I feel sad about something recently....

sad - very very frustrating lately.
Philippines
September 19, 2011 9:54pm CST
Hello Lotters, I had my largest earnings this month, but to be honest i don't want to use them, i felt like saving my earnings now. that's because dad sent something for my PC and am grateful about that. There's a problem though, I just learned that my MOM decided to use the money for daily expenses when she found out that I changed my mind in buying pc next month. but i had another idea but unfortunately she has spent it already, am so sad and furious that i didn't want to mylot. She kept saying that she needs it to pay something like bills and some debt. I just hate the fact she's been loaning a lot lately with some people and i thought it was just something that she's saving to repay grandma and the hardware for the expenses occurred. I don't care. am not going to spend my skype until I've gotten that money back. I would have understand if we didn't have other sources of income but WE DO. am sure she's giving some of my brother's money even though my brother has been promoted already. this SUCKS! simple things that you want and you can't even get them anymore... One Day am going to Burst if i don't get my Desktop this YEAR. of course, if i saved for the next three months + i might buy one for sure. i can wait but am just sad and frustrated. My brother has handed over his Laptop to me but probably this is something that I would let my mom use, so it's no longer borrowed. i just need to give him 100$ for the laptop HD coz the ones am using now is office use. am afraid to tell her that coz she will keep the other 100$.. This is all I need..I get this i will seriously start saving for the whole year...
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14 responses
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Don't be too annoyed with your brother. You're in the same situation. Your mom gave him money just as your dad gave you money. Same egg isn't it? Besides, it's not like your mum gave the money to her friend or anything. The money went to your brother and to the bills and debts that your family have. I'm assuming you still live with your mum, and maybe it's a good idea for her to spend the money that you would have used for a computer. She does still take care of you right? You do have a functional computer so why do you badly need one to the point that you need to get mad at your mum for paying bills, debts and helping your brother out? Saving is a good idea though. I've been saving my online earnings as well, but I don't earn a lot each month so I don't have a big amount yet.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Knicnax, They have jobs now, but the problem is they have family and kids to feed. It's not like i wanted to because no one will watch over her in case something happens to her or something. No, she doesn't i could take care of myself but maybe i made a mistake too along the way. this time, am saving,I am not getting any younger anymore. at least ten year straight. i have helped my brothers out when i still have the money, but with that i didn't get to save my own, only this year, which is good. this time i need something at least.
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@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Wow. You're a very sweet son and brother :) They're really lucky to have you in the family. At least you learned your lesson. Save when you're still able to
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I don't know what to say, but I'm also in your situation. The only difference is that my mom didn't ask money from me directly but she keeps on telling me that she is so worried of our everyday expenses. I also wanted to save some money. I already have a 2 year old child, a single mom because they are against of my boyfriend.Although i also need money for my needs specially for everyday back and forth transportation from the house to my work.I told them that i will rent a room near to my work but they disagree. If i'm at house everyday, there's no excuse not to give them money. Although sometimes i feel sad about it because i can't able to save my money, there's also a contentment because I make them happy.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Thanks ! Yes I have an account from union bank, 25% yearly interest from them will help.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
20 Sep 11
That sounds like an awful situation, it's always frustrating when we aren't in control. But, you'll like saving! As you watch your money grow and grow you'll get a sense of security and you'll know that you have that much control over your life and what happens to you. Although my savings have depleted these past few months, I think God I had the good sense to save money or I would be in a sorry state. It's good to know that you have resources when you are in need and don't have to ask anyone else! Your profile does not say how old you are--may I ask your age? Just curious.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello dragon54u. I can't..tell. not only you wouldn't it or you might suggest that i should get a job which i can't because also because no ones gonna look after my mom. Abrams Maslows principles were right, if you have a job and money you get a sense of security. but my huge mistake when i had a job was i didn't save my money bcause i was literally earning a three figures salary. another thing is that i might get frustrated myself mentioning my age
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
20 Sep 11
That's okay. I only asked because you sound so young and knowing your age would help me understand your attitudes better. In years past I might suggest a job but I've lived long enough to know that that's not always practical and besides, the world economy is such that there just aren't many jobs to be had.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
22 Sep 11
sometimes we children could not do anything but to abide with their rules and commandments because we are just children of our parents. but you can still depend yourself to them in a proper way without being disrespectful.
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello Neildc, COme to think of it, it's just a small problem that there's no rushing if am more patient enough. knowing that i can save for my pc using mylot funds is not a problem. probably i should see the light side now that i can save now compare before that i use mylot funds to pay for the bills too
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I think you're not alone with money problems, we all are. I guess we just have to realize that we live in a world where money is king. if you don't have it then prepare to be frustrated. Good thing we have this site to vent our frustrations and get paid in the process. If your case, 100 US dollars is a lot of money and a long wait if you just rely on mylot alone. I think that's already worth two years of being active in this site
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello Ybong, At least the problem is not what it used to be before we had the commercial business space. I haven't reach that much to begin with but you know, this is a good opportunity for me to prevent myself from spending too much of money compare before, there's nothing wrong with saving money, but if mylot continues to pay us, i will continue to save..
• United States
21 Sep 11
This happened to my dad a lot of years ago. He was in the war and sent his money home to his father to be saved. When he came home from the war his dad had spent all of his money every single penny. So he was fighting in a war and didn't get a penny for risking his life. This was a real sad situation much before I was born but very sad but I understand your situation and I definitely understand.
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello soapies, That is very sad, he fought for something and yet he got nothing sort of finances? well, better start saving now for my future. you never know what might happen in the future. though there's still deduction, i think having this much amount i can have something big rather than just spending it everytime i withdraw it.
@00fear (3216)
• United States
20 Sep 11
If that's what happened, I think if it were me, I wouldn't even tell my mom that I got paid from mylot so she won't know. That way I can save my money up and save it until I reach for what I want to buy. If I were to get some money left over, I would give that to my mom. I know how it feels like if it were me trying to save money up and start taking it out little by little til its all gone. I would give my mom what I can of course but i need to know how much I am going to spend first before I can start wasting.
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello 00fear, That's in your situation but it was her money that got me the first eon card in the first place. I'd probably spent it on the skype funds but of course i will save the rest, i realized now that money is truly hard to earn. i guess this time I will be using the ten dollar usual fund there and not the unlimited monthly promo
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Sep 11
Sorry to hear that. I hope you get it all worked out with your computer, finances, savings and your mom.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Stephcjh, as of now i am very confused with how to spend my earnings. but it seems saving is the most logical choice. have a nice day
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
Hi LetranKnight25, I feel sorry for you. Why don't you explain to your mom about how you feel? I don't think your mom should make you pay the $$$, however if she really insists what to do? Life is hard sometimes, will she kick you out of the house? I hope no.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Wongchoiyee, I missed you, how are you doing? well am a bit ok now but I felt like this last night though. Life isn't hard now compare as to before. Nope i don't think she would she doesn't have that behavior though. but still I am a bit frustrated regarding this scenario, i hope i get to buy one some day.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
dear LK, I can fully relate with your situation my dear brother..okay fine just vent it out. Save as much as you can and then plan for a better way to make your earnings more or start a business of your own. wish you all the best
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Jai-sis, As for starting a good business, that will surely take a long while and probably I will have to make sure that I won't be spending anything by next few years My plan can chance again you know but who knows. have a nice day.
@ashok1 (225)
• India
20 Sep 11
we need money.But money is not all life.I also get frustrated if i dont have enough and should borrow from others.But at one point of time i felt happy and thought this should not hinder my happiness.
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello ashok, yeah you're right money is not all life but if we can't buy anything how can we consider living a life with out monetary support. I don't want to borrow from others, i want to save for my own first. I am not saving that enough but I do have enough for myself though. Have a nice day
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hi LK, I know how you felt bad when you found it for sure you are ranting But you can't do anything so just hope that probably next month whatever you wanted to buy you can besides it's Ma who use the money not someone else happy mylotting
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hello Catch, Well, I need to think of something else besides this because i know ranting officially won't makes up for my frustrations. I believe she's using it merely to pay debts but i hope there will come a time we will eventually start earning big and save more than it should. hope that will come some day
• India
20 Sep 11
understand your feeling,but remember if think about negetively it will keeps u back and it depresses you,its nice idea to save money,do that.you now i also save money not much,do you know how i save money,i just save changes(coins) when i use to travel.by saving like that it helped me a lot in many situations,i know its not the best way to save money for pc.but in some situation it saves u in another way.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello Silpatenneti, I don't know if i can save if the money is where i can find it because i can't help but think about the things i need to buy when the time comes. I don't even travel within the few cities now, maybe i should have my travels. have a nice day.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
21 Nov 11
Hey, it's your mom who took the money and not some stranger, So just relax,she must have taken it for a cause and if you want it , she will give it back. Don't worry.