September 30, 2011 11:23am CST
Is anyone here never had a guy or a girl in your life? Why do you think your still single? I myself is so NBSB, in person. I had boyfriends before but just through texts and calls and so I don't really know how it feels to have someone there, always there for you. I used to think my friends are enough for me, but I guess I was just trying to justify myself. Some of my friends say I'm a snob and easily irritated and strict and too quiet with strangers, that's why men are afraid to know me. They keep saying, my guy is just there, waiting for us to meet or perhaps I already met him anywhere. I don't know. Of course, I want to experience having one. You know, being in love, doing corny things, being hurt. Maybe just, not yet. Aw. Trying to justify myself again. LOL. What do you think? Am I the problem here? :)
30 Sep 11
hello my dear friend i think you are feeling lonely you need someone special in your life because you have you friends then too you feel so and just a bit change yourself see how the situation changes and i do not think you are in problem it happen with anyone in life it is normal do not worry
1 Oct 11
Hi sheetal. :) I don't really feel lonely at the moment. It's just that.. all of my friends already have one and sometimes I can't relate on what they're going through. And I admit, it can be so frustrating. LOL. I just wonder when will we meet. :D And maybe you are right. Maybe I should change my style. But on the second thought, I don't have to change, he should accept me for who I am, whoever that man would be. I don't know. :) I just know he's out there. Have a great day!
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2 Oct 11
I am 31 and never had a girlfriend myself. For a while, I never thought about the need of dating because I was too busy with work and school. Then I realize I was becoming this workaholic, and missing out on life, since I was having less time for myself, let alone sleep, dealing with work and school. But now, things are different. I was in my 20s at the time, and thought I was enjoying myself. Now, at 31, it doesn't feel the same. One can only enjoy having fun by themselves for so long. Currently, I am unemployed and found myself in a bad situation that I am climbing out of, so I thought, this is not the right time to date anyone. My thoughts were, how am I supposed to take her out or treat her to something if I am not working? But who am I kidding, I can't let this hold me back. All of my friends are in some type of relationship, so I don't really talk to them, also they tried to set me up before and that didn't go so well, as well as telling people I am a ruthless womanizer. I have tried going out with someone before, but have dealt with lies, and deception, and rejection, and a trip to Intensive Care (I met her fiancee the hard way; she never mentioned that she was engaged). For some reason, without thinking about it, the urge to have a woman is growing inside. Age? Hormones? I don't know, but I better sort this out while that fire inside is growing.
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2 Oct 11
Well you must be knowing the reason , why things went wrong, i never had any gf before marriage, no pre-marital love affairs, i got married in 1966, i am happy with my wife, we are a very loving couple lol. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor
30 Sep 11
i have a friend who never have a gf since birth too, but maybe that's because he was raised in a broken family so he decided to never have a family of his own. But as a friend he's a good friend and he seems not having a problem with his way of life. So i think as long as you happy, it doesn't matter if you have a spouse or not..
30 Sep 11
hi, i am 29 and like you NBSB but it doesn't make me a less better person than others who have lots of BFs. 50% my choice and 50% because i have other priorities... there's nothing wrong with you because guys who likes of loves you will find enough good things in you that others wont see.
1 Oct 11
Hi midnightbliss. :) You're right it doesn't make me a less better person. All of my friends already have their boyfriends.. And I watched too many movies.. So I guess I'm just a bit envious and getting impatient.. LOL. I still have a lot o ambitions so I think I I just have to set aside that thought. Thank you for stopping by! Have a great day!
30 Sep 11
no man is an island everyone need someone....hey i am still single and 35 and have no plans to marry i like it this way but i am not lonely i have a loving family and friends and am i am one of those people always busy so i don't have time to stop and think if i am lonely...it is my choice i have had boyfriends and propsals in the past....it was just meant to be this way...don't worry about it...you won't die if you don't have a boyfriends..only if you stop breathing hehe xxx but you never know he might have already fallen in love with you and you just don't know it you gotta get out and about.....
1 Oct 11
Thank you namccull! :) That's good to know. I guess you finally knew what really makes you happy. I hope you can find the love of your life soon enough. :) Yes, I won't die without them. I lived for the past 20 years of my life without them. :D I just thought I watched too many romance movies that I kinda envy them now.. Anyway, thank you for sharing and stopping by. Have a great day! :)
30 Sep 11
You had boyfriends before so you are the one who knows where it did go wrong and you did had the experiences you are talking about. If you did not have those experiences you picked out the wrong guy(s) or you were not able to go that far. Make a list of the boyfriends you had, did they have something in common? Make a list of the guys you might like. Does that pic has something in common with the guys you had? Perhaps you are a snob but I don't think that will scare away men in general. I believe you are just not ready for a relationship and if so there is nothing wrong with that. This is 2012, no need to catch a guy to take care of you. And if you scare away men then it will probably because of the fact(s) you show you are independent, educated and smart. Men don't like that kind of women (even if they say they do). Men like women who need them. Who play dumb, show interest in them, tell them how great they are etc etc.. You will see if you behave like that you have no problem to catch one. The only problem will be if you still like yourself.
1 Oct 11
Hi WakeUpKitty. :) Thank you for the advise. :) My past boyfriends on text or calls, I didn't really know how they look, and of course I never met them. And I really can't say If who was the problem, me or them. I really can't say cause obviously I don't have much experience yet. You said men like girls who play dumb, show interest in them or tell them how great they are.. Definitely not me. I am not the showy kind of person. I'm just not really good with words but I'm quite sure I'm fun to be with because my friends like hanging out with me. I have this guy that I like and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. And the problem again, is we haven't met yet. We were just introduced by a friend. I just hope he will still like me when we get to meet each other. Hayzt.. Thanks again. Have a great day! :D