How Long Would It Take?

Oh no, I would never be able to trust them anymore! :( I might forgive them, and we could be friends again, but not the trust. I know it depends on me too, whether or not I do the same thing to her/him. But if I keep the friendship sacred and they betray me, then the answer is no. No trust for ever!

Hi.... I am a person that can't get mad for a long time, I'll be calm down after few hours or days. I'll forgive them easily but trusting them again ? Let me think it twice, they need to show their efforts to get my trust back.

I can forgive people if they really have sorry about it, but if they do not have that i would't forgive them. They do not have to do something special to get friendship back, but they also must never do it again i think. And it is very low to talk about people when they aren't there, i prefer is people saying things about me to me and not just to everyone when i am not there. But i hope this will never happen to any of us.

Depends on the level of damage done by your friend. Personally if a dear friend of mine broke my trust it wouldn't really affect our friendship. I just won't divulge things that I need to keep secret. But if he bad mouths me behind my back, I wouldn't want to be friends with him anymore.

Frankly the chances of being a friend again is slim after the lost of the trust. Even if we can be back to talking terms again, it will not be the same as before. But I will usually try to take things lightly. What they said might have been meant as jokes (although some "friends" are less sensible than others). I will confirm if that is what they really mean. I won't risk losing a friend just because of a silly misunderstanding.

It depends upon the reason and impact of the situation and how it affects you. Once your trust is broken it you will never give it back again fully. You can be friends again but not the same way as before.

I would probably never trust her again and the friendship would definitely cool, although I wouldn't abandon it altogether. It's one thing to forgive and yet another to allow oneself to be put in a position to be hurt again. That may not be the best way to go about it, but I'm being honest.

I guess it really depends on what my friend did. Some things are easier to forgive than others. At least, for me, it would depend on what the friend did, and the type of thing that they did to lose my trust.

It would depend on alot of things. How good was the 'supposed' friendship before this happened? What was the exact happenstance? Do you know for sure this person lied or are you hearing this third person? Friendships are very important to me. If some brakes a confidence or lies about me I must have been wrong about the depth of the friendship and I would need to re-evaluate the entire relationship.

I think that once a "friend" breaks my trust then that person is not really a friend and I would not trust them ever again. I had a good friend that broke my trust. It has been four years now and in her own way she was trying to help me at the time the best way she knew how but it still broke my trust in her. I did not speak to her for over 3 years but I recently ran into her again. We have picked back up a type of friendship. It is not as open as it was and I don't trust her with any of my secrets. My situation is different from yours because your friend was lying about you and your situation. My friend was not lying about me and my situation. She was trying to help me but she broke my trust by telling my parents something that I did not want them to know. I would just drop the friend and say forget it in your situation.

To me that would be the end of the so called friendship. I friend should not do those things to another friend. A friend is someone who is there for you no matter what. They are the person you trust to tell things to that only you and them know about. Once they have spread lies and talked about you to others they have ended the friendship by doing so.

I am vengeful. And I hold a grudge. So, it would really take a while for me to learn to trust someone who's broken my trust already. I know this isn't healthy. And it doesn't lessen my stress level, or contribute to my peace of mind, but I can't help it. It's just the way I'm wired.

I had that happen to me. I entrusted showing a neighbor that had always said whatever I said stayed in her house. I had known her several years and did a lot for her (meals at dinner, took her out to lunch, shopping etc) When I had my Psychological report I knew I was having some kind of memory loss due to stress I had an in the past and also the types of illnesses. Actually the Psychologist said he was VERY surprised that a woman my young age would walk in his office and say she was having problems he said very few people would admit it. I said I admit it and want to know its really happening so I can learn how to handle it not just go crazy wondering what was wrong with me. So I shared the report with her thinking it would help her understand what was going on as we saw each other daily. She took it to her street saying I was psychotic. Well that pretty much ended the friendship and all the time and effort and love I bestowed on her she lost. I tend to just go on with my life and leave crap behind. Everyone has choices and when she did that I left the friendship. No I would not trust her now for nothing.

How long would it take? Well, never. To me that would end the friendship and there would be nothing else to talk about. I am not the forgiving type, so I would disown that friend and never speak to them ever again.

I would be very cautious about them doing it again. If they were a close friend and they apologised for making such a mistake, then I would stay friendly with them, but just be careful what I would share with them in future. The friendship would change though.. _Derek

So far nothing like that has ever happened to me nor is it likely to ever happen in my life.But if it ever happens then i would completely cut off all contacts because from that moment the friendship will cease to exist.Friendships are built on trust,cooperation,love and if any of these are misused then there will always be bad blood amd that will be the end of that friendship.

No idea bro. I think it will take a long time to trust him/her again. Or maybe I will never trust him/her. Friendship can be restored but can not be as good as before.

Might be i can still believe but i will always alert. Once the trust is gone for first time its really hard for me to believe fully trust them. They must be show something that really realize come into them.

Honestly, I would walk away. Reason being is if he/she can say things about you and be that hurtful, how can you ever trust to know he/she will ever be trustworthy?

If someone broke your trust on them, and they promise not to broke again, maybe not all the fully trust you give for the first time you trust them.