Why is it that some friends NEVER respond to my discussions?

What is this thing about 'friends'' topics or 'friends'' responses. If you have this thought then you will not be happy here. I would suggest that you do what I do. I never look at who has responded to my topics or whose topic it is I am responding. The meaning of the word 'friend'here is not the same as in the real world. Happy myLotting jenny!

They're misguided, believing: - that 'more on the discussions they start' earns them more money than 'more on the discussions they add-to' (it doesn't, they both move the same amount of money) - that myLot is supposed to 'replace the 9-to-5' (it isn't supposed to, it's supposed to be 'just fun' and myLot's owners graciously allow us to share in their profits) What I do, I receive friends' started-discussions in my email (along with the 'hot discussions'-newsletter and replies to discussions I've added-to); and I try to spend as much time on others' discussions as I spend on my own discussions.

I have days when I just read. I also have had friends disappear for long periods of time.Some of your friends may not be online when you are and then your discussions get buried and they do not see them. I should be in bed right now myself. You posted this twenty three hours ago, and this is the first I have seen it.

hi jennybianca with me I ha ve been so b acked up with yours and all the others of my friends I just have not been able to catch up yhet, I had 300 notifications from all my fri ends after mylot fixed all the glitches and I am trying really hard to respond to as many as I possibly can. I was ill last night and this morning so did not get any mylotting done until just now. I am sad that you are not getting the responses you hope for as your discussions are always really interesting. I know you are an excellent respnder and I do 'try to be too.Yes sometimes some of my friends do not respond but I chalk it up to all of us getting behind because of the mylot glitches.

Hi jennybianca I am only going to respond to discussions of friends who have at some point, responded to mine - Well with 7000+ I think it is going to be really daunting in selecting and finding out people who responded at least once. I tried that and I felt bored - I was under 3000 then. You mention - I have friends here, some recent and some old, who have never responded to any of my discussions - Well, how "friends"? I mean were they friends before you joined Mylot? If yes, you can reach out to them and ask. But if they were from Mylot, well, here different people have different tastes and many a times, they have many more close friends to attend to. So maybe they keep themselves occupied there. If I could, I would recommend - try out removing a few friends from your list - 300+ (is a number beyond my capacity) - those who are non-active and once your friends list is shorter, it will be easier to manage and go by your statement. I also think about the emails that you recieve in your mailbox with that 300+ figure of friends

Hi Jenny I don't know. I haven't seen any discussions from you in awhile. I do get over run with discussions from some folks and just give up and do something else out of boredom sometimes. I sometimes end up deleting people who clog up my emails with nonsensical discussions. It does get annoying when the same person starts discussion after discussion. I'll answer when I'm interested.

I think a couple of things happen as to why some never respond. The first being different cultures and not being able to relate to the discussion. Some of the friends that I have I can't relate to the topic or the discussion is so choppy I can't understand what the point is and skip right over it. Since I receive all discussions in my email after reading I decide if I want to go to the discussion. This leads to my second thought as to why this can happen. Many times I go to a friends discussion to respond and upon arriving and reading the responses they are all the same response, pretty much says what I was going to say. So I leave the discussion without leaving a response. I also don't like to read through more than 3 or 4 pages so if the discussion by the time I have gotten to it is past unless the discussion is really interesting I skip altogether. I have also turned off a few notifiers of friends, due to the overload of my email with discussions started in a day. So I never receive notification of these discussions and since 99% of the time this is how I respond I never see them. My notifiers aren't off on your discussions since this discussion was delivered to my email. When I arrived you only had one response and therefore my response would be original. I also look for discussions that I can jump around in others response boxes. I would rather spend my time in one or two discussions a day than wait for discussions to be delivered that I can respond to. This is how I mylot, and I'm sure others have different ways of operating.

I have noticed that new trend here lately. When I don't respond to a friend discussions, that friend would not respond to mine. It is not that I don't want to respond to friends discussions but most of the topics are not within my range of knowledge and rather than responding just for the sake of responding, I don't feel comfortable going out of topic and be told off by the OP to read the discussion again. I'll always try to support my friends discussions where I can relate well.

Hi there, Have quickly read some of what people have written to you, I hope what people have said has cheered you up. I came back to mylot as my hubby found a way not ot get virus from it and because my children now do there own thing but they still need me around and there is only so much you can do sometimes while waiting to be so called on call. This is good on mylot as you can just leave it and come back to it.

Why worry about it, people do what they chose to do here. If a friend is not responding and it annoys you write them a pm and if they don't respond then delete them, you are in control. Myself I never pay any attention to those that do not respond.

I think that this is the good old 80/20 rule that seems to come into play in every group of people. In sporting clubs or other volunteer groups, 80% of the people do 20% of the work and 20% of the people do 80% of the work. This has been studied in all sorts of areas and found to be true in most cases across the board. Activity with friends on social networks is no different. We normally interact with only 20% of our friends 80% of the time usually. The other 80% we only interact with occasionally making up roughly 20%. There is no getting around this rule. It is just human nature.

Hello, You are with my lot for a long period than me. Your understand better attitude of lotters. I noticed it that some lotters like to post only discussion. They don't like to comments of the responds they received. Although is it moral duty to do so. Some are like only to responds on discussion, like me. I like only to responds on topics which are of my interest. Take it easy. We must be do our work honestly.

Friend I will check your discussion I think my English is week so sometime not understand but I promise next time if I not understand then I will ask you and respond. Yes I observe you always respond on my discussion. You are a good friend of me so this is bad I am not responding on your discussion sorry for it. But now since last 3 weeks I not more active in mylot and this will continue till Diwali festival.

hmmm...Because i think people have the right to choose..it also happened to me when i was newly logged here in mylot community.but as i logged in how many times, i can see the progress...

Short and sweet - I know what you mean!

Hi there. I highly, highly doubt any of these friends mean it personally. I have a lot of friends on here that have responded to the same discussions I have, and therefore we tend to have at least a few of the same interests. Some of them start discussions that, quite frankly, I have no knowledge about and/or interest in responding to. I think that to respond to discussions from your myLot friends simply because of their online "friendship" with you is to lead to things that myLot itself speaks against. For example, writing short responses because you really don't have much to say, or responding to the same types of discussions over and over again simply because they were started by a few of your friends. Also, there are many types of myLot users. Some are on here every day and seem to come to myLot with their morning coffee. There are others that only visit occasionally, or, even others like myself, who really need to be in the mood to sit down and prod that intellectual part of my mind so I can respond thoughtfully. If my friends thought like you did, I doubt I'd have any friends! I read my myLot Digest email everyday, and if something interests me, like this one, I log into myLot, respond to the discussion, and then browse for a little while. Every once in awhile, I use the different tabs like you do to find "Friends Started". Personally, I don't avoid responding to friend's discussions, nor do I think it's rude if I start a discussion and some of my online friends don't respond. I always assume for the best, and assuming for the best is nearly always right: my friends have either not seen my discussion, haven't been on myLot in a little while, or simply don't know enough about the subject to respond. In the case that they haven't a clue, I'd rather them not respond at all than to spam my thread.

I have only started a few discussions so I can't really say. However I agree with you and think at least one discussion should be responded to if there are a lot. The thing that usually makes you accept friends are common interests so it only makes sense that there should be one discussion that could be replied to.

I never tried to replay all discussions started by my friends and I don't think my friends do the same too. I ignore the headings until something don't catches my eyes. Reading your comments I see you are here more for friendship not for money but what about your friends who are here for money not for friendship. They don't even think you can be posting too.

I only have 2 friends here and I do not respond to their discussions either and it's nothing to them. Actually, I only have one friend who's starting discussions, the other one is not active. As for your situation, may I say, please don't compare yourself to others. If you are responding to their discussion, don't expect to return it back to you. We are all different. You said that from now on, you will only respond to those who are responding to yours. I hope to read some updates on it. :)

I think the only one who can tell you why they don't respond are your friends. I respond on the subjects (friends first) I like or I have an opinion about. Some I only read. Might be your friends have so many friends it's not possible to answer them all?