By which name do you call? To your husband/wife in front of your family members
By smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
India
September 20, 2011 5:37am CST
I read 2 years old discussion and I shocked when I read in some countries women called their husband with the name of Papa in Indian tradition the papa means the father (parents) mamma or ma means mother.
Suddenly in my mined popped up a new idea to know about various countries how they called to their husband or wife direct by name or use any other special name. Our tradition is not allowed to call the husband by direct name so we called AG or Suno G I know some person will laugh on it but this is true… otherwise take the name of child infront of family members like sumit or radha came here so husband understand she is calling me…some time elder family members start fun ohhh you are calling to small radha or big radha tell us..
Share your view how you will call your spouse in front of your family members..
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23 responses
@umabharti (3972)
• India
20 Sep 11
yes this happens only in India ,no one calls elders by their name,they give respect and love to kids.In other countries i dont say that there is no love if tey call by name because it is their culture.Its not ours.Our tradition teaches us different way of living so we live in that way.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
20 Sep 11
when i get married then definetly i ll be calling as the other woemn of india do .I at present am single.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
You are right my friend in India no one can call their husband by name but you not share here how you calling to your husband..I know in other countries direct call by name..
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hi surekha,
I have special name to call him and now I am brave to call that name infront of in-laws too whenever necessary
. If I talk to them about him, I will use the nick name call by them. I never called his real name, it is true.
I agree, there is a trend, if the couples have kids, wives do call them the way the kids call their father.
I have special name to call him and now I am brave to call that name infront of in-laws too whenever necessary. If I talk to them about him, I will use the nick name call by them. I never called his real name, it is true.
I agree, there is a trend, if the couples have kids, wives do call them the way the kids call their father.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
HAahahh... my sweet friend share with us the special name like sonu, monu or other ahha...I also called with special name which is only knows me but not before MIL and FIL only when we are alone haha...I am laughing..
my sweet friend share with us the special name like sonu, monu or other ahha...I also called with special name which is only knows me but not before MIL and FIL only when we are alone haha...I am laughing..2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Sep 11
In India, most of the wives would not call their husbands by their real names. However, trend is changing and now many have started calling their hubbies by their first name.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Try to call him by his real name, when you and he are alone in the house and see his reaction.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
No chance to call by name otherwise FIL and MIL will thrown me out of house ahah...I call him hello please one minute aahh... they understand I am call him
I call him hello please one minute aahh... they understand I am call him2 people like this
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Sep 11
For me, it really depends on who is around me when I am addressing my husband. When it is the two of us and our children, I will call him Daddy because I don't want my children to start calling their father by his first name. When it is just the two of us or those family member that I am really close to, I will call him baby. However, most of the time when I am around friends or family members that aren't as close, I will call him Tom (his given name).
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Sep 11
Hello my dear friend.
Yes in my Hispanic culture we use Papi, (for the man), Mami, (for the women). These are terms of endearment. Papi also is used for the father and Mami is also used for the mother.
It depends on how you use it as we can say them also towards friendliness as well. We are not implying that the person is mom or father, it is simply like saying dear, honey or baby to someone.
I have but very rare, used Papi towards my partner, simply because he is Caucasian and does not speak Spanish as I do. I used baby, or babe when I refer to him.
Yes in my Hispanic culture we use Papi, (for the man), Mami, (for the women). These are terms of endearment. Papi also is used for the father and Mami is also used for the mother.
It depends on how you use it as we can say them also towards friendliness as well. We are not implying that the person is mom or father, it is simply like saying dear, honey or baby to someone.
I have but very rare, used Papi towards my partner, simply because he is Caucasian and does not speak Spanish as I do. I used baby, or babe when I refer to him. 1 person likes this
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hello my dear friend
Baby, babe is right but papa and mama is strange for us because we called to our parents by this name. Today I know about most of the mylotter country because in my discussion they write in our phillipens, in our America, In India means I found the way how can called in different country
Baby, babe is right but papa and mama is strange for us because we called to our parents by this name. Today I know about most of the mylotter country because in my discussion they write in our phillipens, in our America, In India means I found the way how can called in different country2 people like this
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I guess here in my place it is already part of the culture to call our husbands.."papa" or even "daddy" some call their hubbies sweet names or endearment terms like "honey" sweetheart" I on my part calls my husband "di" short for daddy lol.. i got used to it because when my daughter was still small and was learning hwo to speak she does not call my husband daddy or dad just by his name because that is what she hears often..so i changed the way of calling, i call him "di" for daddy so my daughter will also follow me. and she did. 
and i got used to it that is how i call him even infront of my family..
and i got used to it that is how i call him even infront of my family.. 1 person likes this
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
20 Sep 11
Yes how strange is that!I would never call my husband papa! because he is not my papa....but then I have my south american friends that call their husbands papa...and their husbands call them mamitas[ which means little mums] to them is a word of love and respect and I have to say I admire that...at the end of the day each own to their own.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
HAahhah friend I am laughing really strange and when I read 2 years before discussion I shocked how they call papa..but at least after this discussion we can know the different culture and different ways of calling
friend I am laughing really strange and when I read 2 years before discussion I shocked how they call papa..but at least after this discussion we can know the different culture and different ways of calling2 people like this
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Ha ha ha sir now I know your wife name here after my discussion lots of mylotter share their spouse name thats nice. I also call my husband aap like aap kaha gaye the..I started a laughing topic on your yesterday response good tonic haha...
sir now I know your wife name here after my discussion lots of mylotter share their spouse name thats nice. I also call my husband aap like aap kaha gaye the..I started a laughing topic on your yesterday response good tonic haha...2 people like this
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
So that's how it is in India, in calling your husband in front of family members. 
Here in our country, we can call our husband in any way we like it. Me, i call my husband Pa , since our daughter calls her Papa. And my husband calls me Ne, shortcut for Nene ( little baby).
But when i am angry at him i call him by his full name.
Here in our country, we can call our husband in any way we like it. Me, i call my husband Pa , since our daughter calls her Papa. And my husband calls me Ne, shortcut for Nene ( little baby).
But when i am angry at him i call him by his full name. 
@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
20 Sep 11
We use baba(father) and mama(mother) in Swahili but when we want to address either of them in public then we add their first born's name after baba or mama.. So the name can be mama_John or baba_John. If the couple have no child, then their names will be used.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Friend tell me you are Indian because baba is in marthi sider word so you are telling about husband and wife or telling about your parents I am little bit confused please explain..
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@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Sep 11
Hi, I'm not an Indian and those words are Swahili- the national language in Kenya. okay lets say Waflay is a husband to Jane, and we have a son named John and a daughter named Eve. So I will call my wife mama John but not mama Eve. When it turns round that she wants to call me to attention then she will use baba John... If we are still without a son or a daughter, then we will address each other with our names.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
21 Sep 11
Hii talkative women
Wooo you read 2 years old discussion what a mind. I am also from India and I know in Indian tradition we can call our husband by name so whenever I need calling to my husband mostly say to my daughter told thr father mom is calling. Otherwise tell Sun raho ho kya hahha...
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Sep 11
I want to be called by my name. Only my kids are allowed to say mama to me. My ex always say mother to me. In the end you are just mother not a person, woman, individual anymore. I hate that. I know many people do that if they get older. If it just has to do with some countries or cultures I don't know. I think it's old fashioned. The time my grandparents did it.. it start with the way you talk to your kids like saying: go ask your mother.. and in the end he calls you mother too.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Yes this is good only child can say mama and if we want to call our husband then name is good..
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@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hi there surekha. we differ really in cultures for us Filipinos we are used to couples calling mama and papa, daddy and mommy or nanay and tatay i think this has been a part of the training for the children because as they would grow up they will use to call that to their parents unlike in US as i see some films parents are only called by their names by their children and that is a form of disrespect of parents here in the Philippines.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Ohhh my friend nanay and tatay is good but mama and papa is like strange for us because the child also called by the same name to their parents..
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@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
20 Sep 11
I’m from India I call my wife by her name. My daughters who are of this generation call their husbands with their names, ‘Hi, Rajesh, Hi,Madhu.’ Times changed and wisdom lies in changing along with the times. Otherwise we will become butt of laughter.[b][/b]
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
You are right my friend now time is change and thats nice you called direct by name but in some places follow the tradition so they no feel good if they called the spouse by their name...thanks to share your view..and now I know your name is Rajesh ahah...
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
20 Sep 11
That is intersting to know, I had not thought about it too much. Here in America we just call each other by our given name. SOmetimes we might even have some sort of nickname we call each other. I always called my husband "Ronnie" even though he went by "Ron" most places. It is not considered disrespectful here.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Thats nice my friend by name or nick name is good but parents name like papa and mama is strange. Thanks to share your way.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
hi surekha,
i think a wife can call her husband whatever sweet names she likes to call him.
i call mine as dad, daddy, darling, sweetie. yes, even infront of anybody.
but when i am upset or angry, i call him by his first name. 
how do you call yours?
ann
but when i am upset or angry, i call him by his first name.
how do you call yours?
ann@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Hahah my friend when you are upset then call by name that right means you husband understand you are angry or upset. Hahah.... I not call by name in any time I told one minute please or Suno G means heard me ahha..no name is allowed in our tradition.
my friend when you are upset then call by name that right means you husband understand you are angry or upset. Hahah.... I not call by name in any time I told one minute please or Suno G means heard me ahha..no name is allowed in our tradition.2 people like this
@libramie (562)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
I'm from the Philippines and we have the same meaning of calling our parents. Papa and Mama is also commonly used in my country calling to husband and wife so that the children followed as we used also in front of my daughter at her younger years. Others used 'mom' and 'dad'. Anyways, our pet calls with my hubby is 'dear'.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
But friend please tell me Papa means father then how can call to your husband or mom means mother this is strange for us please not anger I am just asking you not take direct name..
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@glowin100 (124)
•
20 Sep 11
In front of family members I used to call my husband, either honey, or by his name. Today I have heard many people refer to their spouses as "my old lady" or "my old man" and I think that is disrespectful. Therefore, I like to stay on the honey name or by his given name.
glowin100
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
20 Sep 11
Ohhh no I not heard this old lady and old man word but I heard mama and papa thats is also strange for us because mama and papa means our parents. You are nice you called honey and I called sonu hahah...
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