I want to know what girls think

United States
October 30, 2011 9:07pm CST
I had 2 relationships, and both of them gone busted, not so success at the end. I either want to broke up with her, she either get tired of me, and stop calling or bother to answer my phone. When I knew that signal, I also automatically give it up. So, maybe part of it was my fault, and I just don't know what they think, and I didn't pick up the clue or hint that they left for me to understand. It is hard to guess, and I just not a good player of this game. You can call me dumb, but I really want to know what they think. Now, I am afraid to approach the girl I like, since I don't know if she likes me or not, or I might screw it up big time, if I didn't speak the right words, or I didn't pick up the right signal. Should I go through psychology training?
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9 responses
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
31 Oct 11
Haiii friend...I am a girl...I think that there will have any reason for their cancellation...May you didn't know that...Otherwise, May they got a new person who cares and loves them than you...That can be a reason....Otherwise,They might got any bag information or wrong information about you...A girl can't bear that simply... I f she got any other one as lover,That cares and loves them,Automatically, They will begin to love them...That's woman's psychology...But if she really loved you, Or it was a real love, She can't leave you....She will return back to you.... And say sorry to you...She will realize you. and your love... Thank you and All the best............. :-)
• United States
31 Oct 11
Thank you for that advise. I will take alert on that.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
1 Nov 11
You are welcome my dear friend...
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
31 Oct 11
She doesn't have moral to just pretend you don't exist like that. If you done something hudge or horrible is one thing. People should sit down to break up and have the courage to do so. If you are feeling trouble you should probably seek help cause it might be some other thing inside of you that wants to come out and thinking about seeking help can be for your own and not how you deal with other people. We should seek help sometimes even when not troubled, speaking our mind can be so helpfull and if it's professional help it's even better. Have a great day!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
I agree that you have to have the courage to break up officially with the girls. No one expects you to be a mind reader. What's important in any relationship is honest communication. So I suggest you go to her and confront.
@reizende (16)
• United States
31 Oct 11
People must be open and honest with each other, even if it means someone is going to walk away sad in the end. Relationships are built on that communication. It needs to start with the very first meeting and progress from there. If you wish to take the risk and talk to the girl you like you might be pleasantly surprised to find that she likes you too. If she turns you down, then at least you know and that worry about whether she likes you or not will be gone. It's sometimes better to take that chance because without that, we can never find true happiness.
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
I think what is needed in any relationship is open communication.You can't just pretend that you understand your partner or keep guessing your partner's thoughts.You should ask her directly.You don't need psychological training yet but you can ask female members in your family for advice.Don't stop and be overcome by y fears of intimacy.If you're not ready yet,then just take your time to heal.Don't rush over things.If you're destined to find your great love,then you can find her when when the right time comes.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
31 Oct 11
As in every thing we do in our life , we need also to learn how to behave with women we want. It is not a shame to be week in this game because like basketball or football or even driving a car and repair the car , no one knows it naturally , we learn it from dealing with it and learning from our friends (even passively). The sad part is that many people become sad from it... I also think many girls don't know their own psychology because it is very complex. The way you talk with the girl or even how you smile or move gives her a lot of information about what your intentions are , your self esteem and a lot more. The best thing I can tell you is to deal with girls as much as you can , try to get as much information as you can and don't get heart , think about it as a game. Man , I still didn't have a relationship that lasted more than 2 monthes so far , I still have a lot to learn. 4 days before , I just talked with a girl on the phone and after a minut , she didn't like me and I didn't even tell her about myself. It was just like :"hi ___ , what's up ?" she said "hi , nice to meet you"...then we talked about how far we live from each other and then I started to tell her about myself and she just stopped me from "talking that speech" , she told me she had to go... The funny thing is that we met through a special office that match people. She actually wanted to know me because of what the officer told her about me. Maybe talking about my resume is too official and cold. next time I will try to talk an interesting talk.
16 Jan 12
hi!..I'm sorry to hear about your 2 relationship that did not work out well..anyway, i want to share with you this one thing about us girls, i would not want to speak in behalf of everyone but i guess most of us would agree with this. - we want you guys to court us forever. really! Eventhough we are already in a girlfriend-boyfriend or married relationship, we still want you to treat us like how you'd treat us when you were still courting us. it's not that we are being demanding, we just want you to SHOW us your love CONSTANTLY. If you truly love the person, it's not hard to do at all, actually sometimes it would come naturally. I hope in your next relationship this would be of great help. P.S. - with regards to the girl that you like now, just be with yourself and be patient. show her the true you, so that she would like the "true you" as well, not someone that you pretended to be. if she declines politely and just want to be friends with you, accept it humbly,at least you tried, but if she refuses rudely on you, let her go! you deserve someone better.. But if she also likes you, then, she'll tell you that.. :)
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
31 Oct 11
any girls can think about to get freedom, to make her dreams as true. To get a good and happy life.
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
31 Oct 11
Hello stanshan, Its so sad to hear your story but i don't understand why someone dump someone.The reason i could make out is either the person has done something wrong due to which he/she may have hurt his/her partner or may be they have got someone better. So friend you need to analyse what went wrong and to do so you should take help from your ex GFs and then you should make improvements in yourself.But to give up as you have been dumped i would say it is wrong you should mend the things and go ahead in life may be there is someone better than those waiting for you ahead.
• United States
31 Oct 11
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