Insensitive, tactless and jealous mother
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
March 20, 2012 6:54am CST
I was very upset today at one of the mothers at school. I hate people being so insensitive tactless. It happened a lot or maybe she just wanted me to pissed me off! I have a 7 old daughter who is happened to be her daughter's classmate in first grade. Every time that my daughter around, she always mentioned that my daughter is "FAT" and laugh about it. I know my daughter is healthy and a bit chunky compared but she is not fat. She always said that her daughter is slim and pretty unlike my fat daughter. I wanted to tell her in front of the other mothers to stop saying it in front of my daughter coz one time my daughter said to me that she is ugly and fat! I am not a kind of person who like to confront someone. But right now I am fed up. One time someone said how pretty was my daughter and even said that her dress was very nice, and this mother said that her daughter will look good more if her daughter will wear my daughter's dress coz her daughter is not fat. I kept on telling my husband about it coz it made me cry, but my husband told me that she is just jealous. If this happened to you, what will you do and say to this mother?
I am attaching my daughter's picture.
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11 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Mar 12
Yeah I would definitely say something to the mother who was saying that about my daughter. Even if she wasn't saying it in front of my daughter I would talk to her about it. But if she was saying it in front of my daughter you better believe I would put an end to that very quickly. It's not a kind thing to say at all, let alone in front of child. I don't need anyone causing my daughter self esteem problems especially a supposed adult. I hope that you are able to talk with her soon about the things that she has been saying. And you don't have to be confrontational just let her know it needs to stop.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Mar 12
I can imagine how much it hurt you to hear your daughter say those words. It would be an awful thing for a child to feel that way because an adult is saying such things to or around them. You will feel better when you talk to her. You will feel better because you have stood up for yourself and most importantly your child.
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@GardenGerty (157873)
• United States
26 May 12
I would make sure the other mothers and your daughter were present and then I would ask this woman "Why are you such a bully hurting other little girl's feelings?" "How could you possibly believe this is a grown up thing to do?" Then I would say something really sweet and nice to her daughter to show her the right way to behave.
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@GardenGerty (157873)
• United States
27 May 12
That will be good for her. She looks like a lovely and naturally happy child,
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
Seriously speaking you had a very good looking daughter, she's cute and not fat. Your husband is absolutely correct that parent is just jealous with your daughter she pamper herself making it believe that her daughter is slim and may look beautiful than your's but everyone noticed it that your daughter is cute. Obviously base from what she is doing and is very noticeable also that she is jealous not only to your daughter but also to you.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Well, in that case, I will go to guidance office of the school and request a talk for that mean mother who says negatives to my child.
I won't talk to that mean mother with no school administrator because it will look to be a fight.
I believe, it will give inferiority to my childs way of thinking to her ability because of that wordings she's constantly hearing from that mean mother.
Definitely, I will do something about it to stop. And a good talk to that mean mother will do. But of course, I'll be as cool and sensible as I can!
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@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
21 Mar 12
Your daughter is very pretty and she looks healthy!
It's so sad that she believes what she heard and thinks that she's fat.
The mother who can be so rude with other child must have serious problems with herself. Not only young women are affected by the media's standards, but now she wants to apply those standards to children too. That's a sick way of thinking and she's probably just jealous.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
20 Mar 12
Hi chicgale,
I saw the picture of your daughter and she is not at all fat but healthy. I think no need to listen the words of the other mother, if you care her words and felt hurt, it will encourage her to boast more. I don’t think any mother like to hear bad things about their kids. If anybody point out the minus points we can work on the same and rectify it but in your case the other lady is speaking really nonsense. It is none of her business to compare the body of two daughters. You please don’t worry and care your daughter and help her not to feel hurt from this lady’s comments. Just encourage your daughter and make her confidant.
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@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Hi chicgale... I saw the picture of your daughter and for me she is not fat at all. She is a HEALTHY kid and indeed very pretty. I admire you for keeping your temper. But if you are residing here in the Philippines and that mother keeps on telling that to your daughter, and she was emotionally affected with this comment, you could sue her for child abuse. The child abuse law is very vast now, it is not confine only to physical abuse. I am worried on how your daughter is taking all this insult, I hope that her self-esteem would not be affected and that she would remain friendly with the other kids.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Thank you r3jcorp. Yes I am from Philippines and yes I am very worried about my daughter being shy coz she thinks that she is fat.. It made me cry.. :-( She is a very loving and sweet daughter and I don't want anybody to insult her. I am planning of transferring her to another school.
@xiaohongxiaohong (341)
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20 Mar 12
Although I am not married, I feel how much you love your daughter.
My mother once told me that she heard someone said two daughters of my mother(including me) were too ugly. She said she hated these comments, so did the people who said it.
Maybe in every mother's eyes, her children are the best. I can just say that you are a very great Mom. Just like my dear mother.
Don't care what others said, your daughter is your precious asset. That's enough.
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@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
20 Mar 12
I saw your daughter's picture and she is not fat at all. She is healthy and not fat. As for the mother who calls your daughter fat, you should definitely confront her as she is not only hurting you but it will affect your daughter's self-esteem too. How can she say such thing to a child? I wouldn't tolerate her saying such a thing about my kid so I suggest you have a talk with her and tell her not to say anything about your daughter in the future. Don't feel bad, your daughter is very cute and maybe that mother is probably just jealous.
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@shellyanne68 (8)
• Portugal
20 Mar 12
Oh my Lord!! I can't beleive what a horrible woman that other mother is. How dare she say anything like that about your daughter. Children have enough to deal with without some evil mouthed woman making them feel bad about themselves, those kinds negative thoughts can stick around for years. I don't think that womans elevator goes all the way to the top saying things like that to you, she was lucky you didn't drag her outside and teach her some manners.
