how to deal with rejection

@salma07 (639)
India
April 5, 2012 7:31am CST
hi everyone recently i started exploring the options for making money with some writing site..i am normally a very shy person..from rather shy i would say i am very introvert and has bit doubt about myself..recently i got my article rejected from a site, which is known for its high standard...i am bit down because of that so i thought i could share this with you guys..what do you think about this situation, how do you handle this kind of rejection? should i retry again?
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22 responses
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
5 Apr 12
yes, you should try again! even the most famous authors have been rejected before they found a publisher maybe tthis article will inspire you. it is a list of 30 very famous authors whose first works were rejected. http://www.examiner.com/book-in-national/30-famous-authors-whose-works-were-rejected-repeatedly-and-sometimes-rudely-by-publishers
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@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
thanks cher, i really felt better after reading the article, coz of them are my favourite and i can't believe that people thought so coldly about them. I feel much better now, since i am new and hadn't published a single article i was bit down, but after joining mylot i was confident enough to go for the article writing once again and this rejection happened i was so down again, but thanks guys all of you for supporting me..i don't know whether i am good or not, but i am really going to try again and again till i get it accepted
5 Apr 12
You have three options. First, you can quit. That kinda sucks, especially if you enjoy writing and would like to earn from it. Not recommended. Second, you can try again. That's a better option. You could target lower-quality sites, like Bukisa, Triond or ExpertsColumn. Third, you can find a site or community that will help you with your writing. A forum, a site with a helpful community, a site with editors to help you correct your mistakes... any kind of input that can help you sort things out and improve your chances of acceptance (as well as confidence).
5 Apr 12
Quitting isn't necessarily a bad thing. I know modern society frowns on ever giving up (especially if you're American) but in the real world it's a totally viable option. Writing may not be for you, much like affiliate marketing is definitely not for me - I tried it, hated it and quit! There are plenty of supportive places for writers on the web, depending on what kind of writing you do (for clients, creative, etc.), though there are fewer sites that offer support. I'd suggest my own but I'm not allowed to!
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@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
yes quitting sometimes is a best option, but not before you know for sure, not before you tried out every possible ways that is there to try....i am going to see if writing is it for me...as it is a secret passion of mine...i wanted to become a writer and i still love reading those books that have inspired me to write..i may not become just like them, but at least i'll have satisfaction that i gave my best to writing and lost the battle (God forbid)after a fair fight.
@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
wow thanks spikes, its really nice of you..i guess i would go for second and third option, they sound better for me and my career as a writer. Yes, first option sucks, now that i think about it..
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@laken02 (3066)
• United States
7 Apr 12
you know, i like to write and i use to think i was pretty good in high school and ok now and i have tryed and tryed to join online sites that you can make money writing like hubpages, and others. i tryed them all and they all rejected me but one (experience project) i would think my artices was really good and i would be excited and then get told it was not good enough.. so i finaly stoped wasting my time on it..some of them told me it was my bad spelling which im aware of and trying to stop.. and one even told me it was copyed and not my own writing and i was so mad becasue i did not copy that article.. so that was the line for me.. if mylot aint enough for you, try to go to experience project i actual loved that site, but i get paid better here in mylot so i gave it up.. and only visit on occasion..they pay with rewards i think.. i never got paid there but i did recieve coupons for my good work for free food.. so it is still a nice site aand they have all these different groups you can make or join about everything you can think of i love to go to there religious groups and post there i miss that, and if i can fix my schedule i will go more often.. and as soon as i started they gave me trophies for my good writings.. i loved that part.. i earned quite a few.. but for me i have tryed every site on the intenet and mylot wins hands down.. so now i dont even waste time searching as for me i have my quota here and time is money.. i cant count the wasted hours i use to spend on just surfing and then my friend said just make mylot work for you , you can do it and so one day i did but it took me letting all the otehr bull go and concentrating on just mylot and get my quota in.. but i will say with mylot you dont need a quota i only have what works for me.. but do quality posts as well one liners are not the best way to respond.. to do good here it is a mix of the two.. and its all about timing for me and fitting it into my schedule im lucky i dont have to work..so i have lots of free time.. so dont waste your time worring about those lame site rejecting your work.. put it to good use her or at experience project where you will get rewards not rejections.. take care
@salma07 (639)
• India
7 Apr 12
Laken, you sound just like me,i was good at writing in my school days too that is why i came here, i mean online, to write. But, i am still in my early stage of writing and have low confident, i think i need something, as Else22 pointed out, i think i need practice... Yes, i have to agree with you mylot is lot more safer and easy to earn compared to other, at least here they give a reason to why the article got rejected...I earned better here and made so many friend in just few days..this place rocks
@egram09 (78)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Just do not lose hope. Always keep in mind that there's a rainbow after the rain. Meaning, whatever rejection you might get, just accept it as if you don't bother, instead use it as a tool to strive more. Make use of it as your guide that next time you'll do better. There will be no harm in trying for the second third and so on chances. Do not lose confidence on what you wrote.
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
That's good to hear. Just don't be shy to ask for opinions of other people or your workmates for you to develop your skills as a good writer.
@salma07 (639)
• India
6 Apr 12
Thanks egram for your support...it would be nice to know what is the problem in my article so that i can improve it...i even asked my freelance work providers to comment on my style which they generously agreed to...
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
6 Apr 12
I wrote two articles for Yahoo contributor and one got published on their website Voices. The other got rejected but that's o.k . You should keep writing and submitting stories practice makes perfect as they say. You may get more rejections and accepted stories but if you really like writing then keep on writing and be happy with the stories that get accepted.
@salma07 (639)
• India
7 Apr 12
Thanks ecaron for the comment..by the way what is Voices? i am quiet curious about it..can you explain more about it
@else22 (4317)
• India
7 Apr 12
A useful post,salma.First of all,I would like to reassure you that your English is good and a little more practice would make you perfect.Don't think that that your article was rejected due to poor quality of language.Good English is a plus point with you.Congrats. My mother tongue is Hindi and I like to write in my mother tongue.Last year I wrote an article for Triond,the famous online article writing site.My article was accepted and got published,but could not attract sufficient number of views.So I could not earn from it. Earlier I had written an article for a Hindi magazine.It was rejected.I was depressed,but went on trying to write for famous and quality Hindi magazines.And then a time came when my articles started being accepted and published in noted Hindi magazines.They were widely praised also. The same thing I would like to suggest you.Don't get depressed if your contribution is rejected once.Go on writing no matter how depressed and downbeat you are feeling.Never let negative feelings get the better of you.Ultimately you will win.I assure you.....Cheers!
@salma07 (639)
• India
7 Apr 12
Thanks for this really nice and inspiring comment else22..so you are a Hindi writer that is so cool, unfortunately i dont know how to read Hindi but its ok, i am sure you are great writer...What kind of article do you write, how do you get inspired? These are two major things that are bothering me...i guess my article got rejected because i was uninspired, you need some flow and rhythm in an article, i am serious about my career as a writer..but up til now i haven't had any training or anything in this area..since you are an accomplished writer, i'd like to hear from you a lot..happy mylotting
@derek_a (10874)
6 Apr 12
I have been writing (part time) for around 15 years now and have had many rejections. It is part of the work as a writer. What I generally do is first of all look through my article and see if I make it any better in any way - maybe add more information or re-word some of it. If I cannot, then I may submit it to some other places and if it keeps come back, I will then dump it and move on. I remember my writing teacher saying that she could "paper the walls" with her rejection slips and as writers we need to develop a "thick skin". It is much easier now with the internet submissions. I used to have to pay postage + return postage to submit to publishers, so rejection got to be quite expensive in those days. If you love writing, all I can suggest is that you do it for the love. Always keep moving forward and keep improving where you can, and it will work out.. _Derek
@salma07 (639)
• India
6 Apr 12
Thanks Derek, it is hard to see your first rejection letter but i guess i should sallow and move on to next thing...yes i am looking at my article and trying to make it better than before...thanks a lot for your response
@sid556 (30964)
• United States
5 Apr 12
Yes, you should pick yourself up and brush off and try again. You may have to try several times but each time your writing skills will be improving. Once your article is accepted then you will know that it was well written and of high quality and you will feel so good about yourself. Rejection can be tough, I know but you have to look at the reasons why it may have been rejected and learn from it. Also remind yourself that they were not rejecting YOU, they were rejecting your article.
@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
Thanks sid, that was very helpful. yes you are right about them just rejecting my article and not me...that is a very positive attitude..thanks a lot you guys rock!!!!!
5 Apr 12
Well why did they reject your article? Was it because of grammar, punctuation or spelling errors? Did your subject matter not match what the site was looking for? Was the structure and organisation of the article appropriate? Don't be disheartened by rejection or take it as an entirely negative thing. Take the criticism and use it to improve your writing in the future. Going to sites with lower standards are easier but it won't help you improve and you tend to earn less in the long run. Birdie -
@salma07 (639)
• India
6 Apr 12
Hi Natasha, i have been wondering about these stuffs, ever since i got that rejection email from the website...all it said was the article was not up to standard what would that mean? i have no idea about the reason why it was rejected so i decided to take matters into my own hands and do what is necessary..i am busy "supposedly preparing" for my exams but well..lets say i am busy with my exam...so i am thinking of doing some research on some of the grammar website and try to find out what exactly is wrong with my article..i would give up on that one easily, i worked so hard on that so i want it to be published..lets see how well this strategy works
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
5 Apr 12
HI salma07 yes by all means if you want to write then keep doing it. There are a few good check for quality online to use. I like grammarly but you do have to pay for the service. But my ratings went up when using them. Not sure what company you went through some are very high standard while others may rate you harshly and the client gives you an excellent rating. Thats when confusion sets in for me. Keep writing it will become easier for you Oh and I see you are fairly new welcome to Mylot!
@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
hi marie2052, thanks a lot for your help, yes i heard about grammarly, it is a good website but it just points mistakes out for free that is fine with me...humm yes it is hard in the online writing isnt it? Yes i am new to online money making itself, mylot is one of my early findings, and i am thanking my stars for it...its a great site with lot of opportunity and fun....
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Allow some time to deal with the rejection. It's like recovering from a wound. It's inevitable to feel the pain but you know that in a few days its gonna get healed. But you need to learn the art of acceptance. Things happen. What hurt you could strengthen you. So just keep on writing. In the process you'll learn the flow of the job and take time to review why your work has been rejected so you'll be able to avoid committing the same mistake again. Writers do have moods. If you don't feel like it let it pass and proceed once your writing mood returned back.
@salma07 (639)
• India
6 Apr 12
Hi AJ nice tips, thanks a lot for the suggestion, i am actually letting it sink in, and i have an exam to concentrate on so i am not going to think about it for sometime, but that doesn't mean i am letting it go that easily.
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
It doesn't matter if you're shy or introvert. You're just going to write so that doesn't matter. If you are experiencing rejection, motivate yourself, maybe you can take a break for a short while and get inspiration. Then start writing again. Don't give up. Every writer experiences rejection. Everyone does.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Acceptance and take it in a positive way.Once you accept the rejection, you have to look it in a positive way.Try to see the mistakes and things that need to be change in your article, revised it and try to passed it again.Who knows, maybe it could be accepted the next time around. Don't easily give up,try and try and always give your best shots so don't have regret in the end. Good luck and God bless.
@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
thanks ardoy. i will try again with that same article, maybe with another site see if i am not a good enough writer or loosy writer..anyway i am a writer that is cemented in my mind...i'll give it a try
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Apr 12
hi, as for me I felt same as you felt but I did not stop trying because after all, those writers did not born with this skills, they worked and gained it, so that situation made me angry and forced me to learn more about topics, books and blogs and learn from who knows better than me, that is life, learning all the way, some of the sites also are racists, they accept some places or some religions. so just keep searching
@salma07 (639)
• India
5 Apr 12
humm, hard to accept the last line lifes, but yea maybe that is true or maybe not...but thanks for the suggestion..i am going to learn all the things that is there to writing and give it a 100% before i even think about quitting....thank you all for your wonderful suggestion...i am ever grateful to you all
• United States
6 Apr 12
Yes,you should try again and see what happens. If it gets rejected don't go back..
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
If they reject your articles, fine just do what you really love to do online and I think it will the nice way to deal with your rejection...don't mind about it. Not every body is perfect
@stanley777 (9349)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Yes, you should definitely try again, maybe it will accepted later on. You can practice more in your writing too. And it would be very rewarding after all your hard work when you article will be accepted.. Good luck.
@bostonphil (4459)
• United States
8 Apr 12
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again, so it is said. That is a good idea. Keep trying and re-trying. I am new to online writing. I have had some limitted success but also some rejections. Today, I got a real painful one from a site that i like. I not only had my article rejected but I was told that if I submitted this type of stuff again, I might get booted off the site. I felt that it was a really good article. I was given the reason why it could not be published but I do not necessarily agree with what the editor said. I have had my feelings hurt more than once by this site but I like the site so I will try again. Mostly everyone who writes or does anything else creative gets rejected. I read of some very famous author who was rejected by many publishers before one took a chance on her or him. I think it was the author of Harry Potter but I might be wrong. It was someone who is now very famous and very successful.
• Canada
5 Apr 12
I think you should definitely try again. Do not let this rejection let you down and don't feel dissapointed. Some of these websites have really high standards and want high quality articles. You just need to try again harder and with practice you'll only get better. So, don't give up and you'll succeed...
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Just continue what you love doing which is writing and someday, you'll get there. Don't look at failure or rejection as the end of your road. Look at it as an opportunity for you to even strive harder to reach your goals in life. Even world champions had their own experiences in failure at one point in their lives. But such failures did not stop them from getting up, working on their weaknesses, and finally winning the gold. So keep dreaming and aim high my friend. Reach for the stars.