A friend or not to be a friend?
February 15, 2012 10:42pm CST
As a young child I was told to hold on to my friends because friends are so very hard to come by. Through my years I have had people in my life that I proclaimed with all my heart to be my friends, no my bestest friends, I was wrong. For some reason or another they found that stabbing me in the back was more gratifying than being true to their loyal friend. I am at an age where I truly wish I had a trustwrorthy friend by my side. I look to my left then to my right and find nothing, utterly alone in life without anyone to talk to or laugh with in my greatest moments or in my saddest times. I know some may think this as pitiful, but it is not and my situation is more common amongst people than you may think. Some may even say it is not all that common, but I dare you to look back down memory lane at some of those you have trusted in your life and allowed them to step over the threshold of your inner circle and they came in peaceful at first and at the end you found yourself having to give them the ole heave ho.
Tell me how do you feel about your friend(s) and maybe it'll help me along my way.
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5 responses
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
hi carmelbeauty,
there are only few people whom you can trust so be careful of choosing your friends because there are some that are backstabbers,or what you called "plastics"..but so far my friends are trustworthy,someone that i can lean on..i feel so grateful to have them.i hope that you will find your true friends too.
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
16 Feb 12
I am really happy that I can say I have a really good friends. Now I mean my besties, I met them during my university master studies and they stay with me until now. I am not with them everyday now, but when I met them It is like no time when we met last time. They stayed with me in my best and also worst momments. I can tell them everything, and when they need my help I am ready to help them.
Do not be sad, I am sure there will be a time in your life to meet someone who want to be your friend. Situation happens everyday like this so do not worry. Try to set your mind to find someone, feel like you already have a friendship and you will see that it comes. :-)
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
16 Feb 12
I know exactly how you feel carmelbeauty, I was once very trusting, maybe too trusting and I loved my friends until I too was stabbed in the back, and I know from experience once a very clese friend betrys you, it is a loss of something beautiful within yourself and you never can get it back because done to you once then there is doubt there forever, this is why I love animals so much, humand nature is weak and fails in many ereas, I would love to have someone in my life I could trust but sometimes I think if you do trust too much you are being blind and I know I will not be put in that position again... sad but true.
@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 12
Hello carmelbeauty2bee,
Unlike you i have friends whom i find with me whenever i need them.But i know they are with me because i never drop a chance with them during their difficulties as i understand it to be a give and take relationship.Though i don't have lot of friends but those which i have i am sure won't hesitate to come for my help even when i will ask them to come to me in the mid night too.
But i know they are with me because i never drop a chance with them during their difficulties as i understand it to be a give and take relationship.Though i don't have lot of friends but those which i have i am sure won't hesitate to come for my help even when i will ask them to come to me in the mid night too.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Hi carmel,
It's so sad not to have any trustworthy friend. I have felt it before when I thought me and my bestfriend are going our separate ways. For some years I have felt that I have no one but myself. But thank goodness things got better again with me and her.
But I have some friends before whom I trust with everything, share my ups and downs. Share things to her which I didn't thought she will come up with fabricates stories about me. Felt bad about it. But that is life. I just have to end the friendship.
But I have some friends before whom I trust with everything, share my ups and downs. Share things to her which I didn't thought she will come up with fabricates stories about me. Felt bad about it. But that is life. I just have to end the friendship.