Relationship through facebook ?
By zaahro
@zaahro (748)
Indonesia
January 14, 2012 2:07am CST
I was confused to choose where will I put this discussion, under facebook.com or relationship. At last here it is. What do you think about relationship through facebook ? You are dating someone you know through facebook, it is like blind date. You talk to him everyday. Meet him on webcam, but you two live in different state. You know you will never meet her in real life, just in facebook. Do you think it is stupid ? Does it fool yourself ? Facebook doesn't show who the real you are ?
I used to have this kind of relationship, but I've got over it because I feel tired and stupid. I think I have to get back to my real life. I want to open my heart for someone around me, I've pushed away some loves that came to me because that stupid relationship. My ex on Facebook was angry, I've hurt him so deep. I am really sorry but I don't want to get back. I wish we can still be friends because he is very nice but he hates me :/. He removed me so I blocked him :D :(. What do you think ? It is so stupid, isn't it ?
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Yeah I know, but I don't know why I am like that. When I get what I want, I'll get bored very soon. So when I like someone, and suddenly I know that he likes me too I'll lose my feeling about him. It's very strange, isn't it ? Yes you are right, love can't be forced. Just let it flow.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 12
Because I don't like him when he was mine, I just like him when he is not mine. That's why I left him. I know that's odd but that is exactly what I feel. I don't like him to be with me. I think I just adore him.
Yes, distance is a matter. You don't know it.
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@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 12
Becarefully my dear, take a look at the news at the TV.So much example that could be a lesson.
You didn't know how His daily life, you just know or meet Him on the webcam. I don't want to make a judgement, but He could be anything on the offline since you didn't know Him in the real life.
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hi Devilova, ,,,
Thank you for your warning and advices. I'll be more careful now. I did date him just to make him talk more so I could practice my English :). I did not know mylot before, so far I lose nothing and I got many experience. I confess he gave more more knowledge and taught me many things. Iv'e known him for two years. And we decided to have a relationship in the last nine months, so I know he is a good boy. But my intention was no more than learning. :)
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@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
14 Jan 12
Relationships..those are to be for real...trying to obtain and save for life those relationships through socializing media sites are an exercise in futility. There is little assurance as to the verity of thoughts being expressed on a mutual level.
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@narnia007 (1050)
• India
14 Jan 12
I hate the very idea of relationship with facebook.One thing is that you really don't know about the person there.I have some people exposing themselves as a very bad and spoiled person and they say,they lie themselves for their profession.Some people portray themselves as very good persons but in reality they are spoiled persons.Apart from this,the thing that affected me the most was that,me ex girlfriend ditched me for the guy she found in facebook.At that,they haven't even met each other.But she went for him.After that never heard from her.I don't think such a relationship will last.It is good,you are away from it.
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hello narnia007...
Yes, I know people will act as good as possible in social network in case to get popular. The show their fake characteristics. This kind of relationships are not last, if they are, there are just a few of them. I am sorry ofr your relationship, hope she'll realize what she is doing.
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@jeslin (147)
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14 Jan 12
well first of all, you guys might meet, but just not now. I have friends who met their husbands online but then, their relationship don't last long. In fact, some of them who met online even got cheated. So i don't see the point of you doing it. As for your ex, i did that to him to, so i don't think it is stupid, but then, in life, we should really learn to open up our hearts. It might be difficult to be friends again at first, but i believe with the effort that you put in it, you guys can definitely become friends again. =) good luck. I'm glad you finally decided to do something more meaningful than dating on facebook.
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 12
I hate cheating :( it better to end the relationship.
Yes, that is what I am doing, I'll open up my hearts again and be normal :).
I don't want to force him to be friends again, now our conversation full of hates, even when I try to calm down he does not want to accept this. He said that he'll always care about me even when we are no longer together but the fact he hates me so much -_______-
Thank you for commenting Jeslin :)
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@sivaeinfo (220)
• India
14 Jan 12
I don't like(believe) this relationship. Friend is created through facebook or any social network but not love. Without knowing hie/her habits, speech, behaviour how can we like or love each other. Everyone have some thought about his pair. Facebook doesn't show that to each other. Both of them have to talk, share love together to make relationship. If possible to meet each other, we can proceed relationship through facebook.
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hello sivaeinfo..
Thank you for sharing you opinion. Yeah... our first purpose in having Facebook is to get more friends and keep in touch with our friends that stay too far. But when we fall in love, there is noyhing we can do. When we are in love, we can be stupid and childish. But now I've put a stop on it and back to my real life again.
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@yanzalong (18983)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 12
Well, it is not stupid if you two are serious and you both have nothing to hide. I mean you are not cheating one another. I have a friend who married a man she met on facebook.
Relationship through facebook can yield a positive and negative result, depending on the individuals. There are people who use facebook to cheat others. I am a facebooker as well but I don't pay serious attentions to certain people. All my friends are treated the same.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 12
i agree with you yanzalong..
i had a friend who found her soulmate in internet. not by facebook, but maybe by MIRC feature, an old chat..
and until now, they live happily together..
internet is one way for finding our soulmate maybe..but yes, sometimes internet especially facebook bring the bad effect for their user..
so depends on the user again
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hi yanzalong...
Thank you for your opinion. We were not cheating on each other. That's good if thre's some success relationship from Fb. But mine was not for real. I did like him but not that deep. So far I am using my facebook in a good way. And so are my friends :)
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Jan 12
There's a reason why you entered that kind of relationship. I think for some people it is stupid but Love is hard to understand. Is it stupid because you don't get to meet Him? Is there's no way to meet him? If it is really nothing and you don't feel anything just go and move on. You know I have a friend who has a relationship with whom she never meet at all. And still it's almost years now, and they still haven't met. They will now soon. Love moves in mysterious ways :)
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 12
Hello vycess...yup love is hard to understand. We can't blame people who fall in love in a odd ways. Well I can't reach him..too far. I am in Asia and he is in the U.S.A :D. I've decided to put a stop on in and move on :). I offered him to be a good friends but he reject it. He was so angry, he sent me a vids that he was crying. But I don't want to get back, never. I need someone real.
That's good if your friends can meet each other, that is not stupid :). I am happy for them.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 12
Yeah, a bit stupid frankly~
Oh, don't take it personal. I am just joking.(^^)
I don't go for any relationship other than just being friends with people online. I have friends on facebook and I would say I know most of them as I just keep schoolmates in there. I don't accept stranger or friends of my friends. Have a few of them and that is just because we share the same interests. I am not using facebook or social networking sites to find love or partner but there are people who get married because of facebook. Anything can happen and it is not impossible~(^^)
Oh, don't take it personal. I am just joking.(^^)
I don't go for any relationship other than just being friends with people online. I have friends on facebook and I would say I know most of them as I just keep schoolmates in there. I don't accept stranger or friends of my friends. Have a few of them and that is just because we share the same interests. I am not using facebook or social networking sites to find love or partner but there are people who get married because of facebook. Anything can happen and it is not impossible~(^^)@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 12
Very bad~(^^)
What to do when you don't have any feelings towards him?(^^)
A foreigner?? From which country??? Careful with online relationship as there are many fake, the fake people, photos along with the fake relationship as well. There are people who take it as a chance to tricked others. It always on the newspaper. Hope your ex was not one of them~(^^)
I used to accept strangers when I was in Tagged but since I were not active there plus too many flirting from those guys, I decided to closed the account.(^^)
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
Hii CTHanum...Yeah it is okay. It was only a trial and error
My intention is the same, but since I am studying English I start to accept the requests from foreign people. And yeah it is just happen that way. Thank's to facebook that always give me more lessons. :)
Now I'll be more careful with blind date. I am not sorry bcz my ex is a good person, the problem was I am tired ond bored of him :D
How bad I am :(
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@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
ahah :D yes I know I am. I mean I did like him, he is so kind to me. My feeling grew up everyday and I wanted him to be a close friend. When I got what I want, I had him as a close friend, I got bored by the time. :( I did not know but that was felt. I tried to remain but I didn't feel comfortable. So I just be honest to him and ended it peacefullly. I've hurt him :(
Yeah He is from New York. I know my ex, I have some of his family member's facebook. They are from Equador, they move to NY when he finished high school. I have his Youtube channel where he always upload videos about his family. I am not that careless in choosing someomne to be a partner. I had known him for a year before I got into relatonship with him.
You have tagged too ? Well I just receive the request but never do such thing more in Tagged. I think Ihaven't open it for three months :D
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@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 12
ohhh.... my friend.... it soo childish. sorry for that, but you must know about facebook function. it's ok have a girlfriend/ boyfriend in facebook, once again.... it just depend with us.
anyway.... may i be yourfriend on facebook?
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
thank's a lot, i'll add you, and we can share at facebook. anyway, my personality on facebook is different than mylot. in facebook, i still a bad guy. lol.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hey henkipranada :)... Thank you for commenting.
Ahah I know, but I ejoy it, I am not so sorry because I got many lesson from that. Yes it depends on us. and mine was not bad :D.
It okay, go add my Facebook as long as you'll be good :) : Zahro Firdausa Rafi.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
I have met my boyfriend through facebook. We are not that far enough and I didn't expect that to happen. Well, for users of facebook who are having long distance relationships and haven't seen each other personally, we don't know whether their feelings are true or not. I don't want to be fooled and be called stupid. If you don't want to hurt yourself, don't enter into relationship which will just make you cry and hopeless. Go for something real.
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@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
14 Jan 12
i am skeptical about relations based on internet.i have friends that tried this and they were very dissapointed because when they finaly meet the other person she was totaly different from what is seemes and i am not talking about the outside aspect.i believe you cannot get to know a person until you meet her in person,spend time and talk a lot with her.i would never do this cause i prefer to avoid dissapointement.i also had problems with a stoker and i belive on the internet you can find a lot of this ones.
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
21 Jan 12
i am talking about the fact that on the internet many people with mental problems...cause i cannot consider them sane...are using fake identities and pretend to be what they are not.i have a friend who thought that he is talking with a girl for a half of year and it proved to be a boy who was using his sisters photos.and you have to agree that you can know for real a person only after you see him or her how it acts in the real world.
@nonik_mildie (139)
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16 Jan 12
hi zahro, well sometimes we must see which one is real for us and which one is not. if you have a faith that you can make your relationship be real, then why not? i think facebook can be a media to find "the one" in our life. as long as your dating has the same faith and same purpose like you. nothing is impossible. but if your dating is far away, from another country and he doesn't has a purpose to visit you and everything seems to hard to be realize then you'll better leave him.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hi back nonik...
Yeah you are right. He had a plan to visit Indonesia :D but we don't know when. Ohh yes but my intention is not to find a boyfriend. It was just trial and error :D.
As you read, I already left him :), though it means I get one more enemy :).
@nonik_mildie (139)
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22 Jan 12
i have a friend who really like to have a relationship with foreigner. they meet from fb and starting to make a serious relationship. sometimes they call each other. well, this kind of relation is seems hard to make real because of the distance, family background, and more. my friend also broke her relation up. so...i can't guarantee that it will work well.... just try to find the real one for you good luck
@Sebastion1234 (293)
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14 Jan 12
i will not put my relationship status unless it is relay stable...i know may teenager change their relationship status always once they have new bf or gf they change oce break up that the end back to single
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
15 Jan 12
I know a lot of people who met their soul mates on line and eventually met and got married. I think it is OK if there is actually a plan to meet that person and actually have a real relationship with them, but if you never plan on meeting or meeting one another is pretty much impossible then I believe it can be a bit of a waste of time for both of you when you can go out of your home and meet someone you can have a real physical relationship.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hii ladym33..
Yeah you are righ, indeed. This such relationships have positive and negative sides. And so far mine was just wasting time :D, it's okay I am not sorry. I took that risks. Now I can understand it better than when I was only have heard from people :)
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
I think having online relationship is dangerous. You should never ever try it again. You don't just trust anyone you have not even met in person and have not really known. Even in real life you don't just say yes to anyone you just met. You still have to know him more before trusting him. How much more with cyber relationship. You can't fully know him by talking through webcam all day long. 
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hello Salonga ...
Yes I agree with you, I will never do it again, no more. It was the first and the last for me. I have known him for a year and then had a relationship in the next nine months. So I've known him for almost two years, he has been good to me and teach me many things. It was not that bad. I have ended it and back to my real life. Don't worry Salonga :)
Happy mylotting.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
20 Jan 12
I think it was a childish attitude from him, but when we are angry, we do stupid things. I don't think you are wrong, if you don't have any plans to meet this guy in real life, so, it is just a waste of time. But, if you guys can meet each other in real life, maybe you should give a try. Do this guy live far from you?
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
22 Jan 12
hii moneywriter :)
Yeah I think so :D, we never think twice when we are angry :/.
Perhaps I want to meet him, but it is impossible so I have no plan to meet him. He lives in New York, and I live in Indonesia. It not a short distance, isn' ? lol
It better to have relationship in my real life.
@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
16 Jan 12
I"m still trying to figure out how one "dates" on FB.
I have an old school friend I reconnected with on FB. We hadn't seen each other since graduation night. I always respected him very much. He's a deep person, but does what I consider to be dumb things on FB. Nevertheless, I like him and love reading his poetry. He has been divorced three times, so his luck with real world relationships wasn't great. He met a girl on FB who was from another country, and he moved there to marry her and they are still married, but for less than a year. Their marriage may not last very long this time around because she has what is normally a terminal illness. He married her knowing that. I think he wants to just love her so she won't have to live this illness alone until the end. I think that's good for both of them.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Hi Bagarad...
Eh, maybe what I meant was 'having a relationship' :D.
Aww that's a sad story, but very romantic :(. How sweet he is, I hope he will get his soulmate again soon to accompany him for the rest of his life. He has been a very good man.
Thank you for sharing your story and happy mylotting. :0
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Hi zaahro,
No that isn't stupid. But it is really hard to be in such relationship. But as long as you too have planned on seeing each other personally and being with each other then there will be no problem. But you have to know his real personality as it's hard to trust someone now.
