People get angry over insignificant things

Singapore
January 19, 2012 11:51pm CST
Hi guys, Did you ever noticed that some people get worked up over the slightest thing e.g. lamenting and cursing at the bus driver and bus company when the bus is a bit late, complaining of the lack of car park lots at the supermarket, feeling really uptight at the long queue in the checkout counters, berating their young child who asked for a toy once too often? I'm sure you must have encountered many other instances. Why do these people get so worked up at insignificant things? A Roman philosopher Seneca noted that it is because these people are spolit that they cannot tolerate the slightest inconvenience or discomfort. The only people whom they hurt by getting angry is themselves. Do you agree? Are you gulity of such behavior? How do you think one can overcome this?
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11 responses
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
Well, yeah, sometimes I do that. That happens when I feel pressured by things or if I experience problems that I can't get out of my mind. Sometimes I guess, people who are easily angry are the unhappy and insecure people. Like for example, when someone is prioritized prior you, you may feel easily irritated by it. Perhaps because your emotions got stirred and your unconscious mind starts comparing you to the person who have been prioritized and then you feel insecure about yourself. So in the end, you get mad. So those kinds of people get their emotions stirred very easily instead of analyzing the problem and looking for solutions. It happens a lot. I admitted it happens to me. I guess we just need to learn to handle our emotional stability more. And be more perspective of things.
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• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi girl_thinking, One can get angry due to stress at work, home etc but the thing is one needs to control one's anger and not let it manifest. Learn to divert one's energy to more constructive outlets. I believe the ego is one thing which many people are feeling that are taken advantage of by others when in fact they are not. Such people are not only insecure that they are also very sensitive. Thanks for commenting.
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Well, yeah. You got a point. Clearly, when we are mad, we become insensitive to our surroundings especially the other people around us because we are focused on our feelings. I like what you said about diverting anger to more constructive outlets. If you may please, can you tell me samples of constructive outlets? I think I have a problem with my own anger management. Your topic is very helpful for me. Glad I found it
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
21 Jan 12
Yes they do and I think today's society is at fault because we're given everything on a silver platter. Anywhere from having our bum changed when we're babies to having benefits cheques from the gov't. EVen now hospitals are looking like hotels, all fancy-like. Too many people will sue you for even looking at them the wrong way. Seriously, we as a spoiled society need to be put back into our places.
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• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi Masihi, Yss I believe there is some truth here that today's society is at fault to a certain extent. However we are all thinking people and we can do something about it. We could choose to not follow these ways and make an extra effort to develop our own behavior so as to benefit others and ourselves. Who can rectify our 'spoilt' behavior except ourselves? Thanks for your comments.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
20 Jan 12
That would be someone with a short fuse, someone who may explode any minute at anything or anyone. I think the reason people act like it is all stress, not knowing how to control it or letting all of the little things get to them instead of letting the little things go. This is the type person that needs some counseling and won't change until they realize that they need to change before they hurt someone. I really don't think someone like this only hurts them self, it really depends on what they say and do while on a rampage. Some people take everything to heart that they hear from someone they respect or love.
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• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi mzz663, Exactly what I thought. Those people with short fuses are only hurting themselves more than they hurt others. And they do not know it or just don't care. They really do need counseling before it gets worse. Thank for sharing your thoughts.
@yanzalong (18983)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 12
They were brought up in an environment where most people around them including their families were accustomed to complaining. This behaviour has been rooted in their heart till they are grown up.
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• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi yanzalong, It's so sad if that's the case. What a terrible environment to be in! Imagine having to live with a bunch of people who are complaining and whining about things all day long. How does one get out such a trap? Emigrate? Thanks for your comments.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
I admit sometimes I feel so impatient and get angry. It's not such a good behavior actually. No matter how busy or in a rush we may be - we need to understand that we are not the only people in this world to get in queue first or getting the bus easily. I used to behave like that before - imagine waiting for more than an hour for the bus? I kept calling the bus and traffic authority asking for the schedule and getting so impatient. But then later on I understood that I won't get anything and everything that easily.
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• Singapore
20 Jan 12
Hi enelym001, One of the greatest virtues in life is patience. But it seems so hard to have patience as we are always in a rush to do this and that. Things don't seem to move quickly enough for us. If we can just slow down a bit and starts to reflect on the situation I'm pretty sure we will soon see that getting impatient will get us nowhere as you mentioned in the example of late buses. Have a nice day.
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@yaso4u (502)
• India
20 Jan 12
Hi succeednow, Angry ! It will come to everyone, particularly to the people who is around 14 to 35 years of age. They tend to get anger for most of small small things. I felt its all about inexprience and immature, I too in the same age group and too anger at some places, but day by day I am getting matured. Even some matured and over aged people also get anger, its because of their situation that demands it. Some people are in move to reach a particular place in time but they can't due to some thing, hence they get anger at burst out publicly.
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• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi yaso4u, Yes, people do and can get angry. It may seem that younger people get angry rather easily but I also know of older people who are prone to short temper. Somehow I think genes play a part too. I think one has to control one's anger and managed it properly and not let it get out of hand. A public outburst is the last thing you would want to do. You'll regret your action for quite some time after. Thanks for your comments.
• India
20 Jan 12
I have seen many such people and I work daily with one such person in my office. He gets so worked up that he starts scolding the maintenance people if the printer is not working and for every small things. I guess this is what is called as short temper and I asked him that he needs to control it if he wants to be friends with anyone. What you have said is 100% correct, they are just hurting themselves and distancing themselves from other people as no one wants to be friends with such kind of people. Sometimes they can be a real pain irritating everytime. The only way to overcome is by controlling the anger, staying calm and composed and not take everything as a discomfort. Meditation helps a lot for such kind of people.
• Singapore
20 Jan 12
Hi madugulagopi, I guess there are many people out there who have very short fuses. They seem to explode at the slightest trigger. The thing is that they may not understand that it's not good to be so short tempered. Or they cannot control themselves. Sometimes these people will feel embarassed at their outbursts after they have calmed down a bit. For these people the first step would be to reflect on their action and to take remedial action before it's too late. Yes meditation could help. So will counselling. Thanks for your comments.
• India
5 Apr 13
Thanks for this discussion Yes this is true, i too become upset at times, may be due to my diabetes or it is also a age factor lol.
• Singapore
5 Apr 13
Hi Professor2010, Thanks for your comments. I think it's normal to get upset once in a while since we are all humans with emotions. However, what I'm talking about is people who are really 'short fused' and seemed to get angry over insignificant issues which most people do not have an issue with. I hope you know what I mean. I do not think it's age related though. Hope you have your diabetes well under control. Have a wonderful day.
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• India
5 Apr 13
Yes under control.Thanks.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
I myself have short temper sometimes, I easily get angry. But now, i try to control myself, i don't want to hurt anybody's feeling if i shout out at someone. Yes you are right, people always complain and get angry from simple things. Sometimes, If you have some problems on your own, or had a fight at home, or anything and you want to let it out, Sometimes, we find ways to let it out, unfortunately being angry all the time and complaining are some ways. Other people will be our shock absorber for our frustrations in life. Which is really a bad thing. I can overcome this attitude by maintaining my temper and controlling my anger. Some time i just shout like crazy. LOL.
• Singapore
21 Jan 12
Hi tatzkie23, Good for you if you are able to control and manage your anger. Not many people are aware that they can do this or are willing to do this. Sorry, a clarification here - you can overcome your anger by shouting like crazy - is that done when you are all alone and nobody's around or do you do it in front of others? Thanks for your comments.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
21 Apr 13
hi, I am also short tempered person. I get angry by small mistakes of others or of my mistakes. But I know that being angry is very bad thing. In angry state of mind we hurt our closed ones. Anger is not good for our physical and mental health. So we should try to overcome our anger.
• Singapore
26 Apr 13
Yes roshigo58, being angry will not get us anywhere. Not only will we hurt our loved ones but the one who will suffer the most is ourselves. So next time before you 'explode' stop and think of the consequences and ill effects this will have on you and your loved ones. Have a good day.
• Egypt
5 Apr 13
a person having a bad day is bound to get angry at everything however even if you r having a bad day you shouldn`t get angry at innocent people. people always get their anger out while driving when another driver makes a mistake they always curse at each other personally I never did it but I feel like I know the reason behind it while driving you are responsible for your life and for the life of the people riding with you and even people on the street so even the slightest mistake could lead to an accident so people tend to be more sensitive when driving ....... basically it depends on the situation but even if the person u r getting angry at made a mistake I think cursing or swearing is not the right way to anything
• Singapore
9 Apr 13
Hi sakuralight, Thanks for your comments. You're right to say that one shouldn't curse or swear if someone else made a mistake. After all we are all humans and humans are prone to making mistakes from time to time. The trouble with short tempered people is that they cannot think 'straight' during their moments of anger. So i think the best thing for them is to learn some anger management techniques. Have an anger-free day.