Do you care about what other people may say about you?

@reco13 (605)
Philippines
March 25, 2012 11:30pm CST
I know a lot of people who does things for pleasing other people. Is this right?I feel very lucky that I have people around me who loves me and I love them as well. For me, this is what matters. I don't care about what other people say or think about me. I always believe in myself. Besides, if they think negatively about what I do, they don't truly love me. So I should not care about them as well...
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
I myself don't care what others say about me. I know myself rather than they know me. If ever, there are negative comments about me, but I know that it is not true, I'll just show them that they are wrong. Also, those negatives serves as a motivation for me in order to improve myself. However, sometimes, when I heard bad things about me from other person, I will keep on thinking (perhaps an hour will be long enough) why they told that. Then, time to move on and smile...
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Yes, at times, we also think about what is said about us and analyze it. But in the end, we still have to choose what makes us better persons..
@toniganzon (69902)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
I have one person who loves me no matter what i do and for who i am. I'm someone who gets crazy all the time and people need a lot of patience for me sometimes. I was someone who used to please others not so much because i wanted to be loved or needed but i just simply want to please them. But i've realized that i don't have to do that anymore because some just don't appreciate me or the things i do for them. So now it's all about me and the people i love.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Yes, that's how people tend to be. So why not choose doing things that you know will make you happy...
@dodo19 (46682)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Mar 12
I don't really care about what people think of me. What really matters is that there are people whom I love, and who love me. That's what I care about. What other people think of me is fine. It doesn't matter. It really doesn't bother me. Some people will like me, while others won't. I will like some people, and not others. That's the way that it is.
• Philippines
27 Mar 12
I also wouldn't like to care about what others think about me, but the thing is, we really do. That's why we wear clothes when we're going out and take them off when we're about to sleep. It's really comfortable walking around naked but since we care what others might think about us, we still wear clothes. Not just that, we also care about the clothes that we wear. We can't just go out wearing only shorts. Of course we wear something with style, at least. That's just what I think.
@megamatt (14294)
• United States
28 Mar 12
It really doesn't matter all that much to me with what people think about me. Some people are very sensitive of the words of other people and what they think. But you know what, I know that people are going to have their own opinions about people. And some of them are not going to be all that favorable towards me. Some of them are going to be downright negative towards me as well. That is the nature of life. And that is their opinion. Doesn't mean I should derail my life to make people like me. And if I have to do that, really I am trying to make them like something that I am not, rather than liking something that I am. There are just many times where some people tend to bend over backwards to change for the masses, to be accepted. But I would rather be not accepted for who I am, than absolutely accepted for someone who I am not. So I really have no desire to please people. People will say what they want to say.
@7Chords (98)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Honestly, I hate no one. My favorite quote is "Be yourself because everyone else is taken". I don't care what people say about me, because I know there are people who care about me and love me for who I am rather than being some unhappy wannabe trying to please everyone. Everyone can not be pleased, I may dislike the attitudes some people have, but are they going to change just because I don't like it? No. My advice is, be kind to everyone, kindness is the best weapons against enemies because it will drive the insane, and it's hilarious to watch. Also, don't worry about what people say, nine times out of ten, people that talk about others are unhappy with who they are. They are unhappy because they can not be themselves just like you or any one else can.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Well said. I also believe that. Unhappy people are the ones who always see negativities in other people.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 Mar 12
i would like to say that i really don't care about what people say about me and generally i don't. i like to dress fairly creatively and like to be noticed but when my boss told me he really appreciated what a warm person i was, well, that made me feel pretty good.
@angemac23 (2004)
• Canada
26 Mar 12
No, i do not care what people say or think about me.....I am me and if someone does not like me or what I stand for, they can walk the other way. I do not wake up in the morning to impress other people.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
26 Mar 12
I used to really care about what people say about me but after much effort at trying to please others i found that you just cant please people so i decide to just be me and follow my heart in whatever i do.Besides you will never get to be YOU if you keep pleasing others,but you should consider constructive criticizms as you wont be correct everytime
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 12
sometimes Yes sometimes No.. its wrong too if we always ignore what the people say about us...we need many input from the people i think..sometimes we dont the right manner, so we need another suggestion, we need the correction from another.. but i dont think it is wisely too, if we are doubt when do something when nobody correct us..we must believes too with our self..sometimes in several case, we must ignore what the people say...
@bostonphil (4459)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Yes, I worry way too much about what other people say about me. I have almost no family and very few friends. I do not have a good support system. In the past, I was the victim of a smear campaign and I have frequently been the victim of gossip. I am overly concerned about what other people say about me given my past experiences and current situation. That even includes people who I do not care for or like.
• India
27 Mar 12
'if they think negatively about what I do, they dont truly love me. So, I should not care about them as well' - perfect answer take in the words of person who loves u(mostly those words will be for ur sake) and just dont mind others
• China
27 Mar 12
sometimes,i don't care.But sometimes i do care.It depends on what the thing is.If you are seller,you should care what your customer may say about you.You should give them a good appearence.If their attitude is bad to you,you should change their attitude.
@jeetking (190)
26 Mar 12
I do not care people who talk about you because their are people who cannot do anything but they are always their to criticize you so its better to ignore them.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
26 Mar 12
yes I believe you do the right thing only and as far as I m concern I classify people into good one and bad one and I care only for what good people say about me and I really don't care about what bad people say about me ........ Because bad people hurt others intentionally with their words so why to care about bad people unnecessarily rather we should ignore any comment from bad people about us as an irrelevant comment and we should only care for the remarks of good people about us ........ Hare Krishna Ganesh
@kiran8 (15369)
• Mangalore, India
26 Mar 12
Hi reco, We have to do what we feel is right rather than what others think is right for us.Most people want you to do things as they want instead of letting you do what you want.When it is some matter that concerns many people and can affect our relationships, we have to give a careful thought and then decide on the plan of action, but even here it is better to the guidance of our conscience ...all the best and enjoy your day
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Of course what others may say is important too. We dress well so that we won't hear negative from other people but of course what is comfortable for us. We show good attitude although we really have good attitude as same we don't want other people to accuse us of being ill mannered. Though we say we don't care if what other people may say depending on what situations. If they're talking something bad against us or accusing us wrongly when in fact we're doing good,that's the time we can say, as long as we're doing good we don't care what they say.
@shibham (16977)
• India
26 Mar 12
Nope, I dont care what other people are telling about me or thinking. I am little bit adamant and self radiant. I know who am i and better know that i can accomplish whatever i wish. Let them bark all those backbiters. have a nice time,
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
I would love to say that I don't care what other people would say about me. But I will not deny that I have this attitude that before I will do something I always think what would my family will say about that. I am always careful on doing things, afraid that people will have a negative feedback. I don't like this though, but I can't take this away from me. I don't think more of "this makes me happy". I think of others. But I'm not saying I am pleasing other people, I just don't like other people will make story especially not so good side comments on what I'd do..
@Wakeupsud (201)
• India
26 Mar 12
Yes it is rightly said that the persons near to us loves us so whatever they say must be correct,so listening to them what they to say about us bound to be correct and how they can change us.what the other people has to say that doesn't matters to me as many times they are bound to say the negative points about us and demotivate us in the work or anywhere else so that they are at higher level than us.