show that you don't like them to treat you like that, or may be shout back at her once when she shouted at you. She will change the way she treat you later. Many people are just a tiger on the paper, they are just pretend to be great but when they know that you are not the type that they can bully, they will treat you differently. I have experience that many time even with manager and it works pretty well. Just do not get yourself fired. Good luck!
• Malaysia
24 Aug 11
Oh, thank you for your advise. I hope I will protect myself well like what you mentioned just now. Hopefully I can get through the day easily.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Aug 11
Well, being able to delegate work is one important thing for people to be able to do when they are working in a superior position in a company. However, I don't think that people should do it in such a way that they make the newer employees or those people that are lower paid feel bad. When people behave like that, I think that it makes the other employees feel like they really don't have anything about their job to take pride in.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Sep 11
I do not think we should show pride in the workplace. Yet everyone has gone there to work and cope with their duties. I do not think we should be proud and terrible fellow. but to deal with the pride we have to prove that we can be proud and demanding. I wish you success and a nice day!
• China
24 Aug 11
In the workplace,there are all sorts of people you must learn to adapt to the environment,you can communicate more with hime some hope that he will respect you more is is not to resign !