Malicious Intent....
@Glitznglitter (389)
Canada
April 6, 2012 6:49pm CST
Were friends for life, at least that's what they used to say. Always doing things together and telling each other everything about our past, present and dreams for the future.
Only one was keeping a tally in their mind one that in time they could use against the other. Telling lies and spreading gossip that was inappropriate and malicious!!
Going to the extreme of calling the authorities and trying to have the other person charged, telling totally one sided scenerios to make themselves appear like the other person was a complete mental moron.
How do you deal with this type of person? You can try and walk away but they find ways of contacting you, email, friends, facebook, mylot, your place of work, local restaurants, you name it they seem to know where you are.
What can one do?
6 responses
@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
7 Apr 12
You need to do everything possible to lose contact from this person and dissapear for a while. I recommed blocking them from your social networks, and if the phone is a major contact, just screen the calls and never call back, or delete texts without even opening them from this person. If it is still bad, I would recommend changing your phone numbers. You may need to disappear so if that is the case take your carbon footprint of the internet. Deactivate your accounts that she knows you are a part of and start again as a private user with a different name. Hopefully, over time they will get the point and will you leave you alone.
@Glitznglitter (389)
• Canada
7 Apr 12
Thank you my friend isn't on any of the social networking sites in an open forum situation. Anywhere that the other person can be blocked is, and anywhere she can't be blocked from my friend isn't a member of.
The only thing now is that she's really untrusting because of what this person has done to her moreso than prior.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Oh my! What a mean person! That's totally not being a friend at all! What's the motive for all the crazy things he did? Was it revenge, jealousy or he's just seriously psychologically disturbed? I think you should get a restraining order against him. It can protect you and give a record that he's a menace to your well-being. Take care!
@Glitznglitter (389)
• Canada
7 Apr 12
Some things according to my friends lawyer can't be proven beyond a doubt to convince a court. You know it's the person doing it but hard to prove. At this time I have no idea what the motivation is behind it all I just know that its definately unwarranted at this time.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
7 Apr 12
Wow, Glitznglitter, what a horrible situation; sounds like you have a stalker. I do not know how to handle your particular situation but maybe you could survey your own life to see if there are ways to foil the other person's attacks. Do you have the type of cellphone that others can gps? If so, get a simpler one that will not be so vunerable. So much about one can be found out through apps. Have you blocked this person on social networking sites, and alerted the admins that you are being targeted by this person? Are you keeping proof of being harrassed? This may be important later if you have to get the authorities involved. Be careful and stay calm and clear-headed and always remain alert; pay attention to who, what, where, when and how, plus document, document, document. Use your phone only when necessary. Be careful and good luck resolving your situation.
@Glitznglitter (389)
• Canada
7 Apr 12
Actually it's happened to a really close friend of mine. Totally at a loss as to how to handle the situation, and has gone as far as printing emails and different emails and whatever and brought them to a lawyer who is advising her of what to do next. It's just hard knowing she's such a great person to have to deal with a situation as this one.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
18 Apr 12
Nothing worse than a "friend" with malicious intent. I am one that has separated myself from most people that might even be that kind of person. I have a personal life and a professional life. I work very hard to keep these separate. I guess my personal life would actually fall in the category of a private life..lol...I am very private and tend to keep people across a certain line. I am very social when I am out in public but that is where it ends for me. I am super funny about the people I have in my home or personal life. Experience? Raising? I don't know exactly...just kind of the way I ended up...lol.
Take care and try to get rid of those friends that are worse than enemies. Life is too short.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
28 Apr 12
That would be very annoying. If that kept happening. I would definitely consider talking with the authorities about stalking. Because that is what the person is doing. And if it wouldn't stop soon I would definitely get a restraining order. People who do things like that need to get a life of their own.
@madonna2012 (62)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
i know im a bit naive, but did your friend tried to talk to that friend who becomes an enemy? what is it really about?
