Do you put people in categories?

@thewayis (646)
Bulgaria
November 3, 2011 4:21am CST
All my life I hated being put into a category. We are all individuals and I don't want people to think they know me just because they have put me in some category they can understand. I try realy hard not to judge people by putting them in a nice, explainable cliche, because this way I can never really know a person. Do you put people in categories or you try to see everyone as individuals?
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• China
4 Nov 11
Before know of somebody, we may put he/her in categories, but after recognise, we may treat he/her as individuals. This would be a procedure. should i ask you a question, haven't you put people in catergories? Sometime we should search the answer from ourself.
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@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
4 Nov 11
Yes, I did. Before. Now I try not to. I can't say that I don't 100%, but I try as hard as I can not to. This is why I started this discussion. I want to hear more opinions
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• China
7 Nov 11
Oh,yes, more opinions on the discussion, hehe
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@GemmaR (8517)
3 Nov 11
I think that it is within our human nature to put people into categories whether we realise it or not. It's important to be able to do this, as it helps us to find out who are friends to us and who are enemies. We will do anything that we possibly can in order to ensure that our genes survive, and if that means avoiding people who fall into certain categories then that's just what we'll do. You should try your best not to judge people until you get to know them, but there's something about human nature that makes us want to judge and group people as soon as we see them.
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@Hatley (163802)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jan 12
gemma I suppose you look at my profile old woman, grandma blah blah and oh you wou ld be so wrong. elderly yes,widow yes, one adu lt child survived and no he did not marry I am not a grandmother nor grannie nor grams. do not sort us like plumbing parts, we are all unique in our individual ways.You should not judge people at all,take us at our word, we know us much better than you think you do. I am shy but you cannot see that because as ppe says I am a mouthy broad on discussions but not in person.
@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
I agree that it is in our nature, but there are many other things in our nature that we fight against. And I am trying really hard to avoid categorizing (and judging) people without worring that I am finghting against my own nature
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@mommyboo (13176)
• United States
3 Nov 11
Absolutely not and I hate it when anybody does it to me. That is why I am NOT for affirmative action and I do NOT associate myself with any particular group of people except perhaps 'married' and 'moms'. I allow people to show me who they are before I SAY any assumption which could possibly be based on... gender, age, appearance, etc. I may THINK something but it's a good thing I keep it to myself because people are NEVER what they seem at first glance. Only extremely stupid people bust out with something that you'd only say based upon physical appearance in an attempt to 'classify' you or begin a conversation. I cannot count how many rude and ignorant things people have said to me in an attempt to 'be friendly' or 'begin a conversation'. If you want to start up a conversation with someone, here are some pointers. If it's not a question you would ask EVERYBODY, then do not ask it. If your question or statement is based clearly off someone's physical appearance only, and you wouldn't be flattered or happy if someone asked YOU the question, don't ask it. If you are fairly sure nobody else would ever ask you that question or nobody else has ever asked you that question yet you insist on asking it of others, STOP DOING IT. Take into account someone else's body language, mannerisms, etc. If someone you want to speak to has children with them, ask about the kids - but do not say 'are they all yours' or 'wow you have your hands full'. Pay attention to things like rings, which may indicate someone is married or at least wants to appear so. There is a difference between being friendly and being nosy, and there is a difference between glancing at somebody and STARING at somebody. Peoples' behavior is a better judge than just what they look like, so in order to understand a person, you need to put it all together rather than assume ANYTHING about anybody by appearance only. I think every person would be wise to take this information and file it away and remember it. Too many times I have talked to people who have been judged by others and say nobody will talk to them because people think they are stuck up (when they aren't) because of how they are dressed or what they look like, or how their kid is dressed or what they look like - and people who get mistaken for foreigners and strangers constantly ask if you speak English (of course I speak English, you moron, didn't you hear me talking BEFORE you approached me to act like a moron?), or you get the older people who assume someone who is actually an adult is a kid and they scold or tell them to leave or think they aren't actually shopping - this can be very embarrassing for both parties when the truth comes out. Either way, if you look at the word ASSUME, you see that it makes an A$$ out of U and ME which makes it a great word to laugh at as long as you're not the one at the expense of the word. People just need to stop doing this, it is nothing but hurtful and it gets in the way of actually developing relationships with people.
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@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
Wow! Your post is like... my thoughts but with much better choice of words. Maybe if I started the topic using your words, I would express my idea and question better. And I consider myself creative! Not only do I thank you for this response; I admire you for it
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• United States
5 Nov 11
I judge people from what I see from their actions and words. I have had people tell me negative or positive facts, I mean, things, about others, and I mostly just listen and think, maybe they are and maybe they aren't. You can't tell a book by looking at the cover, and you certainly can not tell what someone is like by first impressions. That is a huge mistake. Anyone can be on their best behavior when they want. Now, I try not to judge others for what they have or how they live or how they look, but I find myself doing that very thing sometimes, but because I have know God, and he has shown me alot of my faults, I pretty quickly see that I am judging and stop myself. Also, I have been through so many different life situations that have put me in different places throughout life that I can see others and have compassion now where I wouldn't have without my experiences.
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
3 Nov 11
sometimes we put people into categories even if we don`t want that.For example i heard a friend of mine is having a relationship with a guy from a certain country and i became suspicious right away.I know it`s wrong unless you know that person but we can`t get to know everybody.So i think we all put people into categories and after we get to know them better we may remove them from that category or we will discover we added them to the wrong category .
@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
The point is that when you put someone into categpry you kind of lose the chance to get to know them better.
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@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I like to think that I see everyone as an individual, and treat them as such, but categorization is unavoidable. For example we are all either male or female. When you speak of someone and call them "my friend", you just categorized them. They're on my team, is another form of categorization, just like "my neighbor", "my colleague" and so on. It's really hard not to categorize someone.
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@thewayis (646)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
Yes, it is hard, but what I mean is that when I talk about someone being male (for example) I don't want to think of him only as a male, who is the same as any other males. Sometimes I twitch when I hear someone mentioning a thing or two about the women drivers
@KrauseHome (36458)
• United States
8 Nov 11
I usually try to treat people as individuals, but then there are 2 or 3 people that I work with that it is beyond trying to respect them, etc. They just are weird, and need help. They both tend to wear their clothes untucked or mismangled. And there is a BAD odor always coming from them, and when they talk it is usually about nothing of importance and many times they want to be argumentitive or think they always know everything as well. People like this I wish could be awoke to who they are, and not to who they think they are.
@Hatley (163802)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jan 12
hi thewayitis I hate judging and being judged too. Also hate being called grannie as not all elderly women have grand children and to blindly assume we old ladies want to be called grannie is stupid and cruel. don"t you think we elderlys with no grand children are not sad about it? why rub our noses in your stupid Grannie and too is it not a bit presumptuous to assume a stranger senior wants to be called Grannie ? even grandmothers all do not like that term at all Grandmother perhaps but Grannie? thats like calling all young people kid or hey you which is even ruder.Or all young ladies hey girl? no we cannot put people in pigeno holes, we must not do it.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I unconsciously do sometimes, but consciously don't. When I realize I do, I remind myself that everyone has their own individual reasons... but my judgments sometimes do their own thing, I won't lie.
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@sender621 (14897)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I try not to be one to put people into categories. i know that i find it discouagaing when someone does that to me. We are all individuals and should be treated as such.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
3 Nov 11
I have not, set the one in any category. for me it is not at all normal. each one is as God created it. for me to put in a category and divide it is not right yet we are all people in this world. we must be united and get along. I do not know why always divide and why we always find the faults of others but not ours. Very interesting discussion. nice day!
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• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jan 12
I don't like being judged or judging! I do not do this often because I HATE how it feels!! Especially like here when people make comments about you when they do NOT even really know you. It is super annoying! And WRONG!! There is only ONE judge.
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
What sort of categories are you referring to? You mean the Black guy from the White guy? The poor from the rich? The good guy from the bad guy? A Christian from a Muslim?
• United States
4 Nov 11
I try not to put people into categories, but it seems to pretty much happen anyway. I feel like I can recognize when I will like somebody and when I won't. It's usually within just a few days of knowing somebody. While I know I shouldn't judge at face value, the preppy, jocky, cheerleader, football player types are just people I know I won't get along with. Because of this, I categorize them without really thinking consciously about it and don't really talk to them. That seems so much worse when I type it out than when I think it in my head...
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@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
i think its gonna be better to see everyone as individulas that different with each other. i dont want to judge somebody jut like i know them well by categories. every people have their own characteristic. so we can put them in one categories and look like they are same. that is wrong.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I normally don't categorize people but maybe because of some unpleasant events in meeting new people and losing those friendship, I have to put a category that will tell me who are genuine or fake. This is really hard but I guess sometimes I need to do it for my sake too. I listed down those who are guilty and put them out of the category ^^