My son' ex girlfriend is on the loose again.
By jillhill
@jillhill (37353)
United States
December 29, 2011 3:53pm CST
And she emailed my daughter on facebook that she is going through a divorce. My son and her were engaged at one time...dating for four years when she cheated on my son with the guy she married. He had charges against him of molesting a 16 year old foster son he had living with him. He is in law enforcement to boot!(until just recently when he was put on administrative leave) I told her when she came to me to tell me how much she liked the guy way back then, that there would be trouble. Now she is contacting my daughter 8 years later. I wonder why she wants our family to know about the divorce. I personally don't want her contacting anyone in my family. And I don't understand why she did let my daughter know about her divorce. Have you ever had someone from the past pop up and contact someone in your family about something that personal? I won't even tell my son that she contacted his sister or he would be upset. Would you be upset?
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13 responses
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
6 Jan 12
I think you are very justified in thinking this gal has other motives. Sounds to me like she wants your son to know she's available once again. Many years ago an old boyfriend of mine contacted my mom to see if I was still married. That's as far as he took it once he knew I was married and happy. Actually I was flattered this old boyfriend contacted my mom but he was a nice guy and had nothing up his sleeve.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
29 Dec 11
I would think that the reason she contacted your daughter is because she wants your daughter to tell him that she is getting a divorce, meaning she will be available again.
Is your son married, available? Maybe he should know, so that he won't be totally off guard, in case she tries to contact him too.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
30 Dec 11
I agree with you. But, it sounds like she is trying different avenues to get in contact with him. Maybe it would wise to let him know, so he can be prepared and so he can also let his wife know. If they have a good marriage then the ex will not be able to hurt their relationship.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
30 Dec 11
I think she is just trying to get the word out to your son by going through your daughter. If I was your son, I would not take her back either for doing that to him.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
30 Dec 11
She probably wants to get back into the good graces of your family and have another chance with your son. But sadly she thought there was greener pastures elsewhere and it did not turn out well for her that's the way life rolls.
I too would not mention anything to your son for it's up to this female to contact him if she wants in initiate a relationship again.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
30 Dec 11
I can't say I have anybody in the past pop back in. I would prefer people that I have left in the past to stay in the past for personal reasons.
And I'm doubtful about this ex-girlfriend of your son coming back. I agree with you that it could be any good for your son. I wouldn't be upset, but I would brush it off as if it were no consequence for me and my family that she's 'on the loose again'.
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
Maybe she wanted your son to be affected by what happening to her life or maybe she wanted to get back to your son's life again. In my case yes I would be upset for her, and upset for self also because if she will be free again that would mean trouble for my son if she could be involved to her again.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 11
She is sending a strong message to your son through his sister that she wants to be reconsidered now that she is free and unattached. This type of women shouldn't be given a chance as she sounds to be a selfish woman who only take interest on her own emotional welfare. I hope your son don't fall for her sympathy drama.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Wow, what does your daughter think of this girl contacting her? I think this is between your daughter and your son, if she wants to tell him, I'd stay out of it, but would consider at least giving your daughter a suggestion on how to deal with it.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Sounds like she's just looking for attention. Probably doesn't have any real friends or anything to speak of, considering how she treats people.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
29 Dec 11
No, I would not be upset. This person is a walking drama factory and thinks she can entertain people by talking about it! I would just avoid this person at all costs. There is no telling what lengths she will go to to get everyone involved! I had a best friend I dumped back in 9th grade because she got so good at this. I have a neighbor who is the same way. I've had coworkers like that. Avoid, avoid, avoid. And no I've never had anyone do this to me lately but my oldest son's girlfriend is. She will turn anything into drama and tries to pull my youngest into it! It drives him nuts. My oldest son hates face book now because his girl friend managed to start such a fight on it the cops came to my sons door.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
29 Dec 11
It sounds like one of those she felt upset because the marriage didn't go like she wanted and so she wants your son to be with her again. Will she most likely cheat on your son again if she gets a chance? Yes. Honestly, I would tell your son so he isn't sucked in by it, or tell her to leave your family alone.
