would you let your spouse to work ?

I will let my future wife do what she loves to do. If she wants a career for her self-improvement, who am I to stop her?

It's everyone's decision to go to work or not, "letting your spouse work" seems a little offensive. It's not just the man's responsibility to make money. I think a couple should decide together if they both work, or if only one of them works. If only one of them works, they should make sure they have enough money to provide for the family. It doesn't matter which one of them works, sometimes you have stay-at-home-moms, but you also have stay-at-home-dads. What does it matter if one earns more than the other? This is the 21st century and men have to realise that women are equal human beings. If my husband were to state that I HAVE to stay at home and he just won't let me work, I don't think I would want to be with him anymore, because he can't tell me what to do. :)

for me it is the mens prime responsibility to work for living - for me, it's not the man's responsibility. It's the man and/or the woman's responsibility. If they have a child or children, either partner can choose to work while one looks after the child(ren) --- or when their child's old enough, they can choose to put him/her in a nursery while they both work. and no one can deny that - speak for yourself. I deny it. and some men doesn't want it for it hurts their pride and ego - those men need to deal with it. One's manliness shouldn't depend on his wife's ability to get a job. For me, that's not a man. Genetically, yes. But that's about it. will you let your wife work? or will you make her stay home? - the last time I checked, marriage was a partnership, not a hierarchy. "Let" and "make her stay at home" do not sit well with me. She's not a child, she's your wife.

I am not bothered to let my (future) wife works, as long as both of us know each other's responsibility. Because building a family isn't only all about money, it is also about love and care. And we shouldn't forget that we have to raise our children and teach them some good lessons about life.. If her works makes her distant from our children, then I think I will not let her work.. Our children need a lot of great love from their mother, anyway..

Practically sake, why not? Right? But if your spouse working and could affect her responsibility as mother, then it is not anymore healthy in a family. Bringing up a child is not easy task or responsibility that you relay with someone being paid. It is most important that a mother will guide and nurture their children personally. But still it really depends on the life situation you have if there is a need to work your spouse or not.

Arnold,, Hence we are not usually using our traditional traits the the men are the one who make money for the family and he woman is only in the house to take good care of everything. Since day by day, year by year, commodities are increasing i see that this time is not enough to let the man only work. Especially when you have more than 1 kids and you only depend on the income of husband. No, it doesn't work. Or maybe the husband are in good position. But how about those minimum worker only??.. Ego and Pride are not discussion anymore as long as you can give good education to your child that only matter. Thanks

I think working spouses is the norm of the day these days. My wife works as a teacher. Of course we have an agreement that she has to spend more time with my son. So she manages as in her school she has to spend less time at her school. Cheers! Ram

well stay at home dads are becoming more popular, if the wife is able to get a better job. people have no choice nowadays, with the rising costs unless one parents is on a very high income. I've always worked and was the bread and butter, when i was with my ex for a number of years. now my new partner whos not long started a new higher paying job, takes our relationship very seriously. is happy to pay for things, to make it easier on me as i earn a lot less. I'm looking at moving up to where he is, but have found my line of work is not up where he is a much. let alone the fact i can only do part time, due to my son. and being there for him when he comes home from school.

I don't see anything wrong when a wife works also just to help her spouse. I would really like that idea because in this generation, life is so hard and meeting both ends is not only the work of a husband but of the wife. I will also do everything just to help my spouse. For now that I am at home since I am pregnant and will be due soon, I am still working but online only. I will still do my best to earn and save money for our family and if ever we have savings, I would opt to be an entrepreneur rather than to work for a company, but the bottom line is, I will always be a helping hand to my husband.

No one has set up a law but it was the wisdom or the tradition of old. If we read about Indus valley civilization we read there that the royal women were highly educated and they used to take part in public debates.But I cannot remember whether they used to work. Then coming down the civilization the woman was confined to the kitchen, cleaning rearing the children and feeding the family and entertaining the guests. Some men never used to peep into the kitchen. They never participated in the household work. They would converse with the guest and woman would do the service. Today it is not for the sake of meager salary alone, but today the woman has studied. In the society we can see in ordinery family set up, men study upto intermediate, and they seek to work for the reason that they do not want to sit with books. The woman is highly qualified . In certain states most of the women even the poorest women are qualified with post graduate degree. Some decades back the rich families used to keep the housemaid to work at home and the wife would sit in front of the TV all the day long. But today, qualified women do not want to ask for money from their husband They want to be self sufficient. Then the husbands salary is not enough. But those who pay the dear price are the children and the women. The women do the housework, prepare the children to send them to school and they go to work. When they are back home already late in the evening and start cooking. The children are deprived of their parents' warmth. They are confined either to the video game, internet or sports watching. They eat late, retire to bed late and in the school they doze with heavy eyes.

Its the responsibility of the father to take care of the financial needs of the family but now a days its becoming realistic that the mother need to go to work for some extra income. As a couple u both have an equal responsibility to your family and u need to be together in all the decision u will make and this is similar when it comes to work. So I don't think this is an issue with the couple. Im a mother of a 2 year old boy and i'am working same as my husband. There is a lot of reason why women need to go to work and yes it might hurts your pride and ego but it will depend on how will u take care of that issue.

In today's modern times, both the husband and the wife should work, in order to provide for all the needs and comforts of the family . However, they should take into consideration, if there are still small children to take care of. Because if there are , then certainly they would need a helper to tend at home while they are at work. If having this additional helper would still give the wife a net income that is still big, then the wife can work too. But if not, then the wife can make other means while at home, so she could at the same time take care of the children.

Although I still think men should take more responsibility at making money, it's OK for me that my wife goes to work. By working we get chances to deal with other people, learn new stuff, and improve ourselves by handling challenges. It's fun to work when you do something you like. So I hope my wife could work on something she thinks attractive. But my wife found her job boring, and she think she'd better stay at home.

I am a wife and I am the one supporting our family. I guess you are right with your decision, just let your wife continue with her job. It's boring to stay at home. I can't stand staying at home for a day or two. But there are times that I feel so frustrated with my life. I don't dream of becoming a breadwinner. I only do it for the sake of my children. If not for them, I shouldn't have been working. I'm tired of being a breadwinner. Maybe your wife is happy with your situation because you are also working. For me it's different. I just wish that I should have been working only to add support to the family not the main supporter.

In my country, there is no longer an expectation for the woman in the relationship to stay at home and look after the children. These days, the two people in the couple are much more likely to be equal and both have jobs rather than just have the man going out to work and leaving the woman to look after the children. I work from home, so in a way I have the best of both worlds. I am able to do the housework and look after the children, and I am also able to earn money at the same time. This is excellent, as it means that I am able to multitask. I wouldn't be able to do all of this if I was working in an office job for example.

hi arnoldream i am a girl and for me it is much better that i would work i mean it depends upon the spouse if she like's to work and to the husband but for me i would like to work to earn more money for my husband and for my children , i do not like to have some pride and ego that i do not like to work because of the tradition, many families now experience proverty so both of the mother and father are working.