So you say you are in control?

You are wise, indeed I'm not in control of anything. Years go by and more I realize how we can only control our thoughts and actions, and it's not even fair to control other people. It's hard to let go but we have to, God gave us all free will to live the life we want the way we want but the same aply to us when living the life we feel like right now.

Is so sad that this happened to your family. My son doesn't knows how to control his anger neither and he asked me one time that he feels sometimes very angry and he doesn't understand why,and he said that maybe he needs to see a doctor, I told him that everybody gets angry sometimes when have to do things that don't want. But the life is not about to do what we want,and we will always have authorities to respect and don't get angry when they request smething from us. But thanks talking to him day by day, I see that he have changed his reaction when he have to do things that he doesn't wants like empty the garbage. I think that when a person feels out of control have to be responsible and try to see an specialist to help him to control himself.

The tendency to evil in us is like the law of gravity which pulls us down to the animal. When the human minds turn beastly they ruined their lives by uncontrolled license, as a glass would ruin itself if used to break rocks.

You are right that the only control that we are able to have is the control over the way that we react to things that happen in our lives. Even that is difficult to maintain at times because of the fact that our minds aren't always able to stay in control. This has really been something that I've been struggling with lately because of going through the health issues with my husband.

To have control is to be able to control ones self. Not to beat and kill. To beat someone or to kill them does not take control at all. It is probably the easiest thing to do. It is just an excuse for the person having a lack of self respect.

Losing control is not an excuse for anything. There are certain moments when you really lose control, no matter how hard you try to stay calm. But I think that the most important thing is how you chose to repair your mistakes and how you make up to the people you've hurt. Of course, I'm not talking about killing people, but about doing some little mistakes when you lose control (shouting at someone, throwing ugly words at them etc.)

Hello savypat, I feel no one can be forced to listen to you and if he/she listens to you then it may be due to the respect or fear.Those who do it due to fear is just a temporary one as once this fear is gone he/she won't listen to that person. But to say that one should take out weapon to get control on others as he does not have control on himself is really an excuse.A person cannot control others if he/she doesnot have control on himself/herself. Its really sad that to know that a family member can kill his/her own one.

I think that somehow we've mislead people into expecting they should be in control of things none of us have control over. It used to be that people were raised to take responsibility for working hard and doing what was right and being kind to others and helping your neighbor when he was in need. No one expected life to be easy or have their own way most of the time. Many people today seem to think they are entitled to get what they want out of life with little effort on their own part, and when things they want don't come easily, they blame others. Others seem to go out of control and "act out" when they don't get the attention and respect from others they feel entitled to. This is especially true of teen shooters who kill their classmates and teachers because they are upset with someone or everyone. Some of these people might be mentally ill, and some just might have very unrealistic expectations formed by the media they are exposed to.