Men in the kitchen

@telmesh (1793)
February 6, 2012 4:38pm CST
Do women like their men to do the cooking or is the kitchen the womens domain. I cook occasionally for both of us or sometime help my wife. I like pies but let my wife do the pastry or use ready made.
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@NailTech (6874)
• United States
7 Feb 12
We have a very small kitchen so when I'm in the kitchen I usually like to be alone unless I ask for someone's help. On the other hand if my guy wants to do the cooking, then he is welcome to do so, too. If he needs my help that is fine, but I'd rather only one person at a time cooking on their own in the smaller kitchen.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Well understand our kitchen has recently been made more user friendly but could be a little wider so that there is enough room for the two of us.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
I do most of the cooking for the family. But my husband learned to cook working in his family's French restaurant and I from my Mother who's family had an Italian restaurant. Baking is mainly my job unless I am doing something that is really involved and he offers his help right away. Then we can make dozens of cookies or take turns rolling dough, cutting them out or swapping trays in the oven. It works out great. He usually makes breakfast on Sundays for everyone. But, during the week we take turns some days. He is a good cook too and I gladly offer him the apron strings so to speak if he wants to create a new dish or prepare an old favorite. We have been doing this for years and having him around in the kitchen is a dream. We might be making something familiar and together come up with new ideas to change the flavor, look or create a new way of making it. He even cleans up and does dishes too, voluntarily I might add. But when it comes to putting away all the bowls, containers and gadgets I have to assist. There are some odd pieces that aren't used often by him so I put them back where they belong. He leaves them on the counter, clean to be put in their special little home in the kitchen. Yes, the more the merrier! Getting help or having dinner cooked by him is wonderful. I will always let him enter my kitchen which is our kitchen any time and any day! Happy Cooking!
@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Unfortunately my wife and I tend to get under each others feet in the kitchen but when we do work together the result is usually good.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
7 Feb 12
my hubby is actually a better cook than i am and so i let cook when he has time.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Sharing is nice.
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@derek_a (10874)
7 Feb 12
I do most of the cooking during the working week anyway as I work from home. My wife works from an office. At weekends though, she will do most of the cooking as I think we may get in each other's way in the kitchen! _Derek
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
That's nice that you do the cooking in the week derek. Do you have time to do something nice.
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@mentalward (14691)
• United States
7 Feb 12
I would adore it! I just recently commented to my husband that I am so very tired of cooking all the time. Oh, I love to cook but it sure would be nice to have a meal prepared FOR me occasionally. See, he never takes me out to eat, either. Well, I shouldn't say never, we will go out to eat once a year, usually a month or so after our anniversary after I "nag" (his word) about him never taking me out on our anniversary. He's an a$$. He also does not cook. The best he can do is heat up frozen lasagna, which is his favorite food. Even that would be a welcome break for me occasionally but he doesn't do that very often, either, maybe once every two years, when he gets tired of my healthy meals and wants something bad for him. Normally, when he's tired of my healthy meals, he'll eat fast food on the way home from work and tell me he's not hungry. I'd love to share the kitchen with a man! Cooking together is actually my preferred choice because it's something personal that you can do together and even have a few laughs over occasionally. Good memories.
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• India
7 Feb 12
Its an ease for the women that her man is cooking food and womens will be definately proud of their man,mans on the other hand could get something new to learn and they can have a new experience.....................
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
From what I've heard here women do like their man to cook for them now and again.
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@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
I do all of the cooking at home since hubby's only talent in cooking is boiling water. I sometimes tease him to cook for me, which he would answer that he will just order pizza or something. I think it depends on the person, because both of my brothers love to cook. My dad was also able to cook real Chinese food. I know that my hubby can't cook so in our house, the kitchen is my domain while the TV is his.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Still if he can boil water he might be able to make a nice cup of tea.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
7 Feb 12
Generally speaking, Kitchen is an unisex space in where i come from, not a woman domain. It is unlike 'Lady' loo where only women is allowed to enter and stay put to do her business. Sometime you just have to use the kitchen for cooking to fill your hunger no matter you are man or woman.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
In Britain the modern way is unisex but in the past women were housewives and never went to work. It just so happened that the men came home from work and could have their evening meal before reclining in the chair and dropping off for a nap. Then the women's place was in the kitchen doing the many tasks that were based there.
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
9 Feb 12
In our home, I was the owner ofthe kitchen. I usually do the cooking from breakfast to dinner except for pasta dishes. My wife does the pasta. I made lot of dishes some were learned when I started cooking while others with the help of recipes from the internet or other sources. Sometimes, my wife do the research, I will read and do it. There are also times I tried experimenting. Instead of the usual ingredients, I tried to use substitutes. Two of them were the sardines-squash siomai and hearty burger which I posted on my blog. chemist9861.blogspot.com
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• Philippines
10 Feb 12
My answer is no. Perhaps, cooking is already one of my passion. In fact, I am a chemist by profession by I would like to enroll for a culinary class, if given time and budget because I know this type of class is a bit expensive. For now, our plan is to purchase gas range that will be used not only for cooking but for baking as well. I will try my cooking ability in baking.hehehe.
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@telmesh (1793)
10 Feb 12
You have reaffirmed that you are a chemist but there are many fields in which chemists operate all of which to my knowledge are very highly qualified. My curiosity makes me ask which field you operate in. As for your cooking method it is difficult for me to imagine how you cook now. It is normal for us in Britain to use stand alone cookers that use gas or electricity or a combination of both. How do you cook at present?
@telmesh (1793)
9 Feb 12
This seems to be an unusual situation but I have heard of it before and obviously it works. Most women would like a rest from cooking so with the roles reversed in your home would you like a rest from all the cooking except for pasta.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
7 Feb 12
Men are great cooks. If you scan the tv shows for example you find just as many if not more men doing them. Also the best professional cooks are men. The idea that the kitchen is a woman's domain was only made because of the job market place.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Not all men are great cooks some women have achieved that title as well. I'm thinking that if men and women like to do the task them the results would be even. It is a hard task in hot conditions, some of the vegetables are hard to prepare. There were other reasons why women were always seen to be in the kitchen as well and I think the way we live our lives have and is changing. It is perfectly acceptable for men to be in the kitchen helping or doing the many tasks to be found there.
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@indi15 (881)
• India
7 Feb 12
I cook meals at home. So some times , for a change when my husband comes to kitchen to make some thing or to help me, i feel very nice. But its occasionally, otherwise he is too busy with his office to do all such things.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Nice that he helps when he has time. Perhaps if you tell him how good it makes you feel, he might find time to help on the 14th Feb.
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@sumatix (257)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Feb 12
i certainly don't agree with the say that kitchen is a women domain because if it was so then all the chefs would have to be women not men. Then allowing men to do the kitchen work ??? at least not mine as when he enter the kitchen it would be like as if some wild wind has gone through mine kitchen.it will just be messy and lot more work for me..so for me no ways...
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
I can agree with everything you say there sumatix. The messy kitchen is certainly what happens when I do the cooking.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
17 years together my hubby cooked me grilled cheese an tomato soup once when we first started dating....lol that was the extent of his cooking days...id love for him to pitch in every once in awhile...but then again i think hed just leave a mess everywere lol....
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Perhaps if you told him how nice it would be and limited the task's you could keep the mess under control.
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• China
7 Feb 12
I love it very much. I usually go off work later than my husband, so he do the cooking. Then I am an assistant. This weekend I will tell him : Today I will be the chef.
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@telmesh (1793)
7 Feb 12
Nice to give him a rest Katrina, hope he can let you do it.
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• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Actually it's a karma point for a guy to work in the kitchen and do his chores there especially when their partner is doing some other chores and needed his help at the kitchen. The kitchen belongs to every family member, it doesn't have to be a woman's domain. Remember that she also needs help with the cooking while she is doing other chores like laundrying, sweeping the floor, etc. We women would feel better if we have a significant other who volunteers to help us in the kitchen and to remind us that we're more than just a cook.
• Indonesia
24 Feb 12
hi, rose, I don't think this is karma point for man, but I agree if it's a big wrong if man thinking that kitchen is woman's domain.It's sounds like this is very unjustice for woman, especially for those who also work out of home like a career woman. man should realize that kitchen is one of important part in housewife, but not must do by woman.it's great if man sincerely want to help and divide housewife task with his wife
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@telmesh (1793)
24 Feb 12
Hi red I have not heard it here but there must be a situation in some homes where busy partners are too tired to enter the kitchen. Wonder who does the food in that situation.
@telmesh (1793)
23 Feb 12
I'm glad to see here that women like to have their men help in the kitchen, although it is not always appreciated when both partners are in the kitchen at the same time or when the men make a big mess.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
11 Feb 12
I think women find it to be a real turn on when a man can cook for them and do other things around the house. It isn’t a problem for me because I like to cook, and I don’t mind cleaning when the time comes either. Maybe I will find a woman who will appreciate my skills around the house…
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@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 12
I had been grown-up in a home where men likes to cook. I had ever tasted food cooked by my grandfathers and even my father. And now, i even likes to eat food cooked by my husband as well. He learned to cook many dishes from me through many months of practising.
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@telmesh (1793)
23 Feb 12
It has to be good that men do some cooking for their ladies.
@telmesh (1793)
12 Feb 12
It has been shown here that women like a break from the cooking chore. Some women have men that do little else than work, sleep and eat. This has been a condemnation of a few men but others do some or most of the cooking which appears to be appreciated by their women.
@celticeagle (156308)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Feb 12
My ex and I used to take turns cooking. He is a very good cook. We would make a different take on something I would cook and it was fun. He could also cook some fancy dishes.
@celticeagle (156308)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 12
It didn't happen very often.
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@telmesh (1793)
8 Feb 12
If I cook it's usually to do something a bit different or something I have cooked before, therefore they are my dishes. We don't work very well together though and can cause bad tempers. They don't last when the food is ready.
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@celticeagle (156308)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb 12
what does 9th street have to do with anything?
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@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 12
Hi Telmesh, it is an usual scenario in my home to see men in the kitchen. My father likes to prepare food for us when he was free. Where else, my husband will prepare food for us during the weekend. They likes to try new recipe and prepare food without any hesitation. I will only be in the kitchen when they are very busy and unable to cook. Can said in my home, men are free to walk around without much restriction. It is good to hear you also loves to cook and always helping out your wife. Have a nice day.
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@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 12
Yes, Telmesh. That's the best part of a family, where each family member able to cook. So, we won't have to depend on one person only to do the cooking. Everyone can share their way of cooking and we can even exchange to taste each other cooking as well. Have a nice day...
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@telmesh (1793)
20 Feb 12
It seems that everybody does the cooking with no one being expected to do it all the time and men and women cook equally. If that is the case that's great. In our house we, being only the 2 of us we can tell if one or the other is too tired to do the cooking so we then take our turn. Not having to ask.
@telmesh (1793)
21 Feb 12
Everybody doing their bit should make for harmony. Will try to have a good day but it's exercise at the gym today not my favourite but has to be done. Take care now.
• Indonesia
24 Feb 12
I do love this idea : Men in Kitchen. As we know that this phenomenon is very rare, so I will say that girl who has this man is very lucky.after married usually man will guess that kitchen is place for woman and man is only for out job like in office or something related with repairation
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• Indonesia
27 Feb 12
but the fact, especially in my current place, most of people still think that kitchen is particular place for woman and it's kind of shame for woman if man doing some kitchen job -that's why I said that women who got modern man care about kitchen is very lucky!! not only about same for woman, most of man here will shout talk active or complain if they help in kitchen, even this just little help that we very need. guess, how can woman here handle this kind of situation??
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@telmesh (1793)
24 Feb 12
Have found here that it is not always the domain of women and many men class it as there domain or it is shared.
@telmesh (1793)
27 Feb 12
So what you are saying is that men actively resist working in the kitchen and women would really love their help. I think if that is the case then gentle persuasion might help and when they help praise them on how good their help was.
@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Good for you that both of you knows how to cook. In our relationship, my husband is he only one who knows how to cook. It may sound funny but its true. I love my husbands cooking. Sometimes I help him cook, its a form of bonding for both of us.
@telmesh (1793)
21 Feb 12
I guess that if he is happy to do the cooking and his food really is that good then you probably have no complaints. So he enjoys your help from time to time.