My depression started when I cameback home.

Philippines
October 28, 2011 8:31am CST
Good day fellow mylotters, I was away from home for 5 years. That, I need to work far from my family. And in that span of year that I was away, I have missed my family that much. So I have decided and come up to a decision to redirect my career path. I have decided to comeback home after 5 years. But, I feel so sad what have had happened when I came back. As they are showing some gestures that they don't want me to be here anymore. As they always asked me, why I don't go out and look for an 8-hour desk job work. As they show some feeling of irritation towards me. They do not want to talk to or communicate with me. And as a result, I somehow feel depressed. And, last night, I just can't help but cry. I just sleep and ended up in crying.
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13 responses
@diala84 (138)
• United States
28 Oct 11
To me it sounds like they want you to be independent and live on your own. I think a lot of young adults find themselves going back home to live. Some parents don't want to become enablers preventing their children from finding good careers, friends and romantic partners. I really hope their intentions are to look out for your and make sure you are following a career path that is right for you rather than fitting it to living near home. Try to look for work and find a place nearby so you can visit them more often. Hopefully they will treat you better when they know you are taking care of yourself. Good luck.
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
28 Oct 11
Hi Airasheila, I am so sorry to hear that and it must be painful for you. I used to feel like that way. I was far away from home when i was in school since i was a little kid. Sometimes i just felt my parents dumped me and did not love me.All their love went towards my sister.She had everything and she stayed home. But that's so not true.They loved us both. I thought my Mom always care about her business and never cared about me. But now I know she was just working hard,trying hard to provide us a nice home, a good money to go to college. So i think your parents are just worrying about you.You know, they alwyals want you have the best and they care about you. Now you redirect your career path,they just concerned about it.they might worry about what if it doesn't go well? You are going to be jobless? So that want you to find a job.a stable job:) That's what i thought. but it would be great if you can communicate with them,tell them how you feel:)
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
29 Oct 11
Ohhhhh my friend dont worry we all are with you and whenever you feel such depression join mylot and read my funny story like a man married with 39 wives, bathroom study etc. and I know you will be laugh at least once. But friend I think you feel such your family not need you but in actual they need you and happy when you return back but not show. Dont cry because more cry means eyes problem. I know some time after crying or sharing our problem we feel happy but not more cry.
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 11
Hello Airasheila, Oh soory for what you are facing from your family members.It seams that when you were away from your home for 5 five years your family members adjusted to live without you and now when you have come back they are not able to adjust with you and it looks they were more comfortable when you were away from home. Don't worry they will change with the time but you need to make your presence felt by your family members then only they will know the importance of yours.But the situation is not that bad because being a part of the family they will have to accept you and will have to adjust you as previously so don't cry and go ahead in life.
@francesca5 (1344)
29 Oct 11
maybe when you were working and living away from home it made you feel grown up and independent, and then when you came back your family was critical and you had lost your independence. is it possible to find a job nearer to home, but that would allow you to live independently from them, as then you could still be near them, but live independently. there could be many reasons for your familes behaviour, they may be worried about other things, and because they haven't seen you as an independent adult they may still see you as a child, and so not understand your reasons for returning.
@boyuancy (1708)
• India
21 Nov 11
Hi, sorry about that. I guess your family has learned to live without you. They missed and missed you and when you didn't come back they just learned to fill the void. I would suggest to just hang in there as long as your family gets used to you being around again and all will turn out well. Good luck.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
29 Oct 11
why don't you ask them what if any problems they have with you?
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
hi. i am sorry that you seem to be not having a nice time with your family. when you said 'come up to a decision to redirect my career path', what does it mean? does it mean that you came back home to have another job? if that is so, why does it seem that they're pushing you to find an 8 hour desk job? are you the breadwinner? if the answers to all the questions are yes, then could it be that it has something to do with the unlikely gestures? better yet, i think i would suggest that you have to talk to them and tell them how you feel. it would not be good to be carrying the grudges without even trying to settle things. hope everything will be okay with you and your family.
• India
29 Oct 11
Regular meditation make me good life, you can also follow.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
29 Oct 11
I have to say that I didn't understand why your family would treat you this way. They didn't missed you when you are away? I guess that they probably did otherwise you would not come back to your home. For me, the best thing you should do, is talk with your family and see why they are having this weird attitude with you.
• India
29 Oct 11
we need to relax ourselves when we are at home. Don't think of anything just go ahead and spend your time with your loved ones.
@Mashnn (4501)
29 Oct 11
Sorry for what is happening to you, it is sad to be left out. I would advise you to be honest to them and ask whether they really want you there. If they don't, you can look for a job or somewhere else to live. It is hard if you live with people mistreating you every day.
• China
29 Oct 11
So sorry to hear that. May be there are some ravine in youo and your family. As you were away from home for 5 years, there would be many difference. But the family do and they say are so bad, which would be a sword insert your heart. But insist that you are a member of the family,try to solve this problem,come on, you do!