What my Mother in Law wants..

how about book? about some one biography? maybe she will like it, and read it. did she have any favorite people?

My mother always told me, and I have found it to be true, that purses and shoes are very difficult to give as gifts. That's because individual tastes vary so greatly. Also, if your mother-in-law is anything like me, unless the shoes and purse are very casual, she may not have outfits that "she" thinks they will go with. Also, she may have worn/used the shoes and purse, but you just haven't seen her. When not in use, she may keep them nice in their original bag/box. I do that with really nice things I have purchased or received. As far as gift recommendations, is there a perfume that you KNOW she likes and WEARS? Don't try something new because scents don't always smell the same on different people. Also, like shoes, tastes are very individual. Some like scents with a floral base, while others prefer a spice base. Unless you know it's something she wears, it's usually better to stay away from perfumes. Does she collect anything? My ex mother-in-law collected Hummels. They were expensive but we could usually purchase a smaller one within our budget. My mother collected brass items and crystal items. Those were always safe purchases for her. Since she is a Bible study teacher, perhaps you could go to a religious store, if there is one in your area. Or even a card shop. Perhaps a nice religious bookmark to use in her bible, or something along those lines. How about a pretty little cross necklace? When all else fails, a gift card from one of her favorite restaurants or stores enclosed in an appropriate greeting card (birthday, anniversary, etc.) would be nice and probably definitely used. With parents (and I say this because I'm now a parent of adult children), it's more about being remembered, even with a card, than it is about the gift. Jennifer

Maybe a gift card to some place she likes going with her friends? It's hard to shop for some people because they just don't use anything you get them. I actually like purses/bags because I don't buy them often myself. I've received 2 or 3 very nice ones as gifts from friends in the past. This is why I love when people use registries for babies and weddings because at least you can get them something you know they want, as well as something you'd like them to have lol.

Why not simply give her money and let her buy whatever she wants, that way you can save a lot of trouble, and you know, she can spend that money whatever she likes. No hassle, and no headache. Right now, you scratch off your scalp, you can't think of anything that please her though.

Most women love jewelry and anything from the bath and body department. I usually try to steer clear of buying them clothing or accessories because you never know what type of taste someone has. We're all so different, so even though she probably appreciated what you gave her, it just may have not been her style. Try getting her a nice necklace or a set of earrings if she has her ears pierced. Maybe even some lotion or body wash. Women love things like that.

Hello Tamirs, It happens with me too my mom don't like whatever we give her as gift so what we do is take her along with us for shopping and whatever she likes there we buy it and give it to her as gift. It happens that what you like is not essential that others will like so don't feel bad for it and think of what better can be done.

My suggeston is to give a gift coupon purchased from a book store that sells different books on Christianity and the Bible. She can make her choice.If our husband is sure of what seh would appreciate he should do the buying.

Best thing to do is give her giftcard.Let her buy whatever she wants.

My grandmother was this way, where no matter what people gave her she appeared to always like the gifts and always seemed appreciative. But she never even took them out of their packaging. When she passed she had loads of things people gifted her with the years tucked in drawers and her closet. I would probably ask her if there is anything special she would really like. Maybe just dinner and flowers would be something she might enjoy. Maybe just an afternoon with the people she loves with some cake and tea. Hope she has a wonderful 50th birthday.

tamirs Gosh sorry she isn't using your gift..sounds fairly expensive too. It is hard to buy things like that for someone else. I wonder if your son or you could just ask her...and then try to find out what she would like. Depending on the circumstances, you could always get her a token gift..like a coffee mug with a gift certificate to one of her favorite stores. Good luck to you

the gift is trifling but the feeling is profound.

How about some books about teaching?That will tell her how to teach others.

How about some books about teach?That will tell her how to teach others.

was it your first gift to your mother-inlaw? if it was,then i have a reason to explain.she would have wanted to preserve that as your first gift and didn't want to ruin it by using it. if it is not,then obviously she must not have loved that gift and so she wasn't using it. well i don't have a mother -in-law so i don't even have the choice of giving her some gifts.i feel an emptiness in the house without her as if she would have been around,my life would had been a bit easy.i truly miss her presence here.i have never seen her but my neighbors and relation always prays her for her good nature. if she would have been alive,i would have gifted her with a beautiful saree and a pair of earings on her birthday.

Hmm.. it could be that she loves the bag/shoe so much that she doesn't want to spoil it and so keeps it safe in her cabinet...I know I do that sometimes. What about trying to see what you think she might need? Or something that she wants to buy but hasn't gotten around to buying yet?

hi tamirs maybe the shoes do not fit and she hates to tell you that. I would try to find out her favorite store and give her a gift certificate to that store so she could pick out something she really wants and has not had the money for and stick it in a bag of her favorite candy or cookies or something she loves thats edible. Or a certificate for so many dinners at her favorite restaurant so she does not have to cook for herself 'all the time. just ideas. I know at that age I loved to get gift certificates as I could buy what I really wanted. lol lol

Hmm well why not gather her friends and have a little party, or invite them over at the house, make a little program for her. I guess this is the time of their lives that they know material things do not count that much but its the memories.. make a little program, have the kids sing or dance if they would like to..and create a powerpoint presentation with her pictures, like a compilation, i guess she would appreciate that best,

hi buddy, nice to listen your attitude towards the older one. From my side, at the age of 50 it's not gifts that attracts her but it's the caring that you give towards matters. So your gift should include something that shows her you people are caring her much. Like some photos of her with all you people..getting them framed. take care...

I think she just want to keep those bag because it has a sentimental value for her. When someone gives me a special give,no matter how beautiful it is,i will not use it. Maybe she is just like me when it come in special gifts.. Every birthday of my mom i always cook lasagna for her. You can also try to cook spaghetti for her. I think she will appreciate it.

i think you should give her a surprise party with her amigas/friends and make her a tribute video i think she will be the happiest person ever on that day,,,,,,,