is it wrong?
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
United States
March 27, 2012 11:29am CST
I am so tried of my husbands family. I would never tell him to not have contact with his family as I would hate him if he told me that but I cannot help but wish they would just drop off the face of the earth. His parents well his Dad actually told him he expected him to get a better job then he did after spending so much money on school. I don't get it. He got a good job for a good company. I mean when you are working with people and replacing a guy who have all been there for over 15 years (the man he is replacing has been there 46 years) you know it is a good place to work. He was offered $6 more then the other highest paying job he was offered which is well above the average in most areas. Benefits started the day he did as did 401K. He receives vacation/sick days, quarterly bonuses as well as a yearly bonus. Yet his Dad felt the need to put him down about it. This coming from a man who left a digit paying job to work as a janitor making only $25,000 a year because he was tired of learning new things about the computers! I just don't get it, why does he feel the need to put my husband, his son down? His mother then makes excuses for the father and says well for a college graduate we expected more is all. What more do they want?
I feel bad for wanting them to go away but I just don't like the way they put all his hard work down. In front of my kids no less.
I feel bad for wanting them to go away but I just don't like the way they put all his hard work down. In front of my kids no less.1 person likes this
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Mar 12
For some people they are just never happy. I wonder if your husband's dad wants his son to pay his way after a while or something. I don't think there is a thing you can do. Can't pick our parents. Or theirs. If your husband wants to stress over and do it there is just not anything you can do.
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Mar 12
I see. Sounds like you have that part figured out. Not much you can do. You married into a weird situation. May drive you crazy.
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Yeah I guess, but they will never live with us or will we take care of them. The son who still lives with them can handle that!
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
27 Mar 12
No, it's not wrong for you to not want to have to deal with your in-laws. I would suggest finding other things for your family to do--and other people with whom to spend time. Associate with the portions of the family that don't make a habit of cutting down your husband, and limit the amount of time you and yours spend around your husband's parents.
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
28 Mar 12
We do not spend much time with them now. He does talk to them every once and again as they are his parents but neither my husband or his oldest brother have much to do with their parents. It's all very sad.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Mar 12
The only thing you can do, since his family is taking a lot of your good/positive energy, is to not have contact with them anymore if you don't feel to it. Let your husband have the contact, deal with them, tell them what he appreciates or not.
You go your way and ask your husband not to put his problems with his parents in your hands. So don't let him tell you about it.
BTW it's not interesting what his parents expect or want. If they want something they should do it, find that better job, for themselves. It's your life, it's your husbands life. You have to live that, they have to live their own. Make it clear if it comes to otherwise this will never stop.
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
28 Mar 12
I do not call them personally and I go with him to family events as I do love the other members of his family such as his grandparents and cousins. I try not to take to heart what bothers him but when it does bother him we all know it even if doesn't come out and say anything.
