Like Mother Like Daughter

@p1kef1sh (45684)
November 27, 2011 2:03pm CST
There is a saying that before a man marries he should look at his intended's mother because she will end up like her. My MIL was a very cheerful, slightly crazy lady. Friendly and always chatting to strangers. She was much loved and is very much missed. The more that I look at my own wife, the "Boss" as I call her, the more that I see her mother. This friendliness pays dividends though. Taxi drivers pick her up for free. People stop me in the street and say how kind she has been. I married my MIL!!! Did you?
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@ellie333 (21018)
27 Nov 11
I actually really like my ex MIL and I guess in many ways we are similar although my ex husband would say that if I was the last person on earth he would rather become gay lol - he doesn't mean it as we do get on these days but probably meant it at the time. Your are so very lucky to have such a lovely 'boss'. huggles Ellie :D
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@p1kef1sh (45684)
27 Nov 11
I think that you are a corker Ellie. Your ex needed his eyes testing!!! XXX
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@pumpkinjam (8108)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 11
Well, speaking as a woman, I would like to think that I would NEVER turn into my mother. As you know, she is not a cheerful, friendly, chatty lady. She's an evil crocodile and I don't want to be like that. My other half has told me I was like my mum though but that's usually when I'm nagging him because he thinks it will make me stop! If I grow up, I intend to be the opposite of my mum!
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@p1kef1sh (45684)
27 Nov 11
In approximately 22 minutes I will be talking to the Evil Crocodile. She's not that bad you know. She can be cheerful, chatty and friendly. But maybe only with certain people! You could do worse than be like your Mum. You could be like me! LOL.
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@Hatley (163988)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 11
hi pikey my mother in law lived in 'washington state,we lived in California but I met her twic e and she was the kindest, gentlest person so I saw here my husand got his ways from . she loved to help people so did he and strangers were always friends to her, and he was the same way.When I was ill a few times I was babied and pampered and thought oh my G how fortunate I am to be married to this man. He was so much like his mom,his dad did not figure much in his life as his parents divorced after the last child was born His dad threw money around then would be broke long before payday. My husband obn the other hand was very careful with our money.He was not at all like his dad. thank goodness for that.
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@p1kef1sh (45684)
27 Nov 11
Phew. Good job that he took after his Mom Hatley or you'd really have been in trouble! He sounds like a very good man.
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@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
27 Nov 11
One of my sons-in-law used to say, 'Look at the dog before choosing the pup.' Never knew whether to be flattered or not! x
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@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
LOL. You don't look at all "ruff" to me!
@SIMPLYD (90852)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
That's very lucky of you pike, that you actually have a kind mother-in-law. Seldom would husbands like their mother-in-laws. They would usually consider them as bothersome. I think, my husband didn't take a look at my mother before she married me. But if he would have, i think he will still marry me, because my mother is a kind and happy woman too. She is down to earth and an understanding one. She maybe opinionated but would keep silent once told that what she is saying isn't feasible.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
My MIL was not at all bothersome. I loved her and enjoyed her company.
@SIMPLYD (90852)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
You are lucky indeed my friend!
@mtdewgurl74 (18154)
• United States
1 Dec 11
I guess my hubby is lucky I am nothing like my mother, total opposites really. I on the other hand didn't like my mother in law at all..Seriously and I am glad my hubs is nothing like her. I would loved to had a mother in law such as you described..
@p1kef1sh (45684)
1 Dec 11
My MIL was wonderful. Crazy and scatty, but good fun. She'd drop the housework and head on out to play every time! She couldn't cook to save her life though and her pantry would be condemned by the food safety people!
@littleowl (7157)
29 Nov 11
It is true both male and females alike base our relations on our parents. They were the first male and female in our life when we were born, therefore become our first role models of how we should be when we grow up. The same goes for our relationships, we tend to have the same kind of relationship with our girlfriends and boyfriends as our mother and father did. So you mum and dad must of been very gentile, kind and loving people. Hugs LoLo
@p1kef1sh (45684)
29 Nov 11
My parents are very focused and determined people LoLo. They are kind and loving but don't take prisoners! I have some of their attributes but not all of them. XXXX
@1wldngl (3979)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Sadly my goal is to be very UNlike my own mother. I hope I am succeeding. No one likes to be around my mum for too long and prefer to stay away completely if they can manage it. :( But my Granny...yea...I'd be like her. She was amazing. I miss her still. :)
@p1kef1sh (45684)
29 Nov 11
I have got a friend whose son has the most amazing mommy. She's got red hair. When he married his wife will have the most amazing MIL. Almost makes me wish that I was an 8 year old girl! Hee Heee. XXXX
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi pIke, it is reverse in our country. There is a proverb: Son of a father and a horse of a soldier is something alike. But I feel pity for you.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
Pity for me? Why?
@mods196621 (3655)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I agree with you that mother like daugther.. coz the first thing is she carry her daughter on her womb nine months.. how she became not like her.. Hehehe... Mostly almost xerox copied. The same thing with Like father like son..too. They are the same too, copied too.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
I am like my father some say. But not me! LOL.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 11
Haha... I would certainly hoped that my girlfriend would be like her mother when we get married later. Her mother is a kind, loving and responsible mother. She took care of my gf and her siblings very well. Providing almost anything that they need. On the other hand, her mother has been a good wife. She cooked for the family, making sure that the husband's needs is fulfilled, she even waited by his side whenever he has to meet people or have his late meals. How lucky would I be to have such a wife .
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
Sounds like your MIL to be is very like mine. Good luick and enjoy your marriage.
@thatgirl13 (7297)
• South Korea
28 Nov 11
Wow I had heard of this before but never really thought it was true. So basically when I grow old I will turn into my mother? And I have also heard that the way a man treats his mother is the treatment the wife will get after marriage. Is that also true?
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
I treat all women as goddesses. Including my mother!
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Well I am a woman but when I see my mother in law is like I am seeing my husband, they talk in the same way, make the same sounds between phrases,say the same things when are driving and a bad driver show up! they are very similar my husband doesn't believe me when I tell him but I can see it.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
So long as she doesn't become too possessive of him and he becomes her completely!
@mr_pearl (5019)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi there... I'm not married yet.. I feel I agree with you. That is how it should be! I don't know when I'll marry, but I'll definitely keep this in my mind. Marriage should be happy one, cheerful and full of happiness... If it is not then whats the point in marrying. Thank you!
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
Absolutely. No point in marrying at all if you aren't going to be happy.
@airasheila (5455)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
a pleasant day p1kef1sh, what you have been experiencing and witnessing is somehow a part of the general rule. as the many are saying, generally, like mother like daughter. hence daughter grows following the footsteps of their moms. and in every general rules, there are exceptions.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
Most do but there are some exceptions.
@ebuscat (5939)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
For me yes it is not much to do with that way because I half like my mother and half also like my father.
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
Thank heavens for that!
• United States
27 Nov 11
Yes and no...LOL My husband is a lot like his mother in some ways, but not in others. He has her kindness and sense of humor, her strong work ethic, manners and respect for others, but that's where it ends. My mother in law can be ditzy some times. God knows I love her but she's funny. She is child like in so many ways and she drives me crazy when it comes to shopping because she can never quite make up her mind which is infuriating most of the time. My husband is the complete opposite when it comes to being scatter brained or things like shopping. Like most men he hates to shop and can't wait till it's all done wheres we can finally head for home....LOL
@p1kef1sh (45684)
28 Nov 11
My MIL was not an enthusiastic shopper. Her daughter is a little more so. I am learning. I am at that stage of my training where it is easier to go along with her than to try to rebel! LOL.