friendship versus money

Philippines
September 20, 2011 3:05am CST
My friend got burn out because according to him his best friend change because of money issue.His friend become rich and he forgot that they're best friend. So, my friend is very disappointed and he said that he doesn't like that people, change because of money.How about you, have you tried a situation like this?What your notions about this situation? What advise can you impart to him?
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@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Such friends were never real friends anyway. You can see the real color of people when they rise or become rich and when you are down and out. That's when you know who your real friends are.
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@00fear (3216)
• United States
20 Sep 11
I would hate to meet those people also. People who were friends and now they don't wan to be friends anymore because of richness of money. I would tell that friend that if his friend continues to act that way to him, then he should meet new friends. If he liked being friends with him, they should sit down and talk about his money making reaction.
• Bangalore, India
20 Sep 11
There are many people like this in world but most important thing is there are more people who are very good don't forget their friends at any stage of life.We should concentrate on positive things in life and we must forget the wrong things by others to keep peace in our mind.Again i would like to say that if they were best friends at any stage in life his rich friend will surely come to him but he should give time to his friend to taste the money.After we all are humans and i think after food,cloth and roof next thing is emotion that keeps us alive!
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• United States
20 Sep 11
i would not change my personality because of money it does not matter if i am rich or poor i will still remember my friends but when you are poor it makes it kind of hard to go out with friends it takes a very strong good type of person not to let the fact that they are rich go to their head i dont like people that flant how much money they have i think it is better to be modest the more money you show that you have the more likely you are to get robbed
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@WakeUpKitty (8698)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 11
If your friend dumps you because he suddenly is rich he is not a real friend. A real friend should know you are not suddenly after his money now he is rich. If that is the case, if someone who becomes suddenly rich is so supicious it is not a real friend. I don't know why people change if they have or get more money or are suddenly rich. I don't think I would ever change that way.. I know because I once was rich and I still am the same. But what your friend should ask himself is: did he change in his behaviour since he knows his friend is rich now? Sometimes we do behave different, we do find it normal because we are good friend, the suddenly rich friend should share with you. If your friend is sure he did not change and his friend is not the same anymore I think the friendship has changed. Then he should ask himself if it is worth to continue being friends. Can he live with how his friend changed? If not, if they have nothing in common anymore it's better to move on. To make new friends and not to waste good energy in a lost case.
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• India
20 Sep 11
Money should never influence friendship. However, your friend is unfortunate to have an arrogant friend. Also, on the other hand he is fortunate that he got to know the real person behind the mask of his best friend. My advise to him would be - stay away from people who give more importance to money rather than friendship. Divert your mind instead to your family; your family especially parents, will love you irrespective of whether you are rich or poor!
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello PsrSarkar, Yes my friend is unlucky enough to have a best friend like him but it's a blessing in disguise at least he knew him early as early as now but they've been best friend for more than 10 years,I think since they were in elementary.But I really like your advise, thank you for that..God bless u..
• India
20 Sep 11
Thank you. I hope your friend overcomes this shock fast. It is shocking indeed...very hard to trust people.. :(
@SIMPLYD (90655)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I haven't had this kind of issue in friendship. But in my opinion, if a friend becomes rich and has changed her attitude like not wanting me as friend anymore, then so be it. At least, i was able to know her real attitude as a friend - she is not a true friend after all.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Right SIMPLYD at least the earlier the better but I think it hurts and it's painful but we couldn't do nothing but to accept the fact.
@SIMPLYD (90655)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Of course my friend it hurts. Imagine having her as your friend, and suddenly would be left hanging in the air, just because she's already rich. But she doesn't deserve your friendship.
• India
20 Sep 11
I will always prefer friendship over money.Friends are the most valuable assets in our life.Money comes today and goes tomorrow,but friendship is not like that.Once we have lost it,then it will be very difficult to get back.So friendship is more important than money.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Yes, that's certainly correct DeepakCool.Money comes today and it goes tomorrow but trues friends stay forever whether you do or don't have money.Bonding moment is more than money that we can treasure forever.
@yskaps (233)
• India
20 Sep 11
Actually i can't even believe or accept such a situation. I never had such experience.Thank god I didn't come over such issues. In my opinion a person becomes rich if he/she got best friends, in our life the most important thing which we need to achieve is good and trustworthy friends.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Yes, I agree with you yskaps, my real friends too are my treasure. But there are some other people that can betray their friends too because of money or because of some personal intentions.
@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
If his friend really changed I guess all he need to do is keep a distance. Sometimes people get to know the meaning and importance of a friend once they've lost someone. So,...tell your friend to keep a distant from that person and live his own life without disturbing that other person.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Thanks jaiho2009, I'm gonna tell him but I still feel pity to him. At this point, I don't know how to lead a conversation and tell him some advises.But nice one, thanks..
@m_perez (506)
• United States
20 Sep 11
People always change because of money and it's horrible. I hate how everyone has to depend on money to live. I would rather live somewhere where I could just live off the land and have other people who shared the same ideas. But I'm afraid I've become too accustomed to this lifestyle. Oh well. Anyways enough of my rambling. I had a friend who started using his money to get friends and eventually he forgot about me. Sometimes I just think that all people care about is money and popularity.I try to keep myself away from money. I know that sounds stupid but I hate having too much money.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hello m-perez, I'm sorry to hear that so do i. I hate people care too much about money especially when it come to having friends.I really believe that money is the root of all evil.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
21 Sep 11
No, I haven't encountered such a situation yet but one of my friends did. Her friend got a good, high paying job and would avoid her, things they used to do. Her friend wouldn't even bother to reply her messages and so my friend got the message that the friendship was on the rocks. She told me she was rather sad over it. I told her to just forget about her friend and maybe her friend's status changed her life. I just said to her that there are lots of people in this world that she can be friends with. Perhaps someday when that friend of hers need a real friend, she would then regret and think of her again.
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
21 Sep 11
I think when the situation changes, the circle of friends will also change at the same time. If someone become rich, it is quite possible for him change his friends. To rich ones, he may want to buy some luxury things, and have his meal in a better restaurant, and that costs more, if his friends can not afford those things, it is quite hard for them spend time together and keep their friendship. And the rich one's behavior may put pressure on the poor ones. I think if your friend become rich, he can get his friend back.
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
20 Sep 11
No, thankfully, I have not encountered such a situation. I think your friend should be thankful that he has finally seen the true colours of his friend. So, he shouldn't feel bothered because that friend is just not worthy to be his friend. True friendships should be able to withstand all kinds of test. So, he should let go and move on. I am sure he will be able to find someone else who is worthy to be his best friend in time to come. I don't think I can give him any advice but I wish him luck!
• United States
20 Sep 11
I've never known anybody who has changed that much for the worst because of money. It's sad that some people do get like that, for their family and friends but even more so for themselves. They feel entitled and think they are better than everybody else because they have more money. I think most people are pretty grounded and don't get too negatively affected by that sort of thing. I would say to your friend that its too bad that this happened but it's good that he knows now what kind of a person his friend is and he shouldn't want to be friends with someone like that anyway.
• India
20 Sep 11
If he was best friend as you say but he change out because of money then best friend is that who never leave the other friend in any condition i think he was not his best friend
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Hello my friend! I'm sorry to hear about it. I guess these days, a situation like this is not an isolated case anymore. Yes it's true that there are some people who give more importance to money than anything else on Earth. And they don't care if they were able to ruin a certain relationship. However, for me this serves as an eye-opener to your friend. Good thing that he has already seen the true color of that person. He must have to move on and enjoy life still. Have a wonderful day! :-)