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United States
August 25, 2011 8:55am CST
My husband has taken care of me for the entire ten years we have been together. Well, recently at work (he's been there 10 years), the boss switched him from one crew to another and basically told him that he could not trust him working the same job he had previously. Well, he is not happy being on this new crew and the main reason is because they told him that they could no longer trust him, I think this broke his spirit as far as work goes. So I called today to ask him how his first day on the crew was going and he said that the only reason he is even working with them is because he needs to provide for me and our daughter. He said if it weren't for that that he would quit. I told him that I would like to get a job and start supporting our family. He said that would be fine except that he would not feel right being home and me earning the income for the family. I told him that it is a job in itself taking care of our daughter and keeping up on the housework. He said he would think about it. What are your opinions? Should I work and him stay home or is that not right?
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@Djbrat (333)
• United States
8 Oct 11
If you both feel that it would work financially and he is up for it, I say why not? It may turn out that you both like the new arrangements. Later if your husband wants to go back to work, you both can discuss it then. Good luck to you guys.
@youless (112096)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Sep 11
It depends on. Can you find a job with a good paid easily? If so, at lease you will not have a financial problem even if your husband quit the job. Or he can try to find another job before he quit this company. It is OK for a wife to stay at home to take care of a family. On the contrary, a husband will not be happy to stay at home when his wife works out to support the family. Man needs the pride. I love China
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
26 Aug 11
Good idea! But it really depends on you whether you want it so bad or not. I wouldn't mind if lets say my wife working and I rest at home but not for too long. Woman is still woman. Man is still man, need to take care of the weaker one.
• India
26 Aug 11
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong in your doing a job and him taking care of the housework and your daughter. The main criteria could be how much you can earn compared to what he earns, or at least, could you fulfil your family needs with your new job. But, there is a factor associated with it. For someone, who has taken the responsibility of the family and been in a job for 10 years, it would generate an inferiority feeling to remain at home and seeing his wife taking up the responsibility solely. I mean, after some time it would become difficult for him to adjust to family conditions. The best idea is that he should try for another job, while working at the current job i.e. something like going for walk-in interviews for another job taking one-day leaves from the current job. Your work would be to provide him these ideas as well as moral support, but not pushing him too hard i.e. let him and support him morally in reaching to a concrete decision. Also, to support your family, you could try out something that you can do from your home. In fact, it is a general trend now a days that both the husband and wife do a job.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
If he doesn't like his job then he can quit and look for another job then. I know that it is not easy to find a job nowadays but before quitting a job you should know where to get money to provide for your family. As per your husband, maybe he is tired in working that's why instead of refusing your offer, he is having a second thought,
@francesca5 (1344)
26 Aug 11
hello brandyandbeans, on a very simple practical level, i would assume that after ten years of working for the same company, your husband must be earning more than you could, going as a new entrant into the job market. however, seeing as you are so keen to change round and let him be the one at home, maybe you quite like the idea of having a job yourself, even if only part time. i might think about looking for part time work, or maybe doing a course to gain some extra skills in something that would interest you, if i were you. as it could be that the company your husband works for is experiencing some problems, as making people feel uncomfortable by moving them, can be a manipulative way of trying to push someone into leaving. so i would see if you can find some part time work, for you own benefit, and as a financial cushion, then i might suggest to your husbdnd to look for another job, but not leave the current one.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
25 Aug 11
it depends on your skill and how much you could make compared to him. i know a few women who work while their hubbies stay home with their kids. its not really a big deal.
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
25 Aug 11
The fact he will eventually leave that job does not mean he can't get another job. I can not say nothing while I have no idea what is about taking care of the daughter, but if is all ok there are solutions for eventually both you have a job .. In rest, is his decision. 100% his. Some men simply can not accept to stay at home, some are not ready or not able to do house work .. You should not push him and not start looking for a job until he looks ready to accept to be the "house-manager". And more - there are options for work-at-home jobs, be it online or offline too.