When you move towns do you stay friends?
By puppynut
@puppynut (370)
New Zealand
January 22, 2012 3:32am CST
I have moved towns quite a lot in my life and sometimes I stay friends with people but other times we lose touch. Things like the internet , texting and facebook all help stay in touch long distance but with some friends when I leave the area they don't make any effort to stay in touch. Friendship can be confusing at the best of times but it is always nice to make the effort to stay in touch I think. Do you keep friends and stay in touch? Do you get offended when people don't make the effort? Sometimes I feel a little hurt if people don't answer my messages when I would have though we were quite good friends.
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@br3ndy (468)
• Indonesia
22 Jan 12
I'm never moved my self but some of my friends does. When the moved to other cities, only one or two of them that stay in touch with me until now, the other are lose touch. I do sometimes tried to texting them using facebook but what makes me really disappointed because alot of them never texting me back. It also hurt my feeling a little bit. Sometimes i keep thinking possitive by think that they are busy and cant open their facebook, eventhough they does open their facebook and answering other people's texting.
Well, i think friendship is quite complicated in real life.
Happy mylotting...
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
24 Jan 12
I am surprised to hear how many people don't bother to message back. I don't really think being busy is an excuse to not bother just saying 'hi'. They could say 'Hi, Im busy at the mo but hopefully get the chance to talk soon" or something! There is nothing worse than sending messages off into the ether! I think that's what is wonderful about myLot. You feel listened to and people make an effort to respond. I don't think it is just about money because it really doesn't pay high enough to warrant replies and interest. I think the financial incentive encourages people to take a human interest in each other and that is great, because there is so much we share. I agree with you true friendship is very complicated and yet so basic! Thanks.
@klw5000 (213)
• United States
22 Jan 12
I moved 3 years ago and I don't think I have heard from hardly any of the people I thought were friends since then. I've called, texted and sent messages on facebook. Hardly any of them every reply. I do have a couple friends that will send me a message every once in a while. But I guess the distance proves who our real friends are. It's hard to think that people you talked to and worked with everyday for years could just stop speaking to you, but they do. Kind of like they say, "Out of Site, Out of Mind." I have come to the conclusion that I never really had any true friends. Since I've moved to the area I live in now, I have 1 person that I consider to be my best friend. He has been there for me through everything. I've cried on his shoulder and he's wiped more tears than anyone could imagine. I know that if I were to ever move again, that he would make sure to keep in touch with me. There is just such a big difference in how he is and how all the other people I thought were my friends are.
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
24 Jan 12
I think it is really slack people don't bother to to reply like you don't have the right to be their friend anymore because YOU left. I think sometimes they feel hurt that YOU/I/WE left them so they kid of punish us by ignoring us! Makes me wonder what goes through their subconscious mind?? It's great you still have a best friend. I find people come and go a little but I do feel quite disillusioned by the whole friendship thing. I know what they mean when they say "if you can count your friends on one hand you are doing well". When I was married recently not one of my long term friends came, they all had excuses. One came to the wedding but escaped before the reception. It was hurtful but an awakening for me. I have found some more distant people have made better friends when it counts.Thanks for sharing your experience.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
23 Jan 12
it's usually my friends that move,not me,but i try to.
but my friends sometimes disappear then pop back up later.i had one return after a 20 year break recently.sometimes work and family just make it impossible,but i understand that.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
22 Jan 12
I moved many times in my life. I seldom stayed friends with the people I met during my staying somewhere. At that time internet etc was not so common. Also I don't know if I would with internet. There is a time we come and a time to go and that is fine with me. Most people I did not consider as a real/close friend anyway. Also they never tried to stay in touch with me although I helped out many people.
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
24 Jan 12
I agree with you it's okay to not get too close to people sometimes. It is hard to be a really good friend to someone anyway. But I do wonder what has happened in people's lives and that they are doing okay so it's always nice to hear from them. It's easy to feel hurt when people don't stay in touch though I'm sure a lot of the time they don't mean it as hurtful.
@pebblez8989 (321)
• United States
22 Jan 12
wow thats just how i feel there a lot of good friends that i lost touch with but then i ended up trying to look for them either in facebook or myspace when i do find them sometimes they just write once to me then they never write to me again. and i do to feel kind of hurt because they where people that where my close friends. well you can say all my close friends that i found on facebook don't even try to talk to me. :-(
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
24 Jan 12
I have found it really strange that some people I considered as good friends end up being distant and some people I hardly knew have ended up being the better friends. I think it is really hard to be a good friend and takes quite a lot of effort but there is no harm in dropping someone a line sometimes. I guess I do feel hurt too. I just try and keep the hurt in perspective. I don't think I have many really good friends at all! But I wonder if they think I am a good friend either!! Thanks for sharing.
@queen_ra45 (84)
• United States
24 Jan 12
That would depend of how close of a friend it is. I've lost touch with most friends through the years, but there are a couple I still call or text occasionally. A big factor of that is because I don't use Facebook, Skype, etc. I'd rather pick up the phone and call.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
22 Jan 12
Actually, moving to a different town -or even to a different country- is a good way to know who are your real friends and who are not. It has happened to me, to see who really want to keep on touch with you, and who wants to meet you when you come back, and who doesn't.
Real friends know nothing about distance, and they will be by your side even if it's not literally 
@doggydimon (1369)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
2 of my close friends moved to some other country around 8 - 10 years ago. But being far for that a long period of time doesn't take away the fact that we are still friends. We try to chat with one another if there is time and if they can come home here, we would have dinner or have lunch at least. And if my friends and I have time and spare money, we would go visit them also. There were years that we weren't able to chat or email for months but it didn't do anything to affect our friendship...
@puneetgzb (61)
•
22 Jan 12
ya, now a daz, communication made distance very less, via internet or social netwrking sites u wont be feel ur self alone at any corner of the world.
