kinda irritated

I understand about it. You can call me also selfish or maybe people around me found me selfish sometimes,but I don't like my personal collection being borrowed. Some people want to borrow things that are my personal collection and I never had any second thought of saying NO- Sorry. They can think what they want..but,it's my personal collection and I never like anyone to borrow it.

If you really like it, you should not lend it to someone else that do not how to take care of others belonging. Since your friend doesn't know how to keep his promise, then you can ask him to return the shades to you, and never borrow anything to him anymore.

Well, perhaps you've learned a valuable lesson here. He's not the type of person you should lend or give something to. He'll just end up giving it away, thus hurting you more. Seems to me that he doesn't give you a lot of respect because you specifically gave him instructions not to lend it to anyone else if he didn't want it. This just shows you how little he respects you with. If I were you, I would stop giving him things. It's not good to be giving people things that they don't really appreciate. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I don't like it when people borrow things from you and then either don't give them back, or give them to another friend without actually asking whether it is alright to do so or not. I have leant some DVDs to a friend of mine, and he told me that he would give them back to me the next week. It is now three months later and he hasn't given them back to me. Not only this, but he has also given some of them to one of our other friends which I am annoyed about because now I'm not entirely sure where all of them are, and I doubt very much that I will be getting them back any time soon.

I think, if i were in your shoes, i wouldn't lend him anything anymore. And besides i will talk to him about my dislike of his lending what i lend him . It's best that we get to express ourselves to our friends, lest they will assume that it was just okay with you.

@igatiful_badass First of all, you mentioned that this shades was given by a friend of yours and it has value to you. Yet despite of that you don't use it because of the color and design, and thus you gave to this another friend of yours. You got mad when your friend did the same thing as you did, you can do it but he can't? Isn't that unfair to your friend? Just put yourself in his situation. What would you have done then? Secondly, you mentioned to him that you would not want him to lend it to anyone as it hurts you. Even so, you said you saw the same shade being worn by others. Couldn't there be any coincidence that might have happen, where that person actually bought the same shade as the one you gave that friend of yours? Have you really asked him about the shade yourself? But even if he did borrow the shade to another person, what is wrong with that? You give something to someone and you are now demanding someone to obey you because you gave that something to him? That action of yours appears to be selfish. Despite that, this can only prove that you care for this friend and you wish that he takes you seriously. My advice is to let go of hatred and choose freedom, why go bother something that is out of our control. Our friends life is not our toy, we can't make them do whatever we want them to. If you truly care about this friend, learn to let go and mind our own business. Don't let this kind of small problem to get between you and your friend. It is not worth it. You might end up regret if you make a bug fuss out of it. Anyway, GOOD LUCK!