How old is too old to complain to your mother because you don't get your way?
By free_man
@free_man (7330)
United States
February 15, 2012 7:38pm CST
I am so sick of this my brother in law is 51 years old and he got pissed at us because we didn't go to his house for his birthday! What a crock he calls his mother which is in Kentucky dealing with her mothers illness and tells her my husband (his brother called him and told him to get f****ed on his birthday). Well there is much more to it then that! Brother in laws wife has caused us all kinds of problems. Her latest thing was I took her to the store and she stole a lot of stuff nothing big just junk. I told her that day it would be the last time I took her to the store. I kept my peace in front of her husband (my husbands brother) she has been trying to force me into taking her to the store. I won't I can't I am not going to jail for her stealing. Bad thing is he knows she steals and I won't be part of it. So that is why my husband told him that on his birthday. He keeps trying to blame me for not doing as she wants! Mom is 72 her mother is 93 she has enough problems now she don't need his petty bull s***! What do you think?
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7 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Well, I'm 31 years old and I can say that it has been a long time since I've complained to my mother because of the fact that I didn't get my way. I will admit that I do complain to my mother from time to time about things that are going on in my life but that is because of the fact that my husband has been going through a lot and I know that I can't complain to him. Besides that, my mother is one of my best friends and closest confidants and that is the reason that I will complain to her because it gets things off my chest.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 Feb 12
No I don't complain to mom about anything. When she ask if we had seen my husbands brother my husbands tells her no and why we haven't. No I fix my own problems I have never asked anyone to fight my battles and never will ask someone else to handle my problems. God don't like whimps and I think it woulb be whimpish to complain to someone else for my own problems. My husbands brother wants his mother to fix things he is a whimp. He never has faced his own problems, he thinks the world owes him and he should get whatever he wants when he wants it.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I would complain to my mother but wouldn't expect her to fight my battles. She knows that they are trouble makers and she don't want us to be around them anyway. She is 72 and going through her own problems right now with her mother being ill she don't need bull stuff from her oldest sons or anyone right now. Thanks for sharing my friend.
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Hi free_man, WOW..I don't even know what to say...talking
about disfunctional, whats up with your bother in law, he
sounds like a real character who needs a real life...
I don't blame you one bit to distance yourself away from
the thief, being it large or small she is still a thief.
The audacity to call the senior family members about something
that actually BS is ridiculous...
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
17 Feb 12
Hi Bjc. I am just amazed at how this guy can do this to his family. I think it is ridiculous too! If he was a 6 year old child I could understand him being upset.
His wife has stolen even from her own family she stole a few movies from me but what the heck it will all come out in the wash.
Him and his wife are strange to me!
@GardenGerty (169591)
• United States
16 Feb 12
He is too old to do this. It sounds as if this would be a part of the family I would move far away from if I could. I do not blame you for not providing her transportation to steal. The mother has let them get away with this for years, so even at 51 he is not a man.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Hi GG. He is way too old for this. No mom has no control over him. She also has very little to do with him because of his wife. She told him to grow up and stop depending on his little brother.....LOL Mom like me is straight up front with everyone. Thanks for sharing my friend. He thinks the world owes him. He will never be a man in my book anyway! He just don't know how mad it makes everyone around him to act like this and probably don't care!
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
age does not excuse one to be told what is right. and age does not excuse one to be free one what s/he does want to do in his/her life. i think you have the right to complain and tell your brother in law that he should grow up. i understand if his mother tolerates her because of her age. she does not want her family to be torn apart. but you can always complain and stand your ground on him.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Hi Mensab. No mom told him he needs to grow up too! He gets this way every year when it comes time for his birthday he acts like a child. Heck I am 58 and never had a birthday I don't give a hoot about it just another day for me and my husband. Oh believe me next time we see him I am going to unload on him. Mom is going through enough as it is her mother is dying and she don't need any bull s**t right now! She needs us to stand by her and give her comfort!
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Wow... what a concept. I don't think this guy is ever going to grow up and he's acting this way because he still thinks his mom should 'fix' things for him. You didn't happen to mention what sort of response he got from his mom, whose side was she on? LOL!
I think she should step back and tell him his life is his problem. Just my two cents, but I'm a daughter, a wife, and a mother, so I think I know lol.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
16 Feb 12
She told him to grow up and stop depending on his little brother to do everything he wants. She don't like it either. Next time I see him he is going to get an ear full mom is dealing with way too much right now and don't need to hear his petty babyish Bull S**t. My thoughts exactly.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
That is way too old to even call up his mom just to complain about some childish thing. It's a shame! He should have let her mother not to worry anymore since she was too old now for this kind of things.
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
25 Feb 12
Some people really make it hard to be nice and polite around them.
Had a similar situation, but this person was not complaining to her mother only to her sister in law. for not getting her behind wiped and for not getting a red carpet for every little thing she did.
I am so glad I can keep a healthy wonderful distance from this person and this does me more good than anything else.
No matter how old some people are they will always try their best to be put into the center of attention. the person I am speaking about is 72 years old and egocentric and selfish to the max.
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@free_man (7330)
• United States
26 Feb 12
Hi RitterSport. I know there are some people that just can't or won't grow up and learn to respect each other. No changing that old stupid woman she will never learn she isn't the most important person in the world. Just like my husbands brother and his wife will never learn that they have to treat others with respect, and they are not the most important thing in this world! Some people can grow up and others will never grow up. Good luck with that old woman my friend.
