Hot argue with fast friend

@pro_ojha (600)
India
January 9, 2012 9:23pm CST
Hallo Friends Yesterday I hot word with one of my fast friend and get offset. Actually he argue on in a bad manner and i am not able to control myself.After that we have hot discussion then we are talking to each other. He is one of my good friend I do not want to lost him because he support me when i need most. Friends what I have to do.
1 person likes this
11 responses
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
in a friendship it usually happen to have argument and sometimes we speak harmful words or foul or offensive words to our friends without knowing that we hurt them by it,i try to control my temper in this matter especially that i love my friends.
@pro_ojha (600)
• India
23 Mar 13
Thank,s asliah for response on my wall, but you are too late , any way matter was solved now we good friend again
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 Jan 12
I think that one of the great things about real friends is that you can have disagreements and sometimes arguments and not worry about losing them the next day. Just because you are friends doesn't mean that you have to agree on everything. I have agreed to disagree with close friends on many occasions. I think that the trouble is when people get mad and say things they don't mean. Then there might be a need to make up. If I were to say something that I didn't mean..I would say I was sorry but if it was just a disagreement, I would say..even though I don't agree..I still hold you as a dear friend. Good luck with your friend and I hope everything turns out well.
@pro_ojha (600)
• India
11 Jan 12
hi jen Thanks for response on my discussion after a long gap. My friend used to joke that the dirty. And I don't like that this is main reason of disagreements. This time I am in mood to teach a lesson
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jan 12
hi pro=ojha Start talking to your friend calmly and softly. First cool off and resolve to be a peace makerr. Then tell your friend you do not want to ruinm your friendship so lets just talk this out calmly and with out any anger,Keeping your voice low and calm will dissipate his or her anger and let you both work out the problem without getting angry again.I am sure he will come to understand you did not want to lose his friendshop at all.good luck.
@pro_ojha (600)
• India
10 Jan 12
hi Hatley Thank,s for you suggestion. But I did not want to start first I know when I started talking he did not deny. But i start first then he did not take my world seriously as i earlier do.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
Even the best of friends argues. When the argument gets hotter, they sometimes become violent specially with men. But sometimes hot words thrown to each other are more hurting than the physical hurt. When that happens, the friendship becomes irreparable. And if ever they are settled, the rapport they once had can never be returned again. For your case, i think you should humbly and sincerely apologize to him when you see that he is in a nice mood.
@pro_ojha (600)
• India
10 Jan 12
Hey smiplyd Thank,s for nice suggestion. Yes I know if started talking he can,t refuge me. But in future he make same mistake. So I decided he take first step then I take a promise that he would not do same in future.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
13 Jan 12
I think your friend was having a bad day. I mean there are times when my friends snap at me for no reason but then I know they are having a bad day and I try to put eveything cool by not screaming at them too. In return they stay patient when I am having the same kind of day too. That's what friends are for I feel, understanding one other when they are in need.
@victorkrish (1614)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 12
We actually cannot run out from arguments, so as a human we have to face it.But the main thing we have control our temper. So consider.
@celticeagle (160283)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 12
A person needs to be secure in themselves and what they expect from others. If they go around that and treat you with disrespect then you leave the situation. What good does it do to have a yelling match? Nothing is hurt and people get upset with nothing coming out of it.
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
Well, sometimes when we are in the middle of our temper we say somethings that we regret later. That is why it is good to keep our cool always, when one is really angry one should stay cool. I would suggest that you call your friend and talk things out in a nice manner, now that both of you have thought it over. It is not bad to be humble someimes especially to a good friend , maybe this time he has also realized what was really the problem and the cause of the argument. There's no harm in trying.Good Luck!
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
10 Jan 12
I guess it can happen to everyone to have arguments even with their best friends,but if the friendship is solid I'm sure those arguments can be left behind if both parts realize that they were maybe too heated when sustaining their points of view,so I think the best thing you should do is to try to apologize to your friend if you consider that the discussion became too hot because of you,and I' m sure your friend will also apologize and everything will be fine again.It would be a shame indeed to lose a good friend because of an argument.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
It is normal to have a hot argument with a friend or family. This happens when both don't coincide with each other. It is important that how hot the argument is, both must confront and forgive each other after.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
i think let his anger fade first before you talk to him again. Talk to him with a calm and sweet voice. Every argument can fix with talking and understanding to each other. I believe that after a fight and your friendship become okay again you will have much better partnership..