Coffee Morning

@p1kef1sh (45696)
December 19, 2011 8:01am CST
I have realised that I am now one of the older members of the residents of the street that I live on. When we came here we were amongst the youngest and were at work all day and now we are too old (i.e. don't have young children) to be part of the Mum's coffee mornings. I am not too bothered by this, but as I watched several ladies knock on the door of my 30 something neighbour's house I wondered if coffee mornings are still usual. When I was a boy the local mothers regularly got together after dropping their little darlings (ME!) at school. I was not so aware of that happening when I was a young parent. Do you get together with the girls (or boys) whilst your children are at school?
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• India
19 Dec 11
Sorry i can't answer this question because i never used to drink coffee and i just don't like it.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
The discussion is not about coffee but about people meeting regularly in social groups.
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@liquorice (3901)
19 Dec 11
I'm glad you asked this question, I love coffee mornings! We used to organise coffee mornings for some of the local mums in a cafe that was conveniently opened near to us. And after the cafe closed down (), for a while we did it in one of our houses. But some of the ladies went back to work and it all kind of fell apart. But now the school does a coffee morning every friday after drop-off, which is really great, and it's a good time to see friends and catch up with people you haven't seen for a while.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
That's very innovative of the school. I wonder if that's a common thing. When I worked with the Army we used to encourage coffee clubs at out information centres, especially when the troops were away. Young Mums at home can be quite isolated at times I think.
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@liquorice (3901)
19 Dec 11
Yes, it is, they are good like that. I don't know if it's a common thing to do in schools. At our school it's a time for mums to talk and get to know eachother, and there's also always a staff representative there, in case anyone wants to raise any issues. Plus you get biscuits. :) It's good that the Army thought of doing coffee mornings too. Was that for the Army wives? I always think life must be very hard for them, and meeting other mums/wives is extra important.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
Yes it was for the wives (and house husbands). Life is different but in some ways better. Once married you "grow up" within the Regiment and from the age of about 20 to 40 you often live alongside the same people. There is a lot of seoaration as the men (it usually is the men) go off training or on operations leaving their wives behind. The women become very good at managing the house etc and then HE comes home and tries to take over often. You can imagine what happens! LOL.
@pumpkinjam (7759)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 11
I can't say I do that nor ever have really. Partly because while my little darlings are at school, I'm usually working, studying or doing something else so don't really have the time! Although I don't really have that much of a social life anyway! I don't think coffee mornings, etc. are particularly widely practised nowadays (or maybe I just don't get invited!)
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
I have no idea whether they are or are not Pumpkin. Maybe some of the Mums from school get together.
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@ruby222 (4848)
19 Dec 11
When our children were growing up I was always too busy to have coffee with anyone and now that they have flown the nest ( decades ago!!) I am not interested in coffeee mornings. I suppose it is a case of there is no pleasing some folk!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
Ah but there are some folk that don't want to be pleased! Good to see you again. Meerry Christmas, Happy New Year and Happy Easter in case you "disappear" again! LOL.
@ruby222 (4848)
19 Dec 11
and a meery Christmas to you Pike....I trust you have your Turducken chilling in the fridge as we speak...no maybe tis a bit early yet.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
I suspect that the capon that we will have this year is about to meet his sticky end! We'll be seeing him on Christmas Eve. I hope that all is well chez Ruby.
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
19 Dec 11
Morning, P1key! This topic made me laugh, because when we moved to Australia nearly 50 years ago, there was a lady across the road who used to LOVE coming over for morning tea and an all-day gossip! She'd wait until her children (and Mum's) had left for school, and she'd be straight over the road like a shot! Some days, she'd STILL be there when we got home from school! It finally drove my poor Mum demented. After excuses such as, 'I'm doing the springcleaning all this week and won't be able to stop and chat,' etc., which the woman took absolutely no notice of, Mum went out on the top step when she saw the woman coming, and screamed at her to STAY AWAY! Hahahahahaha! After that, we had a reputation for being quite mad - but nobody bothered us again. Good, really. My husband and I (which sounds quite royal!) moved to a little seaside 'town' about a year ago, and we now have younger neighbours. Everyone is arty, hippie and/or very green. Not like our old neighbourhood at ALL! x
@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
Your new neighbourhood sounds like you to a tee! Very bohemian! XX
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
20 Dec 11
Hahahaaha - without the rhapsody! x
• United States
19 Dec 11
I have never done this nor have I ever heard of it ... well, I have seen something like it on television, but I didn't think it existed in the "real world". Maybe I am antisocial, and that is why I don't know about them or maybe I am just not cool enough to be invited to any. Then again, we live in the country, so maybe people here just don't do it as they live too far apart - it is not like we can just "pop over" to the neighbor's house without getting in our car and driving there.
@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
I can asure you that it happens but it may be more of a town thing. Perhaps you could try jumping in the car and going to see your neighbours!!
• United States
19 Dec 11
LOL! I suspect that they would want to know who the "crazy woman" is that is just showing up on their doorstep!
@bjc66bjc (6736)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Hi p1kef1sh, Its probably not as prevalent to much anymore. Probably when you were younger the mothers did't have to go to work and had the time to meet for chatting and coffee. I think more mothers these days are in the working world that before..Just a thought.. I will say that I have never had women come to my house to sit and chat and drink coffee or anhything else...That just not the way I am...I don't like chatty women..the chatting most of the time end up to be gossip and that I try very hard to distance myself from gossip.....
@p1kef1sh (45696)
19 Dec 11
Gossip can be malicious I know.
@indi15 (881)
• India
20 Dec 11
I spend time on internet when my kiddo is in school. As he is quiet small so he does not let me sit on computer once he is back so i finish my house chores and then log in till the time he is in school.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Oh I used to have "coffee" time with my neighbors every morning. Sometimes we would talk till lunch and go somewhere. But as soon as our kids graduated that seemed to stop. Weird. Plus I moved away and even when I made new friends here, they moved away. Ah, those were such sweet memories. I guess I've moved onto other things. I sure miss those mornings.