When do you think it's best time to date and marry?

Singapore
March 16, 2012 11:20pm CST
While some people suggests that it is good to date early so that you can get a lot of experiences and will eventually find your lifelong partner after many tries, others felt that dating should be reserve for someone that you want to marry since going into a relationship is usually irreversible in terms of emotional engagement even after break-ups. When do you think it's best time to date and marry? Some people recommended dating during college/university and date for 2 years, then engaged for 2 years and married. What do you think?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
I don't know. Every person is different. Some decided to get married right away after dating for 5 days.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
23 Dec 12
Haha That is so weird!
@maratus (184)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 12
I am in the collage too at fourth semester but I don't date any man. I think maybe it's depend at your self. When you ready to start a relationship, then start it. Many couple start they relationship since study in Junior High School end up married. And they live happily right now. There are a lot of my friends and my relatives like that too. I think it's depend on the quality of love it self. When it's really true love it's gonna last forever...,
• Singapore
10 Feb 13
It's good to be idealistic to pursue for true love that lasts forever. But not everyone will end up having true love. Quite a lot of people reflected that if they can't find their partner during college or before that, they may be single forever as it is getting harder to find partner at work.
• United States
17 Mar 12
I don't think there is a science to it. I feel there is a magic of some sort associated with love, but not a year mandate as to when/how to evolve. I think dating first is important so you can feel around for who you want to share your life with. I think everyone you come into contact with through out a life time is your soul-mate, regardless of how much time you are together.
• China
17 Mar 12
In 2 years,3 years or much longer time,I think marry is not associated with dating time.If you love each other,you will get married early.On the contrary,you will not.You must be believed yourself how to feel.
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
There's no right or wrong answer to this and no one rule can fit everyone. It really depends on the individual. If the person is ready then any age is the right age to date and marry. But I believe that it's really unnecessary to date for too long. You can always discover if the person is the right one for you from the first date. Just ask the right questions and you'll get your answer.
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
In my opinion, you can't set some definite date and age to marry. Like in my experience, I was just busy about my life my job and thinking about getting my life better when I met my then boyfriend now husband. We were just friends we were not thinking about relationships at all but we become lovers, we just enjoyed each other. Until time came we decided that it's about time to put our relationship to a higher level. We got married after two years of relationship. He was my first and last boyfriend and I'm happy to have him in my life. We are married for six years now. I'm so grateful that he is a blessing from God.
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Feb 13
"'Life' (i.e. marriage & children) is just something that happens while you're busy making other plans." (it's a Beatles song, 'Search' for it in the text-bar in the head of this page) Really-&-truly, marriage is for the parents ... that's why arranged-marriage were the only way ever thought-of until yesterday, when all of our memories were subliminally loaded with stories of people getting THEMSELVES together like silly bumper-cars. What you do is, you make-your life & -'the lives of those around you' more enjoyable, people figure that's a good thing and hang around you more, one of those people ends up being your spouse (both/either because you want them to and they agree and/or they want you to & you agree), and you have kids---you know, coz then you're loud enough to call out the right instructions to the stork, yeah? If you want to spare your children this 'unknowing anxiety,' you can tell them "when you turn 35 but haven't gotten married yet, mom & dad'll find you a wife " Kinda like I wish my mom & dad had told me.
@agent807 (751)
• United States
20 Mar 12
I honestly don't have a clue. I have heard many different stories like this as well. I am 31 and have never dated anyone. It was always constant rejection. There was always something wrong with me, and it wasn't the same thing either. Personally, I would start in college. Why not? You're already experimenting with other things as well. I think the earlier you start, the easier it is to take on rejection. Also, the dating pool tends to be larger in your younger years.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Dating is a stage when you want to know someone better. So I think you can start dating as long as you're responsible enough to know your limits. Getting married is more complicated, you have to be emotionally and financially ready and also when you're willing to give up some freedom. So, consider marriage only when you have all these.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
26 Mar 12
I don't think there should be a fixed age or time to start dating or even marry. It's really up to each one and his circumstances to see when and with whom to date. I find that at least one should be able to know what implies being in a couple for dating, but after that, it's just time when one gets to know someone special. About marriage, it's not really important if they are truly in love, it can happen anytime they decide to take that formal step, if they ever do.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
17 Mar 12
I feel that it is a good idea to start dating when a person is ready to get married. When a person is mature enough to take care of all the responsibilities that a marriage brings about. And when a person has the financial means to take care of their family. I think when these circumstances are good a person is in a better position to marry.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
The best time would be when you and your partner are emotionally, mentally and financially stable. When you both have same goals and views on marriage, having a family, living together and being close to the in-laws.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
2 Jul 12
There is no set date that one should marry and no laws when one should become engaged and then married. You only consider marriage when you are ready, when you have a job and have money, and when the time is right. You will know when the time is right. Your heart will speak to you when it is time. In the meantime find out more about the person you are in love with. Is he kind to you? Is he a good person? Does he put you first? Does he act in your defense and protect you? Is he a believer in God? These are the kind of questions you have to ask yourself.
• India
27 Jun 12
Only you and your partner can decide when the right time to marry is. The point of dating early is to have time to get to know each other well before marriage. Remember that marriage is a lifelong commitment. Different people have different opinion on this matter. All I can say is that when the right time comes you will feel it in your hearts that it is time to do so.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
23 Dec 12
For me, dating can be anytime but when it comes to marriage, it is a different story. Marriage is not a game. I think the best time to marry is when you have a very stable job and when you are fully decide to leave your 'singlehood'. Most importantly, be sure that you are both inloved with each other. As we all know, many marriages end in divorce or annulment because love isn't there. Haha This is my idea.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 12
You can get married without having to date if you two have fallen in love for the first sight. No need to wait. Many has proved to live happily after they are married and they didn't date each other before.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Mar 12
The best time is when you are ready for it. Ready to make sacrifices because of someone else and ready to to take of someone else. Ready for a commitment for life. This has nothing to do with age or education or having a job or not. Since you don't know you are not ready for it.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
17 Mar 12
There is no recipe that works for everyone. People can be together for decades without deciding to get married, while others can be sure after meeting just once that they are made for each other, so if they aren't forced to wait, why would they have to? It depends on their emotions, on the circumstances. There shouldn't be pressure to date more and more partners, or to wait for the real one if you don't feel comfortable doing so.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
as long as you're ready, stable that you can raise your family and give your children bright future and you love your partner with all your heart... that would be the time you can marry. that's my personal point of view in getting married. i got married at the age of 23 and after 3months i got pregnant. and now i have a 2year old boy that can put away all my stress after an 8hours of work. Have a nice day:)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
The duration of time you spend dating affects your relationship. It definitely provides time for you to know each other so as not to "wow" each other (may be in a good or bad way) when you're already living together as a married couple. However, I do believe that when you meet the one for you, you'll know.
• Indonesia
17 Mar 12
i think dating is important to recognize our future spouse, the court did not have to wait for periods of study. from high school can also be peovided that can maintain good relations with it .even i know there are people who dated for 11 years and now they are married