Still now chauvinistic views about women in Indian society.
By DoctorDidi
@DoctorDidi (7018)
India
November 28, 2011 7:04am CST
Anyone who reads the matrimonial columns in newspapers or browses through matrimonial websites will find that in India, human beings are being literally put up ‘for sale’. I am not sure about the state of things in other countries but what I see in India is really shocking. More often than not, the physical features of a bride are highlighted, with an emphasis on skin colour, as if only fair people are the bearers of good qualities. Sometimes, especially if the groom is a high earning man, the tone of the advertisement suggests that the bride is primarily required to do house work. Such types of advertisements always mention an additional line that a working girl who can manage domestic chores alongside her job ‘will also do’. Don’t you find the sense from such an advertisement that the groom is bargaining for a bride in the way he would for any other commodity in the market? Don’t you think that such chauvinistic views about women in Indian society even in today’s world should be condemned and changed immediately?
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7 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Dec 11
First off, I think that it is necessary for me to say that I acknowledge the fact that different societies are very different from one another, so what is shocking to me is not necessarily going to be shocking to you.
With that said, I grew up in a culture where all human beings are treated equally regardless of their gender and for that reason alone I think that it is an abomination that women are put up for sale anywhere in the world.
You cannot place a value on a person and in my opinion, doing something like this is no better than selling slaves.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
hello there. i know there are still traditional practices in every nation of this world. India is not an exemption. i hope that practice will gradually end because it deprives the woman of her right to choose. a woman is a person too that has rights you have to respect.she is not a product we can lobby on the market.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Nov 11
I think it is more honest than how it happens here in America. See I see marriage As a chauvinistic thing to start with. The woman Does sell herself into it . It is under the husband's rules. And she is suppose to bear children and handle the house. the man in return Has to have enough money to support her and the sons she produces. I think India is more honest about marriage. The romance is Never mentioned. now it is sad that her hue comes into it but that is the only thing I think is offensive. The rest is spot on.
Here in the States, we go for love. many think love = marriage. Then they get married and the husband assumes the wife will do everything in the house and the wife expects help. They both Have to work and one may want children and other may not. So they divorce because they Never talk about these things. It is true Many marriages are a co partnership over here. But many are not. and many one wanted a new type and the other an Indian type. So that is why I think what happens in India is more honest.
@celticeagle (190074)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Nov 11
Yes, I certainly do feel that women in other countries(India in this disscussion but others as well) need to be respected and not used like this. I hope that things are getting better. The mentality of some men in ANY country can be very apauling. A man should honor a woman not make her a slave.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
29 Nov 11
Over all I thinnk most Indian woman are treated unfairly and it starts at birth! I have heard that boys are more valueable then girls! Boys are easier to raise! If a couple has a girl they have to set up a dowery so when she marries it go to the groom or it is it the groom's family? I am not sure! I have heard stories of baby girls being abandoned in the woods to die! I recently heard a story of some Indian girls changing their names because their parents gave them names that have very nasty meanings! This is very distrubing and things need to change! Woman are not doormats and should be treated like a human being!
@sam023 (42)
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28 Nov 11
of course it is
male chauvinism is still everywhere in the world i even know people who are like that.
@SpikeTheLobster (6399)
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28 Nov 11
Absolutely. I couldn't have said it better!
As a bad comparison, look at how we treat animals in the UK: there are more laws protecting them, their purchase and the way they're homed/treated than there are for women in some parts of the world (not necessarily India - I don't know enough about the laws there).
One of my Indian friends got married a long time ago (awesome wedding party!) and, although it was an "arranged" marriage, it wasn't really. He and his wife totally fell in love - they just followed the traditional process so that everyone in their very large, extended family would think it was "normal". It's about time arranged marriages and that kind of thing stopped - we got rid of wedding dowries in the UK a long time ago, though we still have the tradition of the bride's parents paying for the wedding (nowadays it's pretty rare - both families usually share the cost).
