sat down and put her head down

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I would love some advice on what I can do to help my middle daughter who just turned 6. We have a neighbor girl E (5.5yrs old), she is a few months younger than my middle. However, my oldest who is nearly 9 and E are very very close. But being E is the only other grade school child on the block, there is not a whole lot of other choices as to whom to hang out with. My middle gets upset and angry when she plays with the two of them. I believe from various incidents it is because they leave her out, she is not playing the game they want to play the way they want to play it, or that my middle is just plain mean. She's not a mean girl at all, she just doesn't know to use her words and say HEY LET ME PLAY! So she acts up to get their attention. I've seen my lil girl down in the dumps plenty last summer, upset because of them telling her she could not play. I came up with a rule that if they (my 3 and E)were not all going to play together nicely then E could go home and the girls could go in PERIOD! So usually when they are outside I have to give that threat atleast once a day. I've also had talks with my oldest about leaving her sister behind and that's why she's acting that way. So on to todays situation..... E now goes to school with the kids on the bus. Everyday my eldest and E sit together and my middle alone. I told my oldest she needed to sit with her Sister as she seems left out even more and her duty is to be with her Sister and not always to E. She says she's trying to sit with other people than E but the boy she likes usually has someone else sitting with him as that's who she wants to sit with if she could. I also think because my middle is a lil more agressive she has a hard time making friends. For example she liked to play monsters and she was the monster and would chase the other kids around growling and then laughing but it never seemed like they wanted to play that with her. Or at girl scouts she spent so much time talking to her friend she didn't get her project done and her friend seemed annoyed and was going to move to another table The girls get on the bus, I see E & my eldest sit down, I see my middle look at them (like make room for me), then finds a seat on the side I can see her I wave and blow a kiss at her. She puts her head down, sinks down in the seat as though she is upset, sad, and left out again... I could just see the smile melt off her face when she sat down. I don't know what I else I can do? Because them ditching her leads to behavior problems for my middle not only sad but angry. Suggestions please....