Adjusting to your Mom's happiness.
@Princelierocks (817)
India
October 30, 2011 9:12am CST
Hey Guys I want to start this discussion with Mom's happiness. My mom wanted to go for a weeding in evening, She told me that we will go together and attend the wedding, but i insisted because i was not in the mood of going anywhere i just wanted to relax and watch TV. Since all my mom's friends were attending the weeding She was requesting me to come, and I was like "No mom what will I do there no friends no nothing its good for you but not for me" After requesting a lot she then took a decision that She will not go. But somewhere i felt that iam actually blocking my Mom's happiness cause her face looked so sad when i said something she answered very slowly, Later I made my decision whatever it may be its just a matter of time and I agreed to the situation and then the joy on my mom's face I couldn't explain. So guys what would you do if you were in my Place. Assume that you have no mood to go at all. Will you go to a weeding just for your Mom's happiness.
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6 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
31 Oct 11
No, i will not go if i don't feel like going. She should not impose her happiness on u when u are not going to be happy there. IN my case, i will stick to my decision, staying at home. If she's showing me her unhappy face at home, i will tell her, that's what i feel if she insist on me going. By then, it will cause embarrassment to her, in front of her friends. Though she's your mom, she has no right to force u. It's your decision ultimately. Since u don't want to hurt her, u have to make the sacrifice.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
31 Oct 11
Hi Sanitary, Thanks for you opinion. Its indeed quite a harsh one for a decision, but it was the same feeling i felt when i was not in mood. Anyways everybody has different prospective of thoughts i appreciate you thought flow.
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@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
we know how our mother is very important to our lives. an effort to make them happy comes naturally for those who are indebted to their mothers. others would do everything to make their mothers happy. i am delighted to read about your decision to go with your mother. i know you would not regret it. anything for our mother is worth it.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
30 Oct 11
Hey Mensab, thanks for the opinion.. Our mom's love is one of the best thing in this world.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
A pleasant day Princelierocks,
With reference to your main topic discussion, it is indeed hard to say no to our mother. As she will gonna screwed up her mood immediately if we say no. But, what about our feelings. In this instance, I will just explain to my mom that, I am not feeling well to go with her. As she also needs to understand my situation. Though I know that we must follow our mother but, this is an exception to the rule. And this is an optional thing.
The bottomline is respect should be given to one another.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I would definitely do it for her sake and for all my loved one's sake. If only i could turn back time and bring my mom back to life i would be doing exactly what you did.
I value my family very much and there's nothing i wouldn't do for their own happiness. I'm very protective of my siblings.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Oct 11
It's difficult. I would find it normal that she has an own life and me also.
It would depend on the kind of wedding if I would go over there.
Over here it's not normal to go to a wedding when you are not invited and if you are invited it's normal to tell if you come or not. I would feel uncomfortable to show up on a wedding where I am not invited at.
On the other hand I can understand it that it's hard also to show up (invited) everywhere alone. Might be your mom did not feel comfortable there alone as well.
So if this is only once in a while I would go over with her for some time and made the best out of it. No matter if I know people or not. Sometimes unexpected visits can be very relaxing and fun too even when you are too tired to go over.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
30 Oct 11
Of course I will go with her even I dont feel like going out , first , I will take a shower and dress beautiful you will see how You feel in a good mood to go. Just to make your mother happy. I dont know if You are a mother , I guess not cause You are still living with her . but, mothers do many things that we dont want to do or dont enjoy when You are babies or kids , we change our lives 180* to be with our kids for many many years untill they are growups. so , what are 2 bored hours comparing with the many years we gave to our kids???? You did well at the end ,your mother will apreciate it. Thanks. have a nice weeding.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
30 Oct 11
Hi, thanks for your opinion, you know it was very hard for me to make the decision, I guess you being a mom would know it more better, cause you talked from the prospective of mom, From now on I made up my mind to do anything for my mom's happiness, Cause i would never forget the depressed and sad look of my mom when i said no. Thanks friend your advice.
