Divorce tradtions. Different cultures have different ways of disolving marriages
By writersedge
@writersedge (22563)
United States
January 25, 2012 8:49am CST
Please, this is not a debate about divorce. It's neither philosophical nor religious in design or discussion.
I just find it interesting that there are different traditions concerning divorce. A couple to traditions that I've heard of are as follows:
The blanket tradtion. The couple is given a blanket that is two blankets sewn together. When one partner wants a divorce, that person cuts the knot tying the two blankets together, undoes the string and pulls it out. Now the one blanket has become two. Interesting symbolism. Two become one and then the one go back to being two.
Another I've heard of is that if a man gets a woman upset, she puts his sadddle and any other belongings like clothes outdoors and that's the end of it (not sure how that works if the guy wants to quit the marriage, maybe he just grabs his stuff and leaves?).
So what traditions concerning divorce have you ever heard?
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4 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Jan 12
Hi writes
I havent heard anything beyond the "Talaaq" (urdu word for divorce, i believe) being said thrice to make it effective in some communities. Normally in Hindu traditions, there is no concept of Divorce and if there is one, it is a long duration process. Today, many couples who need a divorce here, have to file proper papers in the courts of law and it takes somewhere around 1year to several years before the matters get settled(or unsettled).
I havent heard anything beyond the "Talaaq" (urdu word for divorce, i believe) being said thrice to make it effective in some communities. Normally in Hindu traditions, there is no concept of Divorce and if there is one, it is a long duration process. Today, many couples who need a divorce here, have to file proper papers in the courts of law and it takes somewhere around 1year to several years before the matters get settled(or unsettled).1 person likes this
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
26 Jan 12
Yes, likewise in America. Some people have purposed that it be harder to get married and less difficult to get divorced. I think both are hard enough.
@celticeagle (189874)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 12
There was one that I saw on Taboos that was a society where the children stayed in the home. They went out and had little affairs here and there and never mairried. That way there was no divorce or marriage. No heart ache, no in-laws, etc. Thought it sounds pretty good really.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
25 Jan 12
That sounds different. I would think that if anyone in that society got AIDS, that would be rampant and go through the society and kill a lot of people. Monogamy does have some perks.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
26 Jan 12
Remote places, once found, tend to get foreign influences. Much of Africa was remote and now some of it is modern city. Some areas have been devistated by aids. So I hope someone helps them in the future when outsides invade their world. All the Native Americans were remote. Now very few are. Things can change. Hopefully someone will help them as the changes occur. I watched a movie about when the trees are chopped down in the rainforest and what happens to the people in the area where it happens. Rapid change for the people and the forest. None of it good. Thanks for responding and take care.
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@celticeagle (189874)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Jan 12
This is in some very remote area in a foreign country. Doubtful that AIDs would be a problem. They have never heard of monogamy there.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Jan 12
It seems like I have heard about the "I divorce thee" thing. Where they say it three times but I can't remember the details. I don't remember anything about the nut. I also wonder where the traditions come from. I can't wait to read what kind of responses you get.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
26 Jan 12
Yes, I love cultural variety. I loved cultural anthropology in college. I'm hoping to get some interesting responses, too. If I had thought I could actually earn a living at it, I probably would have loved being a cultural anthropologist. Feel free to keep checking back.
It is amazing the differences amoung groups that people often think are the same. Like Christians include Amish, Mennonites, and many other groups. No matter what group, the thrice thing is interesting.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Jan 12
Hi JenInTN
I too have heard the divorce getting effective in case the hubby says thrice... not sure, but I think it is prevalent is some muslim sects.
I too have heard the divorce getting effective in case the hubby says thrice... not sure, but I think it is prevalent is some muslim sects.
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
25 Jan 12
Giving back a nut and the man says 3 times: I divorce you.
I don't believe a woman can do this.
No other traditions I ever heard of. Guess because you can only marry here by law and divorce by law.
Perhaps taking of the wedding ring and give it back is a kind of tradition too?
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
25 Jan 12
Never heard of the nut one. That's interesting. Wonder what culture these divorces are from, both yours and the ones I wrote.
Strange some things only go in one direction.
Yes, marriage and divorce are by law here, too. Pity, very expensive and vicious at times that way, at least here anyway. Now that they have no fault divorce, maybe it will be less vicious. Having to blame somebody and accuse them of something seems like setting it up to be mean from the start. So I'm glad it's no-fault now.
