When a dear friend makes you feel helpless

this is a great discussion i am little bit confused .if there is my mistake for this i feel sorry but try chat with her.and if there is not my fault i try to connect with her by any kind.to discuss her problem.

I think I have posted somewhat a similar discussion before. And honestly, at first I feel I just wanted to give up on the friendship. But whenever I think on how great she is as a friend.. I just told myself to just let her be that way for some time. Coz If she values our friendship I am sure even if we don't chat the way we use to before... she will remain as a good friend for me.

If facebook is the only way you can interact with her, I suppose, one way would be send a warm and uplifting message and hope that she comes out of the depressive phase quickly. It’s your genuine wishes and friendship that will prevail. As much as I would be very concerned if faced with such a situation, patience and praying for her well being would be the best thing to do. Are there any other friends of hers, who you know about? Maybe they can share some info about her.

My own grandaughetr unfriended me. it made me angry at her.

As a person who goes through these bouts once in awhile, I totally understand. But, I do try and respond to someone if they are worried about me. Thankfully I don't go through the bouts as much as I use too. Your friend might no longer have the internet, maybe that is why she is not responding to you. Why not try contacting one of her friends on her list and see if they have heard anything. That is what I will do, I will contact a family member and ask if they had heard from that person. Hope you hear something soon.

It is nice to know that you are so concerned about your friend and you also understand her mood swings. Sometimes it happens that we just want to be by ourselves, hiding in our own shell. I think when our friends are in such a situation we should just let our friends know that we are there for them and they can share their problem with us, but if they still choose to be left alone for a while I think we should give them some time.

Hi Mimpi! It is really a tricky situation when we are unable to contact our on line friends by any means. You could send her a message explaining how much you are missing her and you are eagerly waiting her response. She might be busy in her off line activities or may be unnwell to communicate. Keep your hopes alive. If I am in such a situation as are you, I will really feel disturbed. I am an emotional person and when there is no communication from the other end, I feel disappointed. Hope things get better soon.

This is bad, maybe, but I am just so busy, I probably would not even notice. Do you mean she took you off her myLot friend list? Sometimes that does happen by accident. Nobody would give up on you in person, I think, as you are so dear.

hi mimipi1911 That's a tough one but I think just being there for her is really a big help and praying for her we can all join in and perhaps our mylot prayers will be strong and will help her to be happy again. depressions is a hard thing to know how to help someone. Keep trying to contact her on Facebook.I will send my prayers to join yours that she will feel better and will be close to you again and be happy and healthy again.I hope other mylotters c an join in too.

Hi Mimpi! I hope I am not the friend you were talking about, nah I don't think it's me! Just thought it's me beacuse I've been through tough time as well, that I just been anti social and just wasn't feeling well! Although I reckon I'm back to normal now though I wont have much time to spend online, but that doesn't mean my Friends wont be in my thoughts beacuse they are! If it's me, I would think that she/he maybe needs time to go through to watever she/he going through, but I'll keep trying to contact her and let her knows that I'm worried! I hope you are good Dear, Have a blessed 2012 to you and to yours.

You must have been touching the very sensitive of her own case and due to her concern, what did you do made her ill feel. You should talked to her and found out which part of your action she dislike or hated as well may be. You needed to found out what the best solution was useful for reducing the gap between you both. I hoped you would find out and be friend again, okay. Good Luck

hi dear mimpi I think the only thing is to let the dust settle down so to say and trust that your friend will get into better mood and contact you again. If I was in your shoes I would sure write one FB and/or e mail note to my friend and tell her, I am thinking of you in this difficult time you have to deal with and I am patiently waiting till you contact me again. So your friend will know she is missed and also that the door to your heart remains open and that you will be glad to hear from her again whenever this may be.

When a dear friend makes you feel helpless then he/she is not a friend. A friend should be there in times of trouble and should encourage you to be strong not left you alone. If that's the type of friend you have honey, let them go..you could find better people.

I'll give my friend that space if that will make her more comfortable. Even if we are best of friends, I still value the fact that we are still have different personalities and thinking,and highly respecting decisions made by each other.

I can understand how helpless you must be feeling just now. Specially when you cannot reach out to your friend in any way. There is nothing that you can do but just pray. Unless of course you decide to go out to that country and meet her personally.