How do you make it work out?
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15745)
Philippines
January 13, 2012 12:37am CST
Last night hubby told me that a friend of his recommended him for a job in a call center as a computer tech. hubby is quite good at computers.. and he is thinking of resigning in the current job he is in, he is working in a state university which is not offering that much.. i even earn more...so he is thinking of resigning and working in that call center.
He told me, starting salary is around 25 thousand pesos..which is a lot actually but the thing is the city is 8 hours away from Zamboanga..it is in Dipolog city. There is no problem of him staying there since i have relatives there but the thing is, i am not used to him being away..
In fact, i could say i am quite dependent on him. We do things together from doing the grocery..to shopping, to even doing the laundry. He brings me to work and fetches me from work...and if he will work at another city, it will be a change with our routine. but we do need more income with the kids in school....and us building a new house.
For those with husbands / wives working far..how do u make it workout? i know communication is easy since we have internet..but its the physical part that is hard for me..no kisses in the morning..and hugs and the kids will adjust too..
11 responses
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I know it's going to be really hard, considering you also have little kids. My uncle was reassigned to Pagadian City and I know it isn't easy for him, too. He has to come home every week, stay for a day or less then go leave back for work. He seems restless/fatigued at times when we have family occasions. I hope that whatever decision you both make will turn out right and good for everybody involved. Best wishes!
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Right choy, i also have friend's whose father / mother are currently going in and out of Zamboanga to Pagadian..
It might be hard but it is something we can work out.. thanks :)
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
13 Jan 12
I have been a construction engineer from 1981 onwards and understand your concern. My job makes me stay away from my family as I shift bases every now and then. Consequently, I have never "been there" for my family in moments of crisis. But then I am very lucky to have a very supportive family and still have very strong bonds.
What you need to consider is, whether all this is worthwhile. If it is, go ahead with it. Money is important for life, there can be no doubt about it.
The good news is since a call center job is more stable than my job, you can perhaps move to your husband's place of work, when you find opportunity. Even if this is not possible, I have enough faith in the ingenuity of humans that I am sure you will find another way to be together.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Wow you are strong then.. and i am thinking ahead now, if he goes ahead with this, there is no other way but make it work out.. money is a big necessity which we cannot just dismiss.. it is also hard for him to find a job that offers that big here in our current city..
and yes i thought of that, maybe i could also work there and transfer or if the office i am working now expands, i could transfer there..
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
14 Jan 12
Hello Jazel,
Sometimes we have to set the priorities.For me money has never been the priority.My workplace is around 15Kms away from my house where i stay with my family,parents and brothers and their families.Though i also got the offers to work in other states with higher salary but i never accepted those because i feel the money which i am earning today is sufficient for me and i need to look after my parents now.
You should also first calculate whether money is important or you can sacrifice all your routine for it then should take a decision.
.For me money has never been the priority.My workplace is around 15Kms away from my house where i stay with my family,parents and brothers and their families.Though i also got the offers to work in other states with higher salary but i never accepted those because i feel the money which i am earning today is sufficient for me and i need to look after my parents now.
You should also first calculate whether money is important or you can sacrifice all your routine for it then should take a decision.
@Jezabeth (82)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
hi jazel its important for you and your husband to keep in touch always despite
the distance. However it seems different when his far away from you and your kids
just think of it as a twist in your relationship. You will miss him more, just
think of the positive outcome it will do for your family so you wont worry much.Godbless!
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Sometimes you just have to accept that things like this has to happen. Just think about your house and your kids. If he accepts the job in the city it will help your family more. Try to think as well that you are still lucky that he will just be 8 hours away and whenever you need him he can still come back to where you are easily. Unlike those who was working abroad.
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I am not sure if this is the right time to accept jobs in a call center since there is a proposed bill in the US (anti-outsourcing bill) that that would punish American companies for sending their customer call centers overseas http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/09/anti-outsourcing-bill-uproar-india-philippines_n_1193958.html . For me it's too risky especially if your husband has a regular job right now. Maybe wait for the development of this proposed bill.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Now this is something that gives me worries.. i will share it to my husband..
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
yeah this is a really bad news for Filipinos and those from India as well, I just saw it in a news program yesterday and when I read your discussion I searched for some reference so you could read it yourself.
@yanzalong (19091)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 12
I think it is hard at the beginning to be far away from someone you love, especially you and your husband are always together. But I am sure you will get used to him being away later on. Trust me, it's gonna be easy. When I was away from my wife for the first time, I felt it was so hard,and I kept remembering her all the time. After a couple of weeks or so, it slowly turned out to be no problems.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I guess you'll have to set that mushiness aside for awhile and start focusing on what's important. If both of you need money, you have to consider adjustments such as this one. Another reason is that it won't be a trouble for me catching you alone in your house. MMMWAHAHAHAHA! JK
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
13 Jan 12
I used to have a long distance relationship but it is not easy to deal with. The internet helps but it is really hard not to be actually with your partner. I think that you should tried it out and see how this goes. From the moment you need the money for your family and new house i believe that you can take courage by this.And you can always visit him or he comes to you at weekends if it is easy.
Good luck!
