My brother-in-law, "The Complete Jerk", that can't handle the truth!
November 6, 2011 11:19am CST
I don't know what to say about my brother-in-law at all. He is nothing like how he used to be with me. (Which was very nice) He is more ruder by his actions, and tone of voice. I had to tell him about himself a couple of weeks ago. It was in relation to my youngest daughter. He responds back to her in a very nasty way when she is touching something of his, or doing something. My daughter is four years old. I always believe that if a child is doing something wrong, there is a respectful way that you can talk to them, without being nasty. Especially, when the child that you are talking to is NOT your own child. So from my surprised approach to him directly, he has been acting like a complete and silly jerk! I will give you several examples so that you can see where I am coming from. Okay, I always clean behind myself and my kids whenever I or them, makes a mess onto the kitchen table or on the floor. I make sure that everything is wiped up clean too. Well, my brother-in-law comes behind me and does a thorough cleaning in the same spot that I have just fully cleaned. There is nothing onto the table or the floor at all that needs to be cleaned at all. He also has a tendency to sweep up in just one spot, that I or my child have been at. Yet again, there is nothing on the floor that needs to be swept up by the broom. I have already cleaned up any crumbs that was onto the floor. What I don't quite get is my brother-in-law is always in his bedroom with the door half way shut. Plus he may be talking on his cell phone too, so is he watching everything that I am doing that much??? Just the other day, my mother-in-law and I was talking in the kitchen, while my brother-in-law, was into his bedroom with his sister and her boyfriend. My mother-in-law and I was standing up talking during the entire conversation. Can you believe that after my sister-in-law and her family left, he swept up only the area that my mother-in-law, his mother, and I were standing in! He did not even sweep the entire kitchen floor, just the area that we were standing in while we were talking. He told me once, that he is neat freak. Well, I sure can't tell! I told my husband, his brother about what he has said, and my husband says that he has never been neat. Yeah, that is what I have thought too! I really believe that my brother-in-law is trying to annoy me so much. He is doing all of this on purpose because he wants me to feel bad somehow, about whatever crazy scheme he is trying to implement. Every time, he comes out of his bedroom, he will start cleaning up in the same spot that me or my daughter was sitting at. He never cleans the entire area, just only the area that we have used, although there are no crumbs or spills that need to be cleaned up, because I have already taken care of it. Or if there is anything that is messy, he knows that I will make sure that I take care of any mess that me or my children may make while we have eaten. My mother-in-law told me that he said that he is ready for everyone to hurry up and move from the trailer. This trailer will be rented out by him, once my mother and father-in-law moves this month. My brother-in-law is acting this way, because once he found out that he is going to be renting the trailer out in his name, means that he now has full control over how he can treat us while we are staying here. I know why he is doing all of this, only because I was upfront with him, about what I am not going to tolerate him doing towards my children. He became offended because I stood up to him and now the childish actions that he is acting out, is all because of his manly ego being so very affected. He has said, that he has been nothing but nice. Well to prove that, I gave him back the body perfume oil and the Theraflu packet that he gave to me. I know why, he gave it to me, just to take credit for doing something supposedly nice for me. Well, I would rather take something from someone that is meant to be taken from the heart, than just to gain popularity. My brother-in-law has been trying to impress me since the day that I have married his brother, and with how his actions is behaving, I am not the very least impressed by him at all. In fact, I am very annoyed with his behavior.
5 people like this
• United States
6 Nov 11
Hi, telmesh. I hope that I won't be staying there at all either. My husband and I are in the process of finding us a place to live now. I told my mother-in-law, his mother, that I would never continue to stay with him while she and her husband has moved out! Oh no, that will never take place and I know that my husband, his brother, isn't feeling that either!
7 Nov 11
cream97, I can see that your brother-in-law does have some personal issues with you and before you decide on your next move, I hope you will take a step back to see what end result you may want at the end of the day. IMO, I don't think his behavior has something to do with that one reproach of yours, I feel that there's a great deal of accumulation that has led to his current paranoia. In this sense, I feel for the better good of the family, I think your daughter and you should take a step backward and if possible, avoid him by all means. Continual antagonizing will just create a deeper rift and at the end of the day blow up on each of your faces. I am sure he has more issues to resolve at his end than you but going on with what you are doing or reacting will not help you one single bit. The worse scenario would be for you to look so stooped low as him and over his unresolved issues. Just move on and let him be the looser at his end. I assure you coming off as the better half is the essence here.
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 11
Sounds like you made him mad about something and he can't handle it. And youre staying there so he feels empowered. He is showing his true colors which aren't good. I would get out of that situation as soon as I could. Funny how he changed and is being such a jerk now. That is was power will do.
• Garden Grove, California
6 Nov 11
hi cream have you ever read anything about obsessive complusive disorder? your brother in law sounds like a text book example. he obeseses over you and his mom and your daughter and he'has a compulsion to clean only where you have already cleaned.,I am no psychiatrist at all but he sounds like he is compulsive and obsessive too.He needs to see a psychiatrist and get some help as he is making an a,s.s, of himself. How come you all live together. I thought you had your own home now