I'm not HAPPY with my work anymore :(

Philippines
December 14, 2011 4:39am CST
Guys. I'd just like to share my heartbreaking sentiments on my working environment. I've been here for 6 months and still I never found any true friends and true people here. I'm reporting Monday to Saturday from 7AM-7PM . I have no one here with beyond 4PM. I'm at the construction site, we're 6 in the Management team, I'm the nurse and the only girl. I have this Safety Engineer here who works very close to me since he was with me from the previous project I came from. I never felt I was in my comfort zone whenever I'm on duty. Other staff from the same project who's also my co-staff workers are very annoying. So I miss my 8 month project on San Mateo Rizal, I had the best team who became my real friends from then on. My life's become stressful, I call most of my co-workers as SYNTHETIC (genuinely fake). They have their own world and unfortunately, they work oddly. Seems like having secret agendas all the time.
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12 responses
@Graceekwenx (3162)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Hello Chesca. Welcome to Mylot. I am a medical technologist and i have my share of sadness when i worked in a hospital. I dont know if it is just generation gap but i couldnt get along with my co-workers there. I have never been fond of them such that i have decided not to continue working there anymore. Chesca, i know you have heard this advise anywhere else. Dont leave your present job until you find a new one especially now when life is hard. What happened to me back then was that i resigned from the hospital and i didnt even took my last pay. No matter how hard i try to appease them, it simply doesnt work at all. No damn employer is good enough to pay me for my sadness coz i sure dont need it! After resigning, i took the time off to discern where i am supposed to be. What makes me happy? I certainly am happy when i was in school and i am enthusiastically happy if i have music around me. That being said, i enrolled in UST took a bit of education units and also studied in conservatory of music! I loved it to bits! Somewhere along the road, i felt this itch that i needed to work because i pity my parents. My parents didnt mind affording my tuition fees. So, then i tried discerning again. I hear somewhere... "my child, this is time for you to work. You will soon find one for you." Hearing that voice alone made me confident. In a weeks time, i got a job! It is not a hospital. Good good good because i am sick and tired of working with oldie moldie hags! hahahaha! I may not have used my degree but i sure am enjoying my work here! Well... There are still oldie moldies in the office but they sure are goofy and very professional unlike those ive worked with in the hospital who are so fond of gossip! Thank you Lord! Chesca... Take the time off and pray hard... God is listening.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Thanks grace i learn also from your word..keep on..
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Wow, that's so cute of you! :) The reason why I can't get out of here is because I haven't got any callback from my ongoing applications. That's so sad to know that it's so hard to find work for nurses like me. I dont mind if they pay me good enough to sustain my needs for as long as I am happy. But your story is really inspirational. You brought back my enthusiasm of getting back my happy life again despite of this. :) Thank you! God bless you!
@wongchoiyee (7447)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 11
I am sorry to hear that. Maybe you should learn to adapt or change a better job. Do you love this line of job?
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I have loads of work that aren't specified and out of my contract. Of course I know how to be flexible, it's very inexplicable to describe what really they are.
• United States
15 Dec 11
If you aren't happy there, then you need to find another job. Remember, there are plenty of people looking for jobs right now, so if you do quit this job, make sure that you have another one lined up right behind it, or make sure that you have a way of earning income after you do quit your job. It will be difficult, but you can do it.
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Exactly my point. I should have my fallback when I quit my job here. My sadness is still tolerable but you know, I can't get enough of this. I'm not learning anything here aside from being a loner. You must be happy and grow as a person in order for you to stay and be stable in your job. Thank you for your advise! Much appreciated.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Don't worry too much on your co workers. Try and find ways to keep yourself busy during office hours. You'll soon realize that time will pass by so fast that you won't notice it. Regarding your fake co-workers, you really don't need to like them, you can always be civil to them and just mingle with them when you have the free time.
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Right :) They're just not worth my time and attention. Look at the brighter side and you will realize how much time you will waste if you paid attention to worthless :) Thank you my friend, Happy MyLotting!
• India
15 Dec 11
Oh oh! It's really hard to work amongst such co-workers. May be you are the newest member of that management team and therefore your co-workers haven't gelled with you yet. I know it's very hard to earn good friends and that too at your working station. I am glad to know you found good friends at your previous work project. May your new SYNTHETIC co-workers melt to their real selves and make you feel comfortable.
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I'm not the newest, it's just that I don't wanna be one of the member who I guess doing something against the policies. I cannot feel their roles. They escape their responsibilities if my boss' trying to push through those pending workloads. One even neglected this team to accommodate us even our monthly privileges. What I hate about them is that they keep on skipping and ignoring what my boss' telling.
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Hi girl, never been with you for a long time but surely you appreciate the learning you have there. As you mentioned you came into your mature age when you are dealing with them. Try not to compare the sweetness you have with your friends back then. They have different personalities and maybe they don't know to tag along with the girl like you and with the younger one like you. Perhaps soon enough you can find new job that is far better than what you have now. Remember that the foundation you have is now. Its very hard to dig the foundation so keep on until you reach your solid ground. Keep it up EBM is there!
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Compared to our project, you guys have a big gaps than the staff here. We're almost on the same stage, and two of them are actually one year younger than me. Boredom here makes me misses every people i made friends with for a year. Dch, also told me how rude people are here and it differs alot from the previous. We couldn't been in the same path as always, but of course this one's a challenge indeed. EBM will soon fly to Korea.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
27 Mar 12
wow you work really hard.7am-7pm is tiring.you must be missing your others friends from your previous projects.but you have to move on.try to make friends with them and dont close your doors on them.who knows they might become your best friends too..
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
We always encounter personalities who doesn't fit in our taste or those who are SYNTHETIC especially with your kind of work which is project based. The best thing to do is to adjust with your co-workers and blend with them. Other option is, if you have enough money, you can quit and look for another job. But no matter where we work, there are always those kinds of people.
@vandana7 (91002)
• India
14 Dec 11
First and foremost, almost all work environments have some problem or the other. I'd say some are only better than others but none is perfect. People are competitive and they tend to undermine others. As to discomfort with safety engineer, I am sure it is causing you stress. Ideally, look for a job elsewhere. Keep trying. You will succeed in finding a better environment.
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Yes, but can't stay for a long time if you're not happy and comfortable anymore. It's so pleasing to work if you have friends and they love you too. I'm trying hard to find other job to get out of here. I'm so stressed everyday. Thank you my friend!
@airasheila (5455)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
good day chescagarcia, im quite sad when i have read your post. thinking, what will be my reaction if i will be at your place. what will be my response to my co-workers if that is their attitude. your situation is really really stressful. hence aside from the work schedule that you have that brings stress, your colleagues are the main contributors. as you have said, they are moving and acting abnormally, thus, this act is really a nerve racking. and if i will be at your shoe, perhaps, i will look for another job assignment if this is possible. as you have told that you are on a construction site. try to approach your bosses and request if you can have a new job assignment. just to lessen the burden of the stress that you are carrying. and if this is not possible, just try to divert your attention unto another things. or better yet, try to use that situation to be your inspiration in writing topics for mylot. so, your stress on this matter will turn to be your future income. so at the end, your stress will become your future earnings. stay happy.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I think you just feel that way because you feel more comfortable in you previous work before. I think in every work place you can meet people which is not true to you. Its okay, just try to avoid them. I can understand what you feel because my sister also suffer in the same situation before and its really hard to move or do the things you want to do if you feel awkward to some people around you. Just always think that after your work there you will go home with your family who loves you.
15 Dec 11
i think you should find another job so that you will feel better.