Do you know any remedy? For angry person

India
September 20, 2011 4:18am CST
In my house two persons are very angry one is my elder daughter and second is my husband they always annoyed on any event or on simple mistake. Since Even in a small mistake my daughter is also annoyed on me or on her sister. I know life is very hard and very complicated my daughters not feeling well since last one month and she also annoying in small mistake why mom why do this..etc so I consider it but husband also doing the same.. I feel why Dr. not made any medicine for anger person for laughing lots of ways join laugh club, talking with others, but why no remedy to control the anger..do you know any remedy for this homemade medicine or other medicine..
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18 responses
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hi good questions...or discussion..Anger is the problems of many today..And even in the little things will make you a big problems because of that anger emotions... The only remedy on that is control it.Do not let your anger control you,but you control it...You know it,and if not control it will be worse in the future... it is my experience, when i was get angry in little things,my head is wanting to do something bad,like hate some one,bitter to it,and etc..Now it damage your health and affects every thing... So control it, and do not too easy to get anger that is the only way and others..And also the best is to give it to God to change it that character,let the Holy Spirit control it..
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• India
20 Sep 11
Hiii befriend Questions is nice but I want to answer should be nice not possible to control the anger myself to others so I want to Dr. medicine from which in my mind anger portion will be nill then it is possible. Everyone knows due to anger health problem, headache problem may create but not control..whyy......
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Yes it is hard to control easily...but steps by steps you can do it...And you me try to ask the doctor about anger medicine if there is,and also we are the one who do it,and we also to face it...It is our nature to be angry,because we born of it...one day we will realize it how to manage that...
• United States
20 Sep 11
If you find the miracle medicine, do make sure I get some so that I can send it to those angry people here too. Anger has to do with personalities, temperaments, and emotional issues. Sometimes some people can see a psychologist and get help for them. But the willing has to be done on their behalf. They have to be able to be open and honest to allow the help to dig deep and find out what the root of their anger is. We cannot help any angry person unless they opt to help themselves. We can only encourage positive behavior and hope they understand the determent of their issues.
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• India
21 Sep 11
Dear dancing girl you are right we cannot help to any angry person but I always think that why Dr. not made any medicine like tablet such like for fever and other decease actual annoy is also a type of decaase.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Sep 11
Hi fanta! You see getting angry is a natural human emotion and you just can not stop it. We get angry because we feel things do not go our way and our frustration, tiredness and pent up emotions add to our anger. Please advice your daughter to count 1 to 10, when she starts boiling and ask her to take deep breath before she blurt out anything. If she is in angry and speaking out loudly, do not try to advice her. You could give the above suggestions, when she is calm. All the best.
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• India
21 Sep 11
Hiii laddu thanks to suggest this way I will try it but really I need medicine why Dr. not invent it like take a tablet and anger is stop ahah...
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I think something is bothering them that is why they get angry easily. It is either about their health or something that they cannot easily share because it is too personal and they can express it by screaming or being angry. Father is like that. Early in the morning he is angry already. He always scream at my mother for being slow and sometimes since my mother gets angry too, she will just make herself deaf of all the scream and anger my father is expressing. that will be the reason why he will be more angry on her. I even scream at my father when he is screaming because I cannot take the scream early in the morning, while I am sleeping. I hate it. I know it has to do with his diabetes that is why I sometime understand why he is being angry.
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@francesca5 (1344)
20 Sep 11
anger is a very complicated thing. i used to have a boyfriend who would lose his temper over very trivial things and it used to annoy me, like a spilt cup of milk or something like that. so i just gave up on him. many years later i read somewhere that people who had been shamed when they were young, and told off for those sort of trivial things, can show that sort of anger, and just explode over something small, which was a bit like what they experienced as a child, but by then he was long gone, and besides i wasn't his psychiatrist! but there can be many reasons for anger, there are a few books about it which might help. it might be worth talking to your husband and see if you can get to the root of it.
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20 Sep 11
Yeah, me too. I want a medicine like that. Some people I know easily gets angry about small things like, asking them a question and they're already irritated. So all i can do now is just wait for them to calm down and forget about being angry..
• India
21 Sep 11
Hahah maki your idea is nice but if I will hug to my husband when he will angry then my husband will throw me direct out of home hahaa..
21 Sep 11
Haha. Don't hug him while sleeping. I know someone whom i hug while sleeping and hit me in my face. Then the next morning, he/she said that he didn't know what he did cause he's sleeping. Or, make sure that your house door is locked so u won't get thrown out of the house.
20 Sep 11
oh! but there are some people that forgets about their anger when you hug them. :) that's what I do with the people who are very close to me.
@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
20 Sep 11
There are no medicines for anger except Yoga. Yoga especially ‘Pranayama’ will control the emotions and gives the person a feeling of peace and tranquility. If one can do it patiently for some period, you are assured of good results.[b][/b]
• India
21 Sep 11
Yes babu I think you are right yoga may be helpful but they not ready to do it..even I heard Art of Living course is also very good to control the anger.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hi fanta, If there is any remedy I am also in need for the same. My two kids and their quarrel, is making me mad at times (both are boys). My hubby also runs out of patience…. (lol). Many times I felt I have three kids at home
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Sep 11
My hubby always scold elder one even if the mistake is with younger one (the elder is 10 years old and younger is 4 years). Elder one is so sensitive and it hurts him very badly.
• India
20 Sep 11
Hii sree I am also finding this and hope at least one Dr. mylotter can say yes this is a remedy on angry person..Ha ha ha the same thing is with me I have two child ( both daughter) and both are starting the fighting my husband jump into their fighting and annoying on both then on me also so I need the medicine..
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@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
20 Sep 11
There is always some funny way that they say things, a body part that looks funny or something they do a certain way that may take the heat off of the situation momentarily. It doesn't necessarily make one totally forget, but sometimes it might! :)
@akp100 (13640)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hi Even I wanted that kind of medicines for some family members. I hope our Dr. mylotters will help us for that. I have faced such thing. But as I am very calm with nature I just let them go on me.
• India
20 Sep 11
hiii akp Yes I also need the medicine to control the anger and I hope mylotters will help in this manner I daily face this problem if my husband annoyed on me then some time I also loose my control..
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I think it is only you and the family that can remedy the frequent anger your daughter and husband have. Try to talk with them, as to what irks them and compromise. Don't let them be like that for long , or they will be forever. Maybe you can joke at them , whenever they get angry, say "you look like a monster or old when you are angry" . For my husband i would tell him, "it really shows that you are already getting older whenever you get angry " . Then he will laugh.
@godarna (223)
20 Sep 11
Great comment. Always have to find a quick solution, if not, it really gets worse. I've a problem with my mother in law for more than four months and the longer the situation continues, the more I detest her. Need to find a person who act as a referee.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
Yes, godarna, the earlier a bad habit or a bad thing is settled, the better. Having it go that way always or seemingly not bothered by it at all, would make you end up getting angrier.
• India
20 Sep 11
Hii simplyd No I needs the medicine or tricks how can control their anger I apply this way to talk joke but my husband is again annoyed you are doing fun I am serious about this matter annoying on you and you are doing joke then issue may be danger..but why Dr. not make any medicine for anager
@koperty3 (1876)
22 Sep 11
I think there is no home made remedy to treat anger. I have such kind of personality but I know how to control my temper and I did not change my partner's life in hell. Of course sometimes is difficult to control anger before situation escalates to open conflict. I try to be calm and wise and not force people to accept my will. The patience is the answer and honest conversation.
• India
20 Sep 11
Well I wish there was any real remedy or medicine to manage anger.All you can do just keep yourself calm when others are angry..and when they are in good mood tell them what they have been doing in anger. If you yourself get angry then you can work on it unfortunately no medicine for that but I read Ghandhi ji's experiences in life and I like once he said when you are angry its better not to speak all you want to at that point to time to the person you want to..better write all that (whether you want to abuse or want to use bad words ..just write all that on a paper)on a paper...but dont speak.and let the time pass by. Read that when your mood is ok.you'll realize how wrong you were..dont forget to throw that paper out :) I believe you cant suggest your husband to do that but you can ask your elder daughter to do something like that.Good luck.
• India
20 Sep 11
HAhah... blue my friend I also laughing and imagine when both are fighting or annoying on each other then how they are seeing and like photogenic face ahah...
• India
20 Sep 11
haha well with your husband all you can do that just ignore his words or keep smiling or laughing on him to ignore and make the atmosphere lighter.because as you saying when you dont reply he asks why are you silent ? why dont you talk then ? etc etc a typical man. just take every thing easy at that moment. nothing to be serious or emotional.I am laughing and imagining if you both argue like in hindi movie 'chalte chalte' shahrukh and Rani keep arguing for nothing.:)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hiii guy I tried this but for some time everything is okk then again annoyed in the next moment..yes this is good remedy no talk when he is annoying but they again annoy for this why you are not speaking with me you are not hearing my voice and again annoy some time I laugh also but I need Dr. remedy. I talk with my daughter and she understood but next moment forget all..
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hi there fanta! maybe reverse psychology can help? lol! i'm not really sure about this but go mad before they do. you'll see they will be comforting you. or maybe hmm you can just give them silent treatments. whenever somebody is mad at home i would just give them cold treatments and they always do the confronting. well, i hope that helps..
• India
21 Sep 11
Hiii shane I think you are right sometime reverse psychology works I will try it thanks for suggest
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
20 Sep 11
some teenager or like that they are stressed out with so many demands on our teens.if they could learn just to relax life would run much smoother.with adults we have the stresses of work,family life.being the head of the family is not easy.although mothers plays a very important roll in the family life she too can become stressed out.so really you have to be balanced if possible.too help they can try meditation.there is no miracle pill to curb angry people.it takes self control.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
20 Sep 11
You know angry people are going to be angry and sadly there is no remedy other than time for them to consider their bitterness. Of course angry people can also be stubborn people and that can be quite the dangerous combination to say the very least. They need to naturally come to terms with their anger to say the very least and that can be easier said than really done. Some people tend to flip out and there is no remedy that will work long term. It might sedate these people for a little bit, but anger tends to return with a vengeance. They are going to really not going to be helped, unless they take steps to calm themselves. Of course, when tensions are high and feelings are stung, that can be much easier said than done.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
hiii funny fanta This is danger question for me and I also need the remedy for angry because some time I also annoyed on my husband but afterwords I not feel well now my MIL and my relations are also need remedy for anger..
• India
20 Sep 11
This is the problem which most of us are facing in today's scenario. Things are getting more and more complicated. But getting annoyed of these things is not the only solution. As per my views, showing affection towards the person who is annoyed is a possible solution. love can overcome all the types of anger, you shall not argue with your daughter and husband when they are angry, instead offer them a glass of water. You will surely notice a change in them.