Why I want to know you

@savypat (20245)
United States
November 4, 2011 7:43am CST
I am a very shy person, I know you won't believe this but I am. It takes great courage for me to try to meet you. But a long time ago I found that if I would make the effort to meet you I would find something very special about you that I needed to know. There are no mistakes in life, just lost opportunities that are the responsibily of the receiver. So no matter how it turns out I want to meet the people I am exposed to. Does this mean we will become great friends, no, it means that just that meeting will bring a gift to me or better yet allow me to give a gift to you. Blessings
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@Theresaaiza (10481)
• Australia
6 Nov 11
I tend to avoid any instance wherein I had to deal or meet or work with someone I was just about to know or barely know. Avoidance is usually what I employ to keep myself from that stress. Believe me, it's beginning to look like social phobia. But once I have warmed up, things become better. I really just need to know how to deal with first time meetings. It seems like other people get alone well almost in an instant and I feel envious about that.
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
6 Nov 11
You are causing this for yourself, you need to find value in yourself and then you will have the confidence to meet and get to know others. The fact that they will judge you will not matter because you know you are worthy.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
7 Nov 11
I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm a very shy person, but I am a somewhat shy person. I don't really want to get to know every person that I encounter really well, but there are people that I am drawn to and in those situations, those are people that I see something in and that is the reason that I want to make the effort to get to know those people. I am one of those poeple that doesn't have a lot of casual friends, but I have a select few very close friends.
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
6 Nov 11
I can relate to the feelings of shyness. As a child I was very shy and would not talk to anyone unless I knew them well. My mother was a little concerned about me but things got better as I grew. I still feel self-conscious occasionally but I found that when I relax and enjoy whoever I am talking to I have a fine experience, depending on who the person is! Some folks are easy for me to feel comfortable with and others are a no go. I think it a matter of chemistry between people, some are compatible and some are not! I think it is important to remember that relationships cannot be forced.
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@inertia4 (27916)
• United States
5 Nov 11
I have no problem meeting people, however, there are those few people that I get the feeling that I should stay away from. So, would I want to meet everyone who comes into my life? No, not at all. I am also a shy person, but I am very calculated as well.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
5 Nov 11
Hi savypat, I feel that I could learn a great deal from you. We do think a lot alike but I was nearly 70 when I started thinking this way and there is so much to learn. I agree that there are no mistakes in life but I know that I haven't been socializing enough and it would be good to meet new people. Living in a small town means that there isn't much that I find interesting so the Internet has become my inspiration. Like you I feel that every person we meet comes baring a gift. Blessings.
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 11
I am little bit on the reserve side but it doesn't mean that I am shy but only that I couldn't make myself take the first move to break the ice. The first approach can be daunting but once I am comfortable talking to a person than it will be easier to move on to the next chapter. I can say I am a good conversationalist and usually once someone get to know me in person they will enjoy being in my company as I make them feel that I am no stranger to them like a long lost friend.
@Lore2009 (7386)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I'm very shy too. And I like this discussion. I agree to what you said.
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@wulania (1528)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
i was shy boy, but after entering college, my shyness dissappeared. i knew, shyness come when we dont have self confident. so build up your self esteem, get more friends, have more skill, be nice an sociable
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@WakeUpKitty (8699)
• Netherlands
4 Nov 11
I am not that eager to meet people either. It's easy to write or write a lot but talking to people is something different too. It mostly tires me out and I love the silence. I have less interest in meeting people I met via internet in life. I did it a few times but they always turned out to be completely different. Not by appearance btw but by behaviour. Seems many people are not great in painting a honest picture of themselves. To discover this time after time is not really a gift anymore.
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