Your husband is cheating on you..

What is the purpose of your friend in posting her marital problem in social networking site. So that his husband may know that she already knew what he had done. Posting it in the site will make it more public and scandalous. She shuld have talked to her husband about their problem.

Hi sweetie. She probably added that women out of anger. I am sure she either regret doing that or will regret it eventually. She should have talked to her husband about it. To do the things she did, not acceptable at all, even if you are hurt or angry. I won't do it, i will leave him the second i find out he has another relationship behind my back.

I believe your friend could have handled the situation in a somewhat more mature manner. However, until someone is in the same situation they can't really say how they would react. Maybe she felt this would be the best way to handle the situation and at the moment maybe it was the only thing she felt she could do.

I don't think we can criticize anyone until we are in their shoes. My first husband came home once with a female's phone number in his wallet. He had come home very early in the morning after going out by himself. He passed out on the couch so I got his wallet to get the key to my car out of it. (He always kept it in there, why I don't know.) The car was mine, I had bought it and paid for it before he and I even met. He did not have a car and I had just decided that he would NEVER use my car again to go out and cheat on me. Anyway, while he was still passed out, I called the girl's number. I asked her if she knew him. She hesitated, then I told her that he is married, to which she gasped and said, "He told me he wasn't married!" I told her that I was not angry at her but that she may be called in as a witness in a divorce hearing. All I wanted to know from her was what they had done together because this was it for our marriage. It was all the proof I needed to get a divorce. After speaking with her, I called my lawyer who advised me to gather some of his clothes and put them near the door, wake up my husband and tell him to get out. I did. Once a cheater, always a cheater. A cheater can (and usually does) promise never to do it again but they always do. I can't blame your friend for wanting to know what was going on with her husband and this other girl. She wants proof of the cheating. Just suspecting something can be extremely frustrating and I doubt she wanted to approach her husband when she really didn't have anything other than his phone. Once she got to know this girl, she would know for sure if they were cheating or not. The girl may be completely innocent, like the girl my ex husband was with. She may think he's not married; he may have told her he's not married.

That's really a sad story where husband or wife cheat their spouse. I am also a victim in that kind of superfluous activity. My partner also cheated me while she is in abroad. She has a man in there...really hurt me so much when I know everything about it... But I don't post anything in fb to make her life ruin. I just wait for the right time to be eligible for justice...

I think the reason why your friend want to make friends with the other woman is just because she wants to know if she has a shortcoming in their relationship being a wife so that she has still a chance to change her attitude for the sake her family,,,,

I would leave my husband if find out he was cheating on me on my back.Thats just no acceptable. I think your friend added this woman on fb so she could tell her to leave her husband alone.May be that another women is in dark too about his marriage.

When you are betrayed by someone you dont know is sure can make you angry and disappointed then what more if the traitor is the person whom you offered your love, your future, your life.? Whatever that reaction of your friend is just normal for someone who have suffered infidelity. Every individual has its own way in dealing trials and even mature people do the very insane thing when hurt so bad. Your friend need not to be criticized nor judged but sincere understanding and a pair of ears to listen on her woes. Yes what she did or doing is out of the mores our society accepts but it was just a reaction of a human who have been pained. Everything has its right time. Allow her to feel her anger and let the healing process come next. "if you are in my friends situation will you dare do the same???" Ill definitely get furious just like your friend but ill be more evil..hehe..ill definitely see them both in court and would be happy to send them both behind bars.

I am sure that out of anger she reacted this way. I personally would not react this way and actually divert my anger towards the husband. He is the one who disrespected her and not sure why the other woman needs to be tortured. Sometimes the other woman is not even aware of the man is married or not so not safe to assume that she was aware as she can be a victim here as well. So now I would not do the same and actually leave him for being disloyal. I would expect the same loyalty and this is not something I do. As for the other woman even if she knew he was married I would not stoop to their level and hope she can find happiness with a man who likes to share himself with others as I am sure it does not just stop here.

It's understandable why your friend invited the other girl's social network page, but on the other hand it is kind of childish to post her personal problems on a social network. By her letting everyone know that her husband is cheating wont solve the problem. What she should have done was get a hold of her husband and confront him.

I think this is a problem with long distance relationships and even marriages where one spouse lives away from home.. or way off in another country. The husband may have needs and doesn't want to take care of them himself and will search out a partner just to pass the time with and not be lonely. That's no excuse, but it happens quite a lot. No, I wouldn't have done what your friend did... I would just divorce him for not being faithful and leave him and his girlfriend alone. It just looks bad for a wife or husband to behave that way by getting mad at the one the spouse cheated with. The one he cheated with didn't cheat on her.. her husband did. She should be mad at her husband for cheating.. not at the girl, in my opinion. I also wouldn't try to ruin his reputation by calling him a cheater in public on facebook.. I'd just leave him alone.

You cannot blame for your friend, she's just so mad about what happened and I think that is acceptable. No one wants to be cheated. For the boy, he deserves the treatment that his wife has done. If in her position, I will definitely do worse than that.

if that would be me,maybe i should talk to my husband first and confront him about that (not sure though). but as i was reading this story,i feel sorry for your friend. cause i know, she's realy hurt that's why she made that move. i can't imagine myself if that will happen to me,maybe that's the time i'll go abroad and come back as a millionaire.LOL.

Your friend must be very angry, but your friend can not control the anger. Any upset, it's all happening, and what is done by your friends, will not change the situation. Keep a quiet heart, to solve a problem like this. Talking with her husband, is to be done.

Well, I hope that this situation does not get worse. I think there should be more understanding here. The man leaves the wife, but one must remember that men have urges, unlike women. Maybe he was just playing around, and has no intentions of getting serious with the other woman. I am not saying that it is right for him to be playing around. In fact, I am saying that he is wrong. I am just saying that I think your friend should try to find out first if she and the kids are in grave threat of being left behind by the husband or not.

It should not be that way because you never knew if it is really true. Usually there are those doing some kind of joke to a friend calling them to a sweet nothing words. She should have a one to one talk to her husband to enlighten her of the true set up between the two, her husband and the girl.

I don't think I would do the same way as her action. It's not the best way to solve the problem to her husband. This means her actions is irrational way to confront the situation. She should think wisely before acts. Instead, it would bring their relationships even worse when issues are getting bigger. The best thing to do for her is to talk to her husband personally and solve this issues.

I am not agree with your friends does in internet, cant she realize that they are both a victim by her husbands and besides it is not funny to drag a family matters on Facebook where both of their family will see it. Plus the fact that what if their children will see it and so their friends too! I understand her anger toward his husband but she should scold her husband and not the other girl.

I completely trust my husband.It's certainly that I will angry this kind of things. The distance is very terrible and they need talk clearly each other.

If i were in the position, I should talk to my husband, know the reasons why he did such, my decision would be dependent on his explanation and sincerity. If he feels sorry for what he did, i would accept and forgive him only if this was only the first time, (twice or trice is another story). Forgive but never forget. Just move on and be hopeful that he will never do that again.