Sometimes quitting can be the best option

@Theresaaiza (10499)
Australia
October 30, 2011 11:16am CST
I realized through my experiences that quitting does not always mean losing. In some cases, it can be the best thing to do. For example, if a job or a relationship is bringing out the worst in me, and I have exhausted all means just to make it work and yet to no avail, I quit and celebrate the peace that I feel within. Somehow, something comes up - a new job, a new love, a new friend. They say you lose some, you win some. What are the things you so wanna quit from right now?
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
i want to quit my job but i cannot afford being unemployed. times are hard, and there are many obligations that one cannot think of losing a job. in this case and situation, quitting is not the best option.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I believe that it is you who will decide which is best for your situation. As for me I could easily quit the job I had because it was a volunteer job and if ever I lost anything, it was just experience which I can definitely still get elsewhere.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
not for me, i guess, it would take me lots of contemplation before quitting. i have to ensure getting another before i leave. i am not ready yet to be unemployed.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
5 Nov 11
Definitely understandable in your case because you have a family to think about. I guess it would appear like a very irresponsible step if you just quit without plan B.
• United States
1 Nov 11
I read an article the other day about how people who are able to quit are generally healthier. I can't remember why, although I imagine it has something to do with stress or happiness or something. Because when you try over and over again to do something and you keep failing, it just makes it worse. I get depressed when that happens. But when you decide to just let it go and give up, it becomes all better. There are so many things I want to quit and give up on. I have this one friend whom I wish I never met. He drives me crazy and it's impossible to deal with him but if I quit talking to him, I'll probably lose half my friends. But I can't try and make the friendship work anymore. We're just too different. It's weird. I remember this year I dropped all my honors classes because it was too much stress. This year feels so much better. And it's nice to know that even though I quit something, everything will be fine, probably better, in the end.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
Let me just give you a piece of thought. Try to think if these friends whom you are so afraid of losing are even worth keeping.If they are indeed true and real, they will be objective and not side with anyone.
@joni1215 (394)
• United States
5 Nov 11
I have been in that spot. And that is why I am searching for more meaningful relationships. Some people are just emotional vampires. They always dump their crap on a person and you offer them advice and they keep going on and it never ends. I agree with Theresaaiza, go ahead and drop this guy. And if you lose the others then they were not for you to begin with. Life is too short for all the drama. As we grow and change in life we will have some who go with us and some who will be left behind and it will happen often if you are on a path of personal growth. So, I think you know your answer you just need a bit more courage to do it.
• United States
31 Oct 11
I want to quit trying to look for a job that I can Never find! I thought it would be hard but not This hard. I am going to look for something else. I do believe once you stop and change direction things do happen for the best. I'm new to being This hopeful.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I also read it in a book that sometimes, the reason why we are not moving forward is because we do not widen or explore other paths. It also depends on your goals. If your only goal is to seek for money, there are so many around but sometimes we are the ones who are closed from it. If your goals however is to gain as much experience as you can sometimes you really have to sacrifice the financial benefit. Or you could entertain changing location because there could be opportunities somewhere outside your comfort zone that can give you both experience and financial compensation.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
That is the whole point , comfort. I rather be comfortable doing something than Have to suffer through a job Just for money.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 11
a nice discussion. well, sometime, in some situation, that true. but i still unknowledge about that.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
31 Oct 11
it takes a lot of thought indeed.
• Indonesia
31 Oct 11
yeah, you right. i still not much experience about that problem. so i not think and learn about that. your discussion give me more lesson, even for me that is only theory.
@megamatt (14304)
• United States
2 Nov 11
I don't like to personally quit at anything. Then again, I am stubborn like that. Where I really refuse to admit any kind of defeat whatsoever. That is just the way that I work. There are just many times where frustration is going to be something that is not going to get me down all that easily. Quitting is the last resort for me, the absolute last resort as far as I am concerned. And I tend to navigate through some tough ground. In the end, there are times where you just got to throw in the towel. Especially when its best that you just give up. We might not want to admit it, but there are many times where the end is going to be near. If nothing else, the experience, whatever it might be, might have some value. Yet it is really not something that is all that conductive to sanity at this point in time. At least that's the way I see things.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
5 Nov 11
I could only wish I were as tough as you. Seems to me like you're the kind to get a good amount of beating and still afford to rise up after every fall, which is definitely a very admirable character. I guess where and when to quit always depends on the kind of situation. Some things are just not worth fighting for.
2 Nov 11
I agree to that!Sometimes, depending on the case, quitting is the best solution, but,there are certain factors that we must consider before quitting.Lets ask ourselves, am I ready to hold back,to quit, to runaway?If I am, is it favorable to evryone involve in this case, or is it just me whose gonna have a positive change up?Am I not being selfish, if I quit?But for me,the best thing to do before we quit is this...talk to our God,our Healer and Provider, who knows everything...let's be honest to Him,admit our weakness, tell that you already want to give up, that you want to surrender all your worries and fears, that you want to quit for Him, so then, He'll take the wheel and guide you to no wilderness but new morning of no fear and no sorrow...Godbless guys..
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
That is a very wonderful response. Yes it is true that in every thing we undertake in life, there must be God in the middle of all those.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Actually, many times, quitting is the right answer. For smoking and gambling, quitting is the right answer. As for relationships that will not work, quitting is the right answer. For relationships with married people, quitting is the right answer. I totally agree with you here.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
Oh definitely we can use some quitting for our very bad habits.
@wongchoiyee (7447)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 11
Dear Theresaaiza, Quiting is the best way if you cannot tolerate anymore that you likely find peace within. Its good to know that still have peace. I am the same. I failed in realtionship and career. But now I think I wanted to continue my fight slowly and steadily wins the race. Good Luck!
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
If there is one thing we shouldn't quit on, it's on rising up whenever we fall.
@jpso138 (7856)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
Well, I guess you have provided a great example as to when to quit. I guess there are times in life that we have to choose whether to GO ON or to MOVE ON... I would say that you have decided to move on with life and this is the reason why you have found new things that were not there before. Sometimes we are blinded buy our fears, the fear of losing, the fear of not knowing.. but you certainly have cross that road and I wish you best as you make your new steps in life.. I am sure that they will open new doors for fun and love as well as new meaning in life... Best always!
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
That is really spot on! It always takes a lot of thought to let go of something because my biggest fear of all is to regret. One other fear is that in my pursuit, I may step on other people's happiness. I may have hurt some in the process but that's just life I guess. You are not obliged to please everyone. As for me, I still miss the people I used to work with. But what's great is that they never stopped being my friends.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
1 Nov 11
Hi Theresaaiza, I'm not sure if quit is the right word to use, but I stop pursuing a degree a number of years ago. I guess I was not able to get a chance at studying at a university back then. I changed my course, and pursue a diploma instead. Now I am happily married and working as a web designer. And the saying is correct, you lose some, you win some. I lose my degree, but I gain a whole new group of friends, a new passion, a good job and a loving husband. If I hadn't stop then, I believe I might not have what I have now.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I believe that in everything, something good always comes out. And yours is a perfect example.
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
It was just recently that I quit my job. However, I still have to do a complete turnover. I wish it would end soon and get on doing what I plan to do. I agree with you that quitting may not always means losing. A person got to do what he has to do. This time, I hope I made the right choice. I needed to quit to start with a new project. Best wishes to you.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I wish you all the luck in that project!
@joni1215 (394)
• United States
1 Nov 11
Maybe your outlook is what needs to change. Instead of thinking you are quitting, which makes a negative picture in the mind. Why not think about it as it's time to make a different choice. Some folks look at life as winning and losing, but that is really making things hard on yourself. If you just look at life as a series of choices you have made, then you can eh, maybe I didn't make the best choice at any given time, but you do take a lesson away from it without taking the emotions that might be attached.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
Yes your suggestion is good. Quitting is probably not the best term to use. And I agree that in every experience we have, we learn valuable lessons we can use later in life.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 11
Hi Theresa! Yeah, in some cases, quitting does not mean we giving up or like you said losing. I quit my previous job because I don't want to be in that environment which will affect my life. And now I am happy with my new job. I am not losing anything from it. Perhaps the pay may be less a bit than the previous but I don't feel regret. I made that decision when I get all the pros and cons that might happen after that. No point to be in a place you where you can't be yourself and you don't find any happiness. Things I want to quit now?? There isn't any~(^^)
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I remember the line, "less is more". When a new job has lower salary, but also with lesser stress, it was well worth the transition. I am happy that you found a job that is bringing out your best.
@airasheila (5455)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
A pleasant day Theresaaiza, Honestly, your main topic mesmerize my eyes. As I have felt a little upliftment. Since I have quit my job and redirect my career into another path. When I have read it, "sometimes quitting can be the best option", I somehow realize, that, quitting does not mean loosing. Perhaps, I am just redirected to take another path to win and earn my progress. And does not mean that I have give up, I just have to try harder.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I am pleased as well that my post here has been "uplifting" for you. I hope you gave it a lot of thought prior to finally quitting and wish you well on your future plans.
• India
31 Oct 11
Well i would agree with you on this one here. Quitting does mean losing all the time. It means experience. Gives you a chance to know something much better than yourself. It's just an option that shows what not to do and teaches you more than winning sometimes in life. If a person never loses means he meticulously plans out every step as he is afraid of losing that leads him to winning. And also too much of a good thing is also bad so it's not good at all Cheers!
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
It took me a long time and a lot of thought before arriving at that decision. I am not saying that quitting "right away" is good. A lot of discernment must be done before finally deciding to let go.
@tamirs (1807)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
I can say i am so happy now with the life i have chosen after quitting my job.. I decided to quit my job more than a month ago when a problem arises here in our house but quitting seems appropriate at that time,and im glad i did... :-)
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
Hi tamirs, I am glad that you are happy with the decisions you made. While other people can easily regret, you are being positive despite everything and that quitting even made things better for you.
@annierose (18950)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
You are right.Sometimes, there is no way out on some situations but to quit. I had gone with stressing situations in my love life. We have been through quite long years.During those times, I thought that he is the man who will walk with me in front of the altar, but I was wrong. He made an action that made me quit on our relationship no matter how painful it is. Before that, we had an on and off relationship. I tried to be strong and stay happy but I cannot fool myself for a long time. He started to be cold on me and I cannot ignore it. Then, I just decided that since the relationship is not that strong anymore and we could not understand each other anymore, so I just decided to quit.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
Hi annierose, my heart pours out to you. I don't have a heartbreak story to share as of yet and hopefully I would never have to but I find you to be a very strong girl and with that I can say that you truly deserve someone better in life.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Hi, there! I totally agree with you. Quitting does not always mean losing. It's so true. If a certain situation you are in right now seems to be hurting so much and makes you exhausted, I guess the best way to do is to just let go and preserve a little something for yourself. Right now, I am in the midst of deciding whether to let go of my relationship or save it. I can't seem to stand this anymore. I don't understand why my boyfriend acts strange on me. I kept on trying to ask him why is he acting this way. But he would refuse to talk to me and it irritates me. It's been three days already and I'm thinking to just let him be that way and I'll release my love on him. It really hurts though but I can't let him hurt me thoroughly. I believe I can be better without him.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
There are times when quitting is the most likely choice to take but it takes a lot of discernment. Do talk it out with your boyfriend first because for all you know he is going through something which he could not tell you for some reason. Confront him about it and stop the guessing game that is apparently driving you crazy. Sometimes quitting can be too extreme and you, firsthand, usually knows when it can be used and when not.
@jricky1 (6801)
• China
31 Oct 11
Something should just be flow it.We shouldn't get it with all what we want.Just as you said,we loose sometime and we win sometime.Just believe god would help you in another way,if she close a door for you,she would open another window.It is the same,good luck.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
31 Oct 11
Yes, that's what I always keep in mind. There will always be other doors for me. Thanks for posting!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
True enough, and I admire you for being so strong to decide to quit something that you feel worth it to give up. Right now I am trying so hard to be like you but I still am not that strong to just give up even I have also tried everything to make something work. But hopefully I would come to that part, too. And I hope by that time, I will win some as well.
@Theresaaiza (10499)
• Australia
31 Oct 11
Well we all have different situations. When it comes to my being jobless, I do have my father to support me. It's just right now, I cannot afford to buy more than my needs. As long as I have what's basic - food, shelter, a little pennies in my pocket, that should be enough for now. Doesn't mean I should stop looking for more opportunities. In relationship, I am just fortunate to have a very supportive boyfriend, loyal and faithful (as far as I know lol). Everything needs to be discerned, must be weighed. Being drastic has its risks and we wouldn't want to end up regretting.