I want to have more children.

@tabatha7 (187)
January 1, 2012 10:21pm CST
My husband & I are getting to be older; we're now considered to be in the early stages of mid-life. I have a child from a previous relationship & always wanted to have about 5 kids... but the guy I had the first child with was sooo mean to me. (verbally abusive) So now I have a wonderful husband & we have a child together now. We would like to have more... but we met so late in life (late 30s, early 40s) that we don't have a lot of time left to have our own kids. So anyway, do you have children? Do you want more? My oldest child is already a teenager, so it's a little weird to have a teenager & some kids/babies who are a lot younger... but we're getting used to it! :)
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11 responses
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
I think you and your husband deserve to have a child. If you think you are still capable of giving birth then go ahead. Best to see an ob-gyne so you can have a check up on your condition. As for your eldest child, it is best if you tell him/her about your plans so as to get his/her opinion and perhaps to make him/her understand your wish for a bigger family. I wish you the best. Go, go, go!
• United States
2 Jan 12
I think it'd be great for you to have another child. Your older son will be a good daddy from all of the experience of watching you take care of his sibling. Plus, he will have some family after you and your dh pass on many years from now.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
24 Mar 13
Hi, I have only one child. My son is 24 years old. He is very nice , and kind to us. we wanted to have only one child may be girl or boy so that we can raise him and give him all the comforts we can. Really we are very happy with our son. You wanted more children but it's OK, you ca raise your child with love and care and make him a good human being and not like your ex.
• Jordan
2 Jan 12
I'm 18, so I don't have any children. Having babies at such an age is a decision that, I believe, should be deeply thought about. Here are some reasons why older people don't want to have children: - You might not have enough time or patience to deal with little babies. - You might be very old while they're still very young. God forbid, you might die while your children still need you. - One of the most important reason you need to consider is that your child might have Down Syndrome if you're too old. But at late 30s I don't think you are. Anyways, if you want to have more children then all these reasons can be somehow dealt with. You can have some medical exams to check if you're fit enough to have a child, I believe you are. If you think you can spare the time for your new born baby then that eliminates another reason for not having a child. The only reason left doesn't really apply that much in your case. If you have a child now, they would be about 30 when you're 70, which is kind of average. Tabatha, have a nice day. I hope everything goes well with you and your husband. Hope you have a good day
@mcart82 (87)
2 Jan 12
Having kids is a blessing Im pregnant with my second child and the first one is from a previous relationship. My oldest son is 10 right now, big gap between them but he is really excited and so am I. The reality is that this is up to you, my mom had a baby in her 40's and I have an aunt who did as well, my baby brother does have cerebral palsy and this has been hard in my mom since she had to stop working to take care of him full time. My aunt his baby came out fine, but she is in her late 50's and her youngest is going to 7th grade now, which means she will never be able to take a break, she will be in her late 60's when he graduates. It is all up to you, if you would like to be raising a baby at this point, then go for it, but try to remember all the work that comes with it, the money, the energy, the responsibilities, the lack of sleep. Wish you the best in whatever decision you make.
@ErinCW (37)
• Canada
17 Apr 12
My Mom had me at 21 and my sister at 23...we grew up best friends and still are to this day. When my Mom turned 41 she found out she was pregnant again. (yes my parents are still together - everyone always asks that). So at 42 my Mom had her 3rd daughter. I am 21 years older than my youngest sister and although we are not close the way me and my sister who is only 2 years younger than me are, we have a very special bond. I get to be sister/friend and substitute Mom whenever each role is needed. I also have a one year old son, so although my little sister is only 7, she's an Aunt! Odd family dynamic, but it works for us and we are all very happy!
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
4 Jul 12
hi, Never mind if you are capable then carry on. Do not think of your age factor or otherwise why don't you adopt the child? You can have a big family of your choice and at the same time you give happiness to some orphan child. You are doing a great nobal work by which you will be definitely blessed by God. I had only one child and i am very happy for.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Jan 12
I always love children. I myself come from a big family of 10. I could only produce two children of my own, something I couldn't really understand why. So I took two children to complete my family. My two biological sons are now adults and independently on their own while my two daughters are still under my wings.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
2 Jan 12
I have no kids, and I plan on letting things as they are. I have no maternal instint, so I'm doing the right thing. Kids are better with families who are interested into taking care of babies, kids, teenagers, etc As long as you know how to parent your kids and you can get pregnant again in a responsible way, knowing that when your kids are teenagers you won't be a young lady with lots of energy anymore, I see no problem. Responsible parenting
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
2 Jan 12
As you love to have children you can also opt for adoption . It will help other orphans to get a home too . But as there are many legal compliance involved you may also take help of surrogate mother . This link may help you getting more information : http://healthmad.com/health/surrogacy-an-overview/ (not a referral link) All the best
@indi15 (888)
• India
2 Jan 12
If you guys want to have a baby, then there is nothing wrong in that. Its your family , you have to decide how you want to make your teenager understand and how to give proper care and love to all of them. Kids are always wonderful to have.
@catt46 (5)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I do not have children, I did not want to have children. I chose instead to treat my siblings children as my own.Sometimes I do regret it,and had I been with the write man, like the one I am with now I think I would have had kids.It is no longer an option for me now. My sister and her husband have two children in their early 20's and they started all over. At 42 they had another little girl and at 45 they had another little boy. It is a personal choice, but I do not feel 30's and 40's are to old to have a child, even if they already teen or adult children. It is a personal choice.