Upset! Not new to me actually!
By edsss17
@edsss17 (4394)
Philippines
September 18, 2011 8:39am CST
Hi mylotters. Been active for few days because been busy for some things.
I hate times like this because it seems like no on understands me. I can't hang out with my friends because my mom is so strict. A lot of NOs and I don't understand why. I'm near 18 and I find it unfair because my younger siblings can go out whenever and wherever they want but why can't I?
I feel like I am irresponsible and it hurts BIG TIME. My friends are not going to hang out with me since my Mom told them I am not allowed anymore. I want to tell Mom like; HEY MOM! I'm already in College. Can I have some free time? 
All I ask is some understandings from her. She's been in this stage of her life but why can't she understand me?
She hurt me emotionally without her knowing! It hurts TOTALLY! I feel like I can't hold on anymore and I'm going to explode.
Advices everyone? 
All I ask is some understandings from her. She's been in this stage of her life but why can't she understand me?
She hurt me emotionally without her knowing! It hurts TOTALLY! I feel like I can't hold on anymore and I'm going to explode.
Advices everyone? 4 people like this
7 responses
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
18 Sep 11
Try to understand her. She loves you so much and hence anxious.I have found many persons deprived of such love and protection and dream of it.However freedom is freedom. Try at the best without hurting those who actually love you.
@dfollin (27267)
• United States
18 Sep 11
It is not fair that she is losing her friends because her mom loves her?????? I don't understand that.You mean her mom does not love the other kids?She lets them go out.
Are your friends bad people? Trouble makers? Maybe she doesn't like your friends.Do you want to go out at midnight on a school night? Please let me know,so I can give you my full opinion.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Sep 11
Hey there. Long time 
uhh I have been there too. my parents were so strict when I was your age but now I am 20 and they aren't so strict anymore. I think your parents still think you are young and are protecting you, so don't be mad at your mom.
I used to have a hard time getting permissions to go out with friends and had to actually call my friends home and talk to my parents LOL maybe you can try that too. Call your friends and tell them to talk to your mom and tell your moom the time you'll be back home
uhh I have been there too. my parents were so strict when I was your age but now I am 20 and they aren't so strict anymore. I think your parents still think you are young and are protecting you, so don't be mad at your mom.
I used to have a hard time getting permissions to go out with friends and had to actually call my friends home and talk to my parents LOL maybe you can try that too. Call your friends and tell them to talk to your mom and tell your moom the time you'll be back home 1 person likes this
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Sep 11
Really? That worked for me most of the time, if it wasn't too often.
Anyway why don't you talk to your mom about how you feel? She might loosen the tie herself.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
18 Sep 11
I am sorry that you are hurting.
And I do understand what you are saying.Why does she let your younger sibling go out,but not you?
Every child should be treated equally.I am 50 and have 2 adult children and one teenager.
I don't want to but I have to treat my teenager differently than I did my other kids.In our living situation I need to let her get away with more than I did the older kids.Which I hate having to do.
And I do understand what you are saying.Why does she let your younger sibling go out,but not you?Every child should be treated equally.I am 50 and have 2 adult children and one teenager.
I don't want to but I have to treat my teenager differently than I did my other kids.In our living situation I need to let her get away with more than I did the older kids.Which I hate having to do. @sid556 (30953)
• United States
20 Sep 11
Hi there Edsss,
I completely understand where you are coming from. When I was a kid, my mother was so so overly strict that it was unbearable. The older I got, the worse she got and so did her constant nagging & head games. I just could not wait to grow up and move out on my own. At 16, I started counting the days until I graduated from High School and could get a full time job and be on my own. She used to set each clock in the house different and when I went out, I'd get a curfew. If I was to be in at 10pm, it could be 9:45pm by the rest of the cities clocks but if the clock she chose to go by said 10:05, I'd get grounded. That is just one little example but I was grounded more than not. By the time I was 17, I gave up trying to please her and actually was earning my groundations for the most part. I got married and moved out right after graduating highschool. No regrets but I don't reccomend that as a good escape plan for anyone having been there. I did later on make peace with my mother and came to appreciate that her ways made me stronger and strive for independence. Hang in there, hon. You are almost 18 and these days will pass soon enough. How about your dad? Can you talk to him? My dad was pretty much my savior during the times that I was putting up with my mother. Sometimes he was able to convince her to lighten up a bit and he was always someone I could talk to.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
20 Sep 11
Yes, I came to understand my mother much better as I got older and especially after having my own children. Still, I didn't agree with her ways and did not raise my own like she did me. Out of 4, I only had a lot of trouble with one and truthfully all the grounding in the world would not have changed things. It was just her nature to be rebellious and if I grounded her she would and did climb out a window. In fact, I found that by just letting her suffer the consequences of her actions which she full well knew were not acceptable , did the trick. She is now 24 and a mom herself. She is an amazing mom and a very responsible and good person. I'm glad that you understand your mom but I really can't agree with how she is going about it. You should be allowed to go out with friends and enjoy your teen years. If you mess up, you will learn. I look back on those times with my mom and I have to wonder if she was really protecting me or was she protecting herself because she couldn't handle the worrying? It's tough when your kids are out there with friends and you don't know what is going on...could be anything. You hope and pray that they are being safe. At the same time, you have to let them experience the world and find themselves. Is there any way that your dad could convince your mom to give you a little more freedom? It really isn't right that she hold you back out of her own fears. She should realize that she learned how to be a better person from traveling the road she did even if it was the bumpy,scenic one rather than fear you treading on it. She survived and turned out just fine so even if you follow her path (and you probably wouldn't) she should feel confident that you'll learn and be just fine.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Oh hi. So glad many can relate to my situation. I thought I was the only one experiencing/has experienced this.
I now understand why my mom is treating me this way. My Dad told me my mom is being so overprotective because she don't want me to be in the road she have been before. Now, I really understand! :)
@edbuex (169)
• Uganda
18 Sep 11
when your mom proves that you can handle some situations she will let you go free means you have not yet shown her that you can handle those friends hung out conditions she doesn't want to c you re-grating after getting problems from what you don't know by7 now so keep patient you will get enough in the near future my dear .......as you know that if this world was a tree we only eat leaves on it no one has got enough share of it
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@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
14 Oct 11
Hi , I was just remembering whe i had your age and yes I was so afraid of my mom too, but , I remember one time when I was 19 years old my mom wanted to hit me with a broom stick and I hold it with my hand and said: NO , YOU WONT HIT ME AT THIS AGE, WHAT I SAID ITS TRUE I DONT DESERVE TO TREATEN THIS WAY), and she steped back from me, maybe she was not very happy with me for somedays but then , all came back to normal and I won her respect. There are moments in your life that You have to confront your parents with respect and show them with your responsables acts that You are not child anymore and they have to respect You as their daugher.
