Why do some people take others for granted?
By digidogo
@digidogo (444)
Philippines
January 19, 2012 4:50am CST
This has been a question that has gone through my mind several times and although I do not like to expect anything in return, I wonder why people like to take others for granted and treat them the opposite after all the affection, goodness, etc, anything related to something positive that they have been shown.
I have had several people whom I have shown the best of me and treated them as "special" persons but they just tend to take me for granted, according to what I feel, as if I am someone who is uncapable of negativity. They make me feel angered to a extreme point at times although such feelings last very shortly as I tend to put things to rest as quickly as they start. Sometimes, I tend to keep away from them but then they act as if nothing had happened and so the issue is put to rest I continue to treat them the way I usually do which then eventually leads to the start of the cycle.
What is your advice? Am I being too good a person or is there something wrong I am doing? What about your experiences?
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6 responses
@blueangelwrites (149)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
To answer your question about why some people take others for granted, it is because some can't even handle their own lives that they don't have the capacity to stop and take time for other people, that they are mostly selfish, and/or they might just be insensitive to other people's wants or needs.
I think that you should be able to communicate to them your feelings in a positive way. Make them realize that you also need them in a way and you can only go out of your way for them according to your capacity. If they emptied you out, you can always step back and take care of yourself until you are able to care for them the best way you know how. Anyway, that will always be you. Just continue to be a kind and caring person. The people doing the opposite usually end up being without the kind of friendship you offer. I hope they realize that in time and have the sense to realize how a gem you are.
@digidogo (444)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
I definitely agree with you. That is what I see in them during those times. They lack the capacity to think of people, especially of someone who cares for them and in result mistreat them. I usually am not someone who speaks his mind out in this situation but waits for the storm to pass but I will try to consider what you have mentioned. Though, I will continue to be the kind of person I am. I also do continue hoping that they would realize in time. Thank you for your response.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
If you think and feel you are being taken for granted by those people you treat and consider as special someone- then, leave it.
It's not worth wasting time treating and giving special attention to people who are not worthy.
@jeslin (147)
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19 Jan 12
You are being too nice, and people are taking advantage of you. They know that you are this kind of person, that is why they are using you. Instead, i feel you should stay away from them, but if you truly cherish your relationship with them, then i suggest that you confront them. One thing about why people would treat you that way, it is because you give in easily, you are an easygoing person, kind hearted and everything that is why they have the chance to do this to you. All you have to do is learn to say no. Try and protect yourself. =) good luck and happy mylotting.
@digidogo (444)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Yes I truly cherish them but confronting them is not that easy since they usually act as if nothing has happened or I wonder if they ever realize what they have done. I would like to agree very much on that point of yours wherein I would have to learn to say no. I hardly say no to these people since I cherish them and I want to see them happy at all times especially when I am around. I will try to say no more than I usually do and in the meanwhile continue to be myself. Thank you for your response and likewise.
@ryeabigan (20)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
i experienced what u r experiencing right now and i know hot it feels but somehow i think i learned already from it. some people just take u for granted because of some reasons such as: money, they just one something from you and they don't give u importance and don't appreciate what you've done to them, some are just after something from u and when they get what they were after for and what they want, they will suddenly treat u like a stranger. i really hate those kind of people and u should also learn from it. learn to choose your real friends and don't be too much nice to others that u think that are not deserving. there's nothing wrong with u because u are just being yourself while them are just being plastic or fake. it's time for you to move on if you think it will just cause no good going together with those kind of people. real friends are true and always understands you and never hurt your feelings and they will never take you for granted.
@digidogo (444)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
I can easily sense if an individual is just after my money and so I try to keep away from them if they do not give anything in return. Although these people are my real friends, there are some whom I feel less aquainted with. Also, what I am really confused is why they could easily mistreat someone like me after all the positivity I have shown them but I also believe that sometimes there are just misunderstandings so it is not neccessarily true that true friends never hurt your feelings or take you for granted. Thank you for your reply though.
