Isn't a Broken Heart a Good Thing????

@bird123 (10591)
United States
December 4, 2011 3:31pm CST
So now our hearts are broken. They don't love us anymore. The one who fit so well and feels so right is no longer for us. We hurt so badly that we vow to never love again. We moan and groan to all of our family and friends extending our cloud of hurt in an attempt to give it away to anyone, however it lingers on.Isn't a broken heart really a good thing?? Bird, Have you lost your mind?? So often in life we focus on just what is right in front of our noses, forgetting that there is a much bigger picture. We are meant for our true love. If we are with someone else when our true love arrives, we might miss our true love altogether. As bad as it hurts to be broken hearted, our true love will fit better than any other could. Isn't that the most important thing?? Fast Forward into the future. As we look back on our lives, we see that it has been a story that could be told. Don't the very best stories include some heartache?? Yes, with the big picture in view, even that heartbreak was Glorious! It's living at it's best along with all those wonderful times we experience. It is part of the full range of living that provides a complete picture. So if you are recently heartbroken, take that hurt with a grain of salt. Move on for there is more life to live, more love to be had. No matter what happens, it is never the end of the world. Life is about living, not about avoiding all the hurt. Lots of Love and Kindness!!
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@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
I told my nieces and nephews that they are young and that they need to live and experience everything in this life to be mature, including having a broken heart. Yes, I also think it is good, because that way you would cherish more...
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Love, regardless of how it turns out is living at it's best. OK, jennyze, does that mean you will break my heart???
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Yes, I know you didn't. That's what makes you Special!!
@jennyze (7030)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
I never intended to break others' hearts, their hearts just broke down anyway...
• United States
4 Dec 11
I would normally not agree with you here. But,reading this reminded me of all the pain I had in my broken heart. I did swear I would never love again and never wanted another man in my life. It is like your walking right behind me in real time. I found the man who fits me like a glove and I am so happy with him. So,yes I agree with you hear it is so very true..
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
4 Dec 11
So often while we are living it, we can't see the entire picture until later. I hope this discussion will help with the view for some.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Dec 11
Yeah it sucks while it last but looking at it in retrospect, it has made some contribution to the way I see the world now. So, the next time I see a brokenhearted creature, I won't try to give high-sounding advices that may sound too farfetched. Rather, I would just sit around and listen to the rants and raves like weathering off the storm in the safety of the knowledge that it shall soon pass and may elicit a smile or two upon reminiscing.
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@bird123 (10591)
• United States
5 Dec 11
Yes, a good friend will always be a good ear.
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@LittleMel (8745)
• Canada
5 Dec 11
exactly what and who we want is not necessarily what and who the soul needs so we lost them, or they somehow left us we have to move on, prepare for new start, new love open our hands to new gifts coming our way, rather than insisting 'he/she is mine' nobody belongs to anybody each person has dreams and opinions, they relate to us, but not our possession there will be a time they have to go follow their own path, or leave the physical plane because their time here is over
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Yes, no one owns anyone. We must all value all the wonderful times we often take for granted. THe best of times is right now. Love is indeed a sharing. The love we give will always return in some way. You are right. In our journey forward, love will always be around if we choose. I really like your statement: we have to move on, prepare for new start, new love open our hands to new gifts coming our way.
@GemmaR (8517)
5 Dec 11
I don't think that heartbreak is ever a good thing when you feel it at the time, however you can always learn lessons from it and this means that you are able to make yourself much better and stronger for the future if you do this. I had my heart broken many times by the same person when I was 16, and it made me eventually realise that I was much too strong to be treated like this, and also made me believe that I was a lot stronger than I had previously thought that I was; and I was able to cope with things in my life much better because of this.
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Yes,that was a good learning experience. Things that seem like the end of the world at the time, often take us to a much higher level of learning.
@sender621 (14898)
• United States
5 Dec 11
In all honesty i can not see how a broken heart can ever be seen as a good thing. It comes with heartache and turmoil and often sadness and regret. it takes a take on the heart and soul. It can do things to self confidence and self worth along the way. The end of a relationship is always something that can be in the future. the broken heart is just something that picks up the pieces along the way. and what can be good about that?
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
One learns and grows through everything in life. Patience. The answers will come.
• Mexico
6 Dec 11
Hi bird: Thanks for your message. That was really nice. So basically you believe we all have one true love somewhere in this world. That's lovely. I am not pretty sure about this but I believe in what you are saying not necessary because of this but because I think that we learn experience from our failures and even if we felt broken we can be more mature from these sad experiences and be wiser. ALVARO
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Life is about learning and growing. Your true love will be a key part of this. I have seen this not only with myself but with many other people. Perhaps that is one of the reasons opposites attract.
@lilaclady (28209)
• Australia
4 Dec 11
That is all so true, I look back a lot on the many tears I have cried over love and I think oh thank heavens I didn't marry that person because I can honestly say that everytime I had a heartbreak someone better eventually came along, it is just a part of life because if you don't go out and live and experience then you are not really living to the best you can...
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
4 Dec 11
Yes, Life could never be the same without those experiences.
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
those who are the most capable of loving are the ones who get their hearts easily broken. this is a gift and at the same time a curse. i remember a blogger that wrote about being heart broken. his line was some thing like this... my heart was broken to pieces... i need to pick up each pieces and i cut myself, blood dripping off. i wipe them off with my white t-shirt. on and on i cut myself, blood, wipe to the shirt till i will put back together what has been broken... to make it whole again... so i could give it again and to get it broken. yes its a bit sad... but the most important thing is that blood on the shirt... the memories of how hurt we are when we pick up all those broken pieces... its really the learning that is important... one day someone will come along... like us who was broken once or two... and willing to give their whole heart... and we will take his/her her in exchange of ours... when that day will come their will be no more broken hearts...
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Yes, we must learn to value the goodness along life's path and allow the hurt to roll off our backs. Even if a relationship doesn't last, there was the learning, growing, the goodness and the sharing. I find it funny that those things are so easily forgotten in a breakup. It might hurt for now, but the journey was worth it. It's the stuff life is made of.
@vandana7 (92658)
• India
5 Dec 11
Scientifically, there is this study that broken heart truly damages our immune system and other physiology. But to be fair, we all outgrow each other. Our growths are anamolous. At times I may be wiser than my partner, and at times foolish. May be what you say does have a grain of truth into it. But I do feel that love as a concept between partners is a hyped subject. I mean much of it is because how we visualize it thanks to the stories and movies. If it were not made so romantic, we would be like any other partner. Stories were possibly written to make us monogamous and prevent spreading of diseases. But somewhere religion stepped in and those childhood stories of "lived happily forever". We need to outgrow those stories first. We need to accept that love can fizzle out just like a deal with one of the business partners. We need to be fair and work at it. If, it fizzles out despite that, so be it. Its not the end of the world. If it were not god's will it would not have happened.
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Life is about learning and growing as people. If we have learned all we can, change usually comes to advance our learning. Maybe opposites attract for a reason. There is more learning and growing to meet in the middle. Don't discount true love. That is a bond that will hold through the greatest storms in our lives. I am lucky enough to have experienced true love. It is a Spiritual connection. It is truly Glorious. I am a lucky man. Finally, always be open for true love. It tends to show up when you least expect it. One must also be very patient for sometimes true love doesn't show up until later in life when we become truly ready.
• United States
5 Dec 11
This was very poetic the way it was written :) And I have to say that I agree with you wholeheartedly. Pain and heartache is the foundation for a better future sometimes. And in the end will always make you a stronger individual. About 8 1/2 months ago I did the unthinkable. After over a year of trying and failing to leave my boyfriend of 5 years, I finally did it. And that time I actually went through with it. And it hurt like hell. Everyday for the first couple of months I cried so hard I literally ended up on my knees just to bear the pain that was ripping through my chest. I had to resist the urge to look for him, to contact him. You see as much as it hurt leaving him, I knew it would only hurt worse if I went back to him so despite it all I stayed strong. Little by little the pain lessened and I began to see the world differently. Now I am actually dating someone knew.. and still struggling to find out if Im ready for another commitment. I can see a future with him and yet the idea seems so scary and I think a lot of it has to do with the pain of my past relationship, Im too scared. But one thing that helps is remembering that I was able to pick myself up and keep walking even on my darkest days, so I know that little by little everything else will fall into place.
@bird123 (10591)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Our relationships in life do teach us all many things. We become prepared for our true love. So the new relationship is a bit scary. Aren't all the important things in our lives scary at first?? That's in everything not just relationships. Life would be dull if it were any other way.